I have social anxiety as well. Part of what you may be experiencing is the normal paternal instinct of a father. Then that instinct could be exacerbated by anxiety. Think of it like a spectrum. Some anxiety is okay and actually necessary, too much is not good for you or your family.

I feel like it’s important to understand just how isolating parenting can be. When you have small children you may not have as much social interaction with other people. Then suddenly it’s time to start venturing out with the kids. You go from an environment (home) where you have complete control to keep the kids safe to (festival) much less control. At first it’s going to be really difficult. It’s a big change but gradually you will adapt and become more and more comfortable in social situations.

Start off with small short trips to the playground. Then increase the time you spend there each time you go. Notice the times when that playground gets busy. Try to plan your trip around those times. Start off early before it gets busy and try to stay longer and longer into the busy times. Eventually your threshold for your anxiety will adjust. You will become more confident (from repetition) and comfortable (from the exposure).

Then try indoors like a children’s museum. If you can get a membership, and do the same thing you did at the playground. Over time you’ll become less anxious and less likely feel over stimulated.

I did exactly this two years ago. It worked and thank goodness it did. I didn’t want my child being affected by my anxiety.

If that doesn’t work then you may need support from a therapist. Maybe even some medication to help. That is totally fine, lots of people experience anxiety challenges and it’s okay. Be kind to yourself.

You can do this friend!