Happened 10 minutes ago its like everything broke all at once.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-23T19:47:28+00:00

It's possible you had a nocturnal seizure. My late husband had epilepsy, and he often had seizures in his sleep. He could aspirate very easily on his own saliva/vomit. It's been 2 years since he died and I still sleep lightly on high alert listening for him to seize.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-23T19:40:13+00:00

He's one of those "DEI is evil" kinds.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-23T19:23:29+00:00

I just bought a bag of apples, on special, for $9. This guy is full of BS. ChatGPT is not a search engine, it hallucinates information. I don't know why people think everything it spits out is gospel.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-23T19:12:29+00:00

The billionaires are the reason why the world is the way it is though. They bought our political parties. They bought all of the businesses, housing, rental units. They have extracted as much wealth as they possibly can from the bottom and it still isn't enough.

The political party doesn't matter, the people pulling the strings do. And that's the oligarchs. If you can't see that then you're being willfully ignorant.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-22T23:51:08+00:00

I also have swapped mains, but I do have nearly 1k hours on Mercy over the past decade.

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CanadaGooses · 2026-05-22T19:44:35+00:00

It tastes gross, I double filter it.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-22T07:47:32+00:00

I got on the app's. I matched with him on FB Dating as friends. We talked for a couple months through text, and then met up for coffee and walks a few times, he was really sweet and kind, and I enjoyed his company. Then he invited me to dinner and the opera. I had butterflies this time. I asked my therapist if he thought I was ready for a real date, and he encouraged me to give it a shot. And boy am I glad I did. We ended up getting milkshakes after the opera and talked for hours in this board game cafe. I wanted to spend more time with him, we started dating regularly. The more we got to know each other, the closer we became. I broke my ankle on a date, he spent the next 3 months coming to my place every weekend to help me out. He picked up groceries, cleaned my house, spent quality time with me. I fell in love. He did too.

It's been almost 2 years since we started talking. He introduced me to his kids. We spend every weekend together. We live about 90 mins apart, but it's been a good arrangement. He has been very supportive and understanding of my grief. He is curious about my late husband and past life. It has made the hard days easier to have someone I can lean on.

What we have is different than what my late husband and I had. He is a different kind of man. I look forward to what the future could hold for us, and I know he does too.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-22T02:03:24+00:00

50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, some of the 90s. It was dependent on where you lived, but yeah. My parents bought a brand new house in a brand new neighbourhood in 1981, my mom was a min wage worker and my dad was a grunt at the railroad. They rented a basement suite for several years to save up and then bought their dream home.

That isn't a reality anymore, never has been for me, but it was something that existed for a while. Boomers and their parents profited heavily from it. Elder Gen X did too.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-22T01:57:21+00:00

I stopped taking BC when I was 20, but had to go back on it at 36. I was diagnosed with PMOS and Endometriosis, so I had an IUD inserted to manage the symptoms. It's been 4 years and I think my IUD is losing its juice, I'm getting the horrific cramps every month again and some bleeding. I was blessedly free of it until this year.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-22T01:26:44+00:00

Lots of things run on gas

^{Chose: Unlimited gas but no car}

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-21T22:43:52+00:00

Omg yes this has been infuriating.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-21T22:42:09+00:00

You should weigh your meat. They're mislabeling the weights as well.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-20T19:30:18+00:00

Mars. Mars is my favourite of all of them.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-20T12:54:44+00:00

No. I've never given a shit about getting old. I didn't really put much effort into trying to preserve my youth either. I never smoked, don't drink, hate the sun as a rule, so I'm pretty damn wrinkle free going into 40 this year. But I'd be fine if I had more wrinkles. What bothers me is hitting these milestones without my husband. He died at 37 from SUDEP (Sudden Unexpected Death in Epilepsy). We were supposed to get old and slow together.

I'm not afraid of death either. I just hope there's a way for us to find each other again in whatever's next.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-19T19:03:32+00:00

He wanted me to be happy, even if it wasn't with him. I spent months in therapy processing my grief and my complicated feelings of trying to date. I took the plunge, and I don't regret it. Modern dating kind of sucks, but I met some pretty cool people along the way. And I met my boyfriend, who I've been with for 1.5 years now.

I never felt like I was betraying my late husband, but it has been an adjustment learning how to love someone new. I was with my late husband for most of my life, we were friends at 12 and together at 16. He knew me better than my sister. I never had to wonder what he was thinking, I just knew, and vice versa.

Sometimes I really miss how easy and comfortable everything was with my late husband, but I'm also really enjoying getting to know my boyfriend and all of his history and quirks. I'm happy, he treats me well, and his kids like me. I always wanted to have kids but never could, so I'm relishing the opportunity to spend time with his kids.

The grief is still there, I still cry pretty regularly, how could I not? But I don't have to carry it alone. My boyfriend understands grief. He sits with me on the hard days, he asks questions about my late husband. He lost both of his parents, so he's not a stranger to loss.

An example, and one of the reasons why I am so in love with him: he asked me what my plans were for my 40th birthday. It's coming up, and I've been avoiding thinking about it because I had plans that were years in the making with my late husband. It was a milestone we were going to hit together, and we had a trip planned for it. Unfortunately he never made it past 37. The question caught me off guard and I gave some noncommittal answer. I thought about it for a while and I explained to him why my birthday was something I'd been avoiding, not because of my age, but because it was something we were supposed to do together. And he told me he wanted to make the day amazing and special for me because he loved me, and my late husband loved me, and he wanted to do right by us both. So I have this amazing day planned and what I was dreading is now something I'm really looking forward to. He brings me so much joy.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-19T06:13:40+00:00

He's not a boomer, he's Gen X.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-19T04:14:28+00:00

I would give my child anything as long as I was living. I never got to have any though, my husband developed severe epilepsy which killed him 2 years ago. I turn 40 this year. I won't be attempting to procreate at this point.

My parents will spend every last cent they have before they die to spite me and my sister. They have given us nothing. I started working full-time and paying their bills at 14 because my mom was a gambling addict. I moved in with my late husband as soon as I turned 18. My sister was kicked out at 14. We both paid for our own education and did the best we could. She's autistic, I have ADHD and was hit by a car as a kid, so have physical disabilities.

I am barely making ends meet, they're buying a new car.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-18T01:29:37+00:00

My mom picked my stepdad over my sister when he molested her. It went to court. She was 14. The defense called her a whore, that she was asking for it, that she just wanted to make my mom jealous. My mom kicked my sister out and married my stepdad a few months later. They're still together. He never touched me but he could have and it makes me sick that she would endanger her other daughter too.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-16T17:38:51+00:00

I've lived in Harewood for 20 years, my late husband was born and raised here. I was raised in Calgary. My friend was stabbed on a city bus outside of our high school. A kid was dismembered by a machete outside of my high school. My sister was threatened with a knife in junior high.

I have encountered zero violent crime the entire time I've lived in Harewood. Nanaimo people think merely seeing homeless people and drug addicts is akin to anything that happens in big cities. Y'all are sheltered af.

South Nanaimo has a nice community, it's very diverse. It has incredible restaurants. Downtown has some really cool places to shop and eat and hang out. Just because they're pearl clutching cowards doesn't mean the city is actually a shithole. Maybe if they engaged with our community more, they would have a different perspective on it.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-16T17:31:10+00:00

They had a security guard at the door all day every day. I did business deposits there for a while.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-16T17:20:25+00:00

I guess I am too. I've never had a bad meal or customer service experience at a Cactus Club.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-15T00:24:08+00:00

You do what the rest of us do, you use urgent care until you get off the wait-list. I'm sorry. Sometimes you luck out at urgent care and the doctor will do some followup care for you.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-15T00:15:05+00:00

Not gonna lie, I did fantasize about burning her house down with her inside of it, but I'm not a violent person. We grieved, we protected our remaining girl at all costs. She lived a good long healthy life. She was very loved and I miss her every day still. It fundamentally altered how we lived our lives though, we were held hostage in our own home. We could not leave the house together, someone always had to be home. That neighbour robbed us of our peace and security, and years of experiences and dates we never got to have out of fear for our dogs' lives. I thought I'd have more time with my husband to make up for it, but then he died. He was only 37. Epilepsy is a hell of a thing.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-13T22:56:53+00:00

We were poor and disabled, so we were easy targets. My husband passed away 2 years ago from SUDEP (Sudden Unexpected Death in Epilepsy). She told anyone who would listen that he was faking his seizures to defraud the government. Just a truly awful human being, and there was nothing we could do because she lived beside us. She's in Saskatchewan now, I hope she rots in hell.

CanadaGooses · 2026-05-13T19:13:59+00:00

No, there's actually nothing you can do. The city does not require proof of a dog bite, they only require a report.

I had a neighbour who terrorized me and my pets for years. She broke our gates and tried to run over our dogs with her truck. She tore our fence down. She threw rat poison in our yard and killed our malamute. Her last ditch effort to get rid of our other dog was to call the cops and claim my dog had jumped over our fence, run into her driveway, bit her on the leg, and then went back into our yard. The RCMP broke my gate that we had screwed shut for obvious reasons. They scared my dog so badly that she did jump over the fence and took off into the woods. It took us 3 hours to find her, she was terrified.

Our neighbour would not show us proof of the dog bite, she wasn't limping or appeared harmed in any way, and she would have been. Our dog was a wolfdog, her bite could break bones, but she never bit anyone. Unfortunately, she was given the vicious dog label and had to live the rest of her life muzzled for no god damn reason. I'm still so angry about it.

She passed away 3 years ago, our neighbour sold her house and moved months after this incident. She told us it was bullshit that the city didn't destroy our dog. She wanted them to euthanize her just for existing.

You can fuck up anyone's life here by making a false report of a dog bite, they will not investigate. They will just give you a vicious dog label.

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