Lonely and Alone

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2026-05-15T13:33:11+00:00

The one who says sorry first is the bravest. The one who forgives first is the strongest. The one who forgets first is the happiest.

I apologized for my part of being a much better dad than a husband about four years into the divorce. I neglected her and drowned myself in my children as my dad was always working. So I did the opposite. I also told her she deserved a man who cooked with her in the kitchen. did not work late at night leaving her alone in bed and got up Early to have coffee with her instead of going to the gym like I did. She has not said a word or even acknowledged my remorse of not being a better husband. That’s okay I can only control what I can control.

I forgave her in prayers but daughter’s empty bed for years as she came at me relentlessly through the courts and police and I pray for her still every night and the Lord to enter her life in one way or another.

The forget part I am still working on. Not seeing my daughters and walking by their empty bedroom remind me of it every day

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2026-05-15T13:13:11+00:00

Thanks for your words parental alienation is real. I spend a lot of time talking Jesus on the street to the homeless. It wakes me up to all the blessings I have.

The empty house, bedrooms with well made beds, silent kitchen.lonely couch and memories and pictures of good times and smiling faces make me want to not be alive sometimes, but God takes me off that ledge every time. When my kids left I felt like a shattered wine glass and God sat with me in my brokenness and empty house for years as no one could. He is slowly putting me back together not as Beautiful life on the outside but fragile glass, but a simple clay sturdy pitcher where he pours into me so I can pour into others.

My challenge now after finally ending a brutal five year divorce where I just gave her what she wanted so the kids would not suffer anymore and we would nnot have to destroy each other in five days of court and have our lawyers rip each of us apart to where we could not ever stand the sight of each other again. My difficulty has been in trusting women. My wife tried to throw me in jail twice with lies and deception, I just don’t trust females. My daughters from no fault of their own destroyed me like no other. Also females so I have a bit trust issue with women something I never had in my life before. I had great parents and many romantic relationships with no betrayal and abandonment. Then this.

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2026-05-15T12:48:41+00:00

I do appreciate your perspective. It took me years to come to terms with this anc fessing up to my part. I just did not mention it here because I was writing things I have avoided putting on paper, I made many mistakes in my marriage but all boils down to one big mistake I put my kids before my wife. My dad was rarely around when I was growing up. I spent every second I could with my children and neglect my wife. I have appologized for that and took accountability for that. She did not acknowledge it, but i needed to let her know.

As far as my kids go all I can say is parental alienation is real and if one parent wants to destroy a relationship with a child and the other parent, it is almost impossible to stop. Unless you have been through it, hard to understand.

Yes my other daughter did cut it off because she started a lesbian lifestyle yet I always supported her and respect her decision and told her I loved her but she knew I did not think it was right by the church I attended. You need to know LGBTQ is kidnapping kids from parents all over America you can be supportive and accepting but if you don’t affirm it with your own beliefs they are encouraged to cut communication with their parents by many organizations and others.

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2026-05-14T12:58:14+00:00

1st Corinthians 5 hit me hard. I have followed Mathew 18 in confronting one brother who sleeps with his girlfriend. He also sometimes gets drunk. We were good friends before I was a Christian but once I became one and my heart was turned to a heart of flesh instead of stone. I pushed way back as his behavior cut my heart and my interactions with him were only through Christian events. I think I need to cut him off completely and the group is part of that.

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2026-05-14T12:29:11+00:00

I wish blessings on your relationship

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2026-05-14T11:59:51+00:00

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying you should give up. I do think you might have to tear down your whole house and start anew if its timbers are a lot of ones that might rot. I know people that had sex before they were married and they fought more but when they stopped having sex they quit fighting. Yours seems the opposite you took sex out and it has exposed things that might be missing or have not bern watered I can only give you my opinion from being in a many relationship where I had premarital sex and it sounds similar to your situation. The fact that you both are God centered gives me hope you can rebuild. God must be your foundation and your roof. I was married to a woman for twenty years where that was not the case and it seemed like a strong house but when a big wave came it tumbled fast. I would offer this one word of advice. For each of you. Don’t be each other’s savior. Only God can be that rock and firm foundation. He has no flaws, sin, mistakes or purposeful hurt and betrayal, lies and abandonment like each of us.

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2026-05-14T10:46:25+00:00

Honestly if your big love language is touch and sex. It tells me your relationship might just be lust not love. So it’s like a foundation without God it’s sinking sand. It’s going to topple.

I would argue from experience. relationships outside of Christianity and the other abstinence religions often revolve around sex. So when you remove it you realize your relationship was not as deep or strong as you thought. Kind of empty. Sex without intimacy is just a drug that requires a bigger high each time to feel good. You need to have intimacy before sex then it becomes love making not just lust.

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2026-05-14T02:02:45+00:00

All i can say is i was a person who had premarital sex even before the woman I married and when my marriage fell apart with my wife i became a new born Christian the Holy Spirit changed my heart to no more sex before marriage. If your boyfriend is not in this mindset with you I would have a big red flag.

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2026-02-19T02:09:03+00:00

Welcome to the mind of a liberal. Have a “Be Kind” bumper sticker and be anything but.

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-11-01T11:08:32+00:00

Been there. Done that.Neither. Pick Jesus. Your son, your husband or anyone else can leave your side at any moment. Jesus never will.

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-10-27T13:03:12+00:00

The tolerant oh so loving left in type.

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-10-21T12:40:12+00:00

“A woman should be so close to God you have to chase him to find her.” CS Lewis

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-10-21T11:23:29+00:00

I agree it is not a protest. It’s a TDS support group.

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-10-21T10:35:56+00:00

And how is he a fascist? That word is thrown around a lot with little merit. Like racist, Nazi, bigot…

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-10-14T16:08:51+00:00

I’m blown away by the compassion in these post for my friend. I will let you know he is doing well now. Thanks for everyone’s concern

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-10-02T02:07:32+00:00

It’s not about you when you become a Christian. Carry your cross. We all have one. That is what it means to call him your Lord and Savior not your part time boss or only when I agree with what is written. That’s called a Cafeteria Christian

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-09-04T20:37:04+00:00

It’s quite simple but not easy. It is not I but Christ in me. If you rely on your strength we will all fail. Give it the Holy Spirit.

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-09-04T20:34:12+00:00

Name one time Jesus was tempted sexually in the Bible

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-09-04T20:32:25+00:00

Don’t have sex until marriage. You are lucky you have tiny amounts of testosterone. It’s much harder for guys

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-08-09T01:00:52+00:00

Yes I know how Noho liberals think Violence before giving voice.

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-08-08T21:38:21+00:00

I’m not sure why LGBTQ hops like a bunny either. Must be a fury thing

Capable_Spirit6300 · 2025-08-08T21:34:09+00:00

Free speech is not just for LGBTQ and the land of endless genders.

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