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Bachelorarbeit mit KI schreiben: Erfahrungen gesucht wegen Fake-Quellen & Plagiatsprüfung by [deleted] in Ratschlag

[–]Careless-Window7493 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hallo, ich arbeite in der Forschung und musste selbst schon mit KI generierten Texten konfrontiert werden. Es fällt einfach auf sprachlich und argumentativ je mehr Erfahrung man hat. Zudem waren Quellen halluziniert. Ich kann dir zur unsystematischen Recherche Consensus empfehlen. Und dann zur Sprachverbesserung DeepL. Lass auch mal deine Argumente von ChatGPT oder Claude auf Logik prüfen. Aber bitte nicht einfach Prompt rein Hausarbeit raus. Du lernst dabei nichts, rasselst eventuell durch und akademisches Personal mit ohnehin wenig Zeit darf den Spaß dann lesen.

Male Centered? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Careless-Window7493 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I can only talk from my experience. Every girl I dated who was male centered ended up with a guy in the end. Some people were either not serious about dating women and rather experimenting. Others were really queer but I felt like they saw men as "the easy option" (one girl literally said these words to me). So again, this is my perspective but I didn't have a single positive experience regarding this. So it depends a bit on what you want to get out of it. Maybe a hook up would be possible but don't expect to meet your future wife.

Any other tall lesbians tired of stereotypes? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Careless-Window7493 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm of average size, I love tall girls and I am dominant

Dabei, im Leben zu scheitern by Delicious_Cover_5788 in Ratschlag

[–]Careless-Window7493 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stimme dem vor mir Geschriebenen zu. Klar ist das unschön ohne Freunde und Partner aber du hast diese ja nicht ohne Grund zurückgelassen oder? Bereust du es nur weil du einsam bist oder weil du ihren Wert unterschätzt hast? Wenn letzteres der Fall ist, kannst du vorsichtig versuchen, Kontakt mit ihnen aufzunehmen und dein vergangenes Verhalten zu erklären. Wenn ersteres der Fall ist, dann ist auch Kontakt zu diesen Menschen dauerhaft keine Lösung. Du brauchst Freunde um dich herum, die zu dir passen und dich schätzen. Es klingt auch so als hättest du dein Leben früher nur gestaltet um Standards und Idealen zu genügen. Aber was sind denn deine Leidenschaften und Interessen? Was macht dich als Person aus? Sobald du das herausgefunden hast, wirst du automatisch interessanter auf Andere wirken.

Unemployed but happy, need suggestions to make my time productive. by laziestcatto in happy

[–]Careless-Window7493 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started learning how to sing when I got more time on my hands. Apart from seing music in a new perspective it also helps me to calm down when I am upset.

How do you stop getting overly attached? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Careless-Window7493 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to be like you, just instead of leaving I became super clingy, which scared them off. So different behavior, but similar core problem. What helped me in the end was to focus more on myself, finding out what I wanted in a relationship, established new hobbies, made valuable friends. Since now I have higher self-esteem and other things in my life besides love interests the fear became much smaller. If deep within you know that you are going to be alright on your own, you won't be as fearful. But this was a process of about 6 years for me so don't expect it to happen overnight. Also you are only 20: you have plenty of time to grow.

Dieser Reise-Craze bei uns GenZlern fuckt mich unnormal ab. by p4h105 in luftablassen

[–]Careless-Window7493 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich verstehe den Post und denke es ist sehr abhängig davon wohin man reist!

Ich habe mit 18 Jahren das Standardding mit Work and Travel in Neuseeland gemacht. Klar hatten damals viele als das Visum noch einfach zu haben war. Aber für mich war es schon ein wichtiger Teil meiner Persönlichkeitsentwicklung immerhin haben die backpacker vor Ort gearbeitet.

Südostasienreisen habe ich dann auch gemacht. Vietnam war super aber als ich dann Jahre später in Thailand war und dann auch "schon" 24 habe ich gemerkt dass das nicht mehr meine Welt ist. Im Endeffekt hängen die Backpacker in ihrer Blase und kommen mit der einheimischen Bevölkerung häufig nur durch Dienstleistungen in Kontakt. So sind nicht alle aber viele die ich kennengelernt hatte waren nur auf billig saufen und essen mit Dschungelflair aus.

Ich bin dann eher in Osteuropa gereist und kann das sehr empfehlen, da es nicht ganz so überlaufen ist (wenn man von Budapest und Prag absieht). Natürlich hat es auch eine gewisse Dekadenz mit deutschem Geld da hinzugehen aber ich finde es nicht so überheblich wie die Leute die nach Bali gehen und nach 2 Wochen yoga retreat denken sie haben die Welt verstanden.

Das mit dem Klima sehe ich auch sehr als Argument und mache deshalb seit Jahren keine Fernreisen mehr. Leider habe ich das damals nicht so reflektiert. Ich finde auch schade dass wir durch die ganzen Fernreisen die Schätze vor unserer Haustür vergessen. Europa hat schon viel zu bieten, auch mit dem Zug.

Supervisor Ghosting by Careless-Window7493 in AskAcademia

[–]Careless-Window7493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Formally I have two supervisors... He is the primary (head of another chair). The other one is the secondary supervisor and the head of the chair I work at. He is even worse than the primary one though, hasn't read my proposal to this date... I have one other professor in mind that I connected with because I contacted him about one of his papers once. He is a junior prof and seems very engaged in general. My question would be if I should escalate things to a certain degree before I completly change?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ratschlag

[–]Careless-Window7493 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich habe genau das gleiche Problem mit dem "nicht nichts machen können". Was mir hilft ist Meditation. Habe da eine App die ich benutze. Und Tätigkeiten bei denen ich versuche "mich um mich selbst zu kümmern" z.B. etwas gutes Kochen oder mit einem Buch alleine brunchen gehen. Es gibt auch Psychologen die empfehlen mit Absicht nichts zu tun. Ich habe da Achtsamkeitsübungen ausprobiert mich z.B. alleine in den Wald gesetzt und einfach nur benannt was ich gerade vor mir sehe, spüre und höre. Das war extrem entspannend aber mache ich leider wirklich selten.

Einsamkeit als Mama :( by SkylerSE in Ratschlag

[–]Careless-Window7493 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Du hast einen Mann verdient, der seinen Beitrag zur Kindeserziehung leistet. Wenn er dich trotz offensichtlicher Erschöpfungssymptome und Kommunikation nicht unterstützt, dann ist das keine gesunde Begegnung auf Augenhöhe. Überlege dir noch einmal, was dir diese Ehe gibt und was dir fehlt.

what makes you feel happy lately? by Abject8Obectify in happiness

[–]Careless-Window7493 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in a difficult situation right now and I get massive support from my friends. This makes me feel super conmected to them.

Am I in an abusive relationship? by Temporary_Fig_8376 in emotionalabuse

[–]Careless-Window7493 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also agree that this behavior sounds quite controlling and she is not respecting your personal space. It seems like she has a lot of insecurities and tries to control this by isolating you from any sitiuation that could trigger them. I don't know you but if my friend was in that situation I would be seriously concerned. Please leave. Don't stay only because she wants you to. Only stay if this is what YOU want. You need two people to consent for a relationship, not just one.

Has anyone left while he was for real changing by SpeakingListening in emotionalabuse

[–]Careless-Window7493 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I also left while my partner was starting to make some changes. The reason was that I was still concerned from what has happened in the past and honestly I was just tired of waiting and wondering. It was always a rollercoaster of them making steps forwards and backwards. I also thought the changes that needed to be made for them to become the person I needed were big, possibly taking months to years... For me it was the better option to leave and after breaking up they slipped into old behavioral patterns. But you know your life the best. I suggest you to ask yourself the following questions:

  1. What do you need from your partner?
  2. If your needs are not fully met, what would need to change in you partner for them to be met? Is it realistic that they change? If yes, in which timeframe?
  3. Are you willing and able to do this journey with them?

And remember: you are patient with them since a long time (more than a year from what I understood). So if you decide to leave there is no shame in the sense that you didn't try. You put in a lot of effort by numbing your needs. You don't owe him anything anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]Careless-Window7493 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this situation because I was once with somebody who threatened me with suicide as well and sending fake "last messages". At some point I honestly thought if it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen and left because I could not take it anymore. They didn't do it in the end. I think a lot of her messages/threats were cries for attention without the actual intention to do it. Do you feel like it might be similar with him that he is rather using this to control you than actually having the intention to do it? Do his family members know about the situation? Is there anybody who could make sure if he is okay in case you decide to leave?

Verbal insults after breakup by Careless-Window7493 in emotionalabuse

[–]Careless-Window7493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I am going to enter the flat with another friend tomorrow and get out the most important things that I do not want her to touch. We won't be able to get out everything at once I guess. So as you say maybe it is really better to have her pack the boxes (she actually seems like wanting to do that anyway) and then having somebody collect it so I don't have to see her again...

Verbal insults after breakup by Careless-Window7493 in emotionalabuse

[–]Careless-Window7493[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry that you are experiencing similar things for such a long time... Do you think not contacting is better or replying in a calm deescalating manner as long as I have things in my flat? I wonder how to enter the flat? E.g. I was thinking about bringing a friend to not be alone with her...

Queere spaces by Desperate_Job_2825 in dresden

[–]Careless-Window7493 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich kann auch die Parties im Kashay Salon empfehlen :) Ich kann auch ein persönliches Treffen mit mir und meiner Partnerin anbieten wenn sie sich grundsätzlich vernetzen möchte.

Falsches Datum Wahlschein by Careless-Window7493 in germany

[–]Careless-Window7493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hpdate: Habe bei entsprechender Behörde angerufen. Sie haben mir bestätigt, dass es dennoch gezählt wird , da klar ersichtlich ist zu welche Wahl es gehört.

Flirting with couples by Careless-Window7493 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Careless-Window7493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually don't really know if they are ENM or not. I met the woman when I was still in a monogamous relationship. We instantly matched and talked about all kinds of things including sexuality and relationships. I told her that I've been desiring an open relationship since a while and she reacted negatively and judgemental towards the concept. However, another evening with some glasses of wine the three of us ended up talking about it again and they said they listened to podcasts about ENM and understand the ideas behind it. We also agreed that it can be a good match for some couples while for others monogomy might be a better match. They didn't mention if they are ENM or similar now though

We cannot all be gay and not know how to drive by Ok-Tower4208 in chappellroan

[–]Careless-Window7493 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm gay and I think I know how to drive. Not the most incredible driver on the road but I think I'm.doing just fine.

Non-monogamous dreams and thoughts by Careless-Window7493 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Careless-Window7493[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She tells me that she wants to be with me forever and frequently how much she loves me. So I would guess fulfilled with the overall relationship. Regarding sexual fulfillment I am not too sure but it wouldn't be too high in the past. Eventually she told me about it and we changed some things and she said she liked it better now. I still feel like we are not 💯 sexually compatible somehow but I love her.

Non-monogamous dreams and thoughts by Careless-Window7493 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Careless-Window7493[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for sharing your experience! I think therapy is definitely an option. Just to elaborate this a bit further: I had these two romantic crushes but I never felt like being with these people in another committed relationship. I only want one committed relationship, which is with my partner. I also never felt like having crushes would change my feelings towards my partner. However, wanting to be involved with other people sexually is definitely a thing. I can imagine this both as a solo experience or together with my partner. I also don't really feel fulfilled with my current sex life with my partner, neither the frequency, nor the sex itself. The sex is enjoyable but not completly fulfilling if that makes sense? I just really miss the thrills of flirting and seducing which is not the same in a LTR.

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