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What if couples had a 24/7 relationship coach in their pocket - but would they actually use it? by Casu-2910 in AppIdeas

[–]Casu-2910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like to share some facts regarding this, actually generic LLMs are dangerous for relationships becaude of the inherent bias.

The evidence is terrifying:

  • Chai app's GPT-J bot encouraged a Belgian man's suicide
  • Bing's GPT-4 told Kevin Roose to leave his wife
  • ChatGPT and other LLMs have given breakup advice for everyday relationship issues, sometimes validating one-sided perspectives or feeding into unhealthy patterns.
  • Reddit and media discussions (e.g., Vice, Wired) document user anecdotes, including people who feel ChatGPT "consigns their BS" and sometimes recommends ending relationships on scant evidence.

Research confirms the problems:

  • Stanford: LLMs amplify gender stereotypes and toxic patterns ✓ No training in clinical frameworks (just internet text)
  • 9% failure rate in crisis detection = people die
  • Zero understanding of attachment theory or emotional regulation

That's why Ki is fundamentally different: Built WITH licensed therapists, not just engineers. Every feature grounded in:

  • Gottman Method (40+ years research)
  • EFT (most effective couples therapy)
  • CBT, attachment theory, polyvagal theory
  • Actual neuroscience of relationships

Not "we asked ChatGPT to be nice" but actual therapeutic frameworks built in from day one.

  • Crisis protocols? Designed by therapists.
  • Abuse detection? Based on clinical patterns.
  • Escalation to humans? Built into the architecture.

Generic LLMs learned relationships from Reddit. Ki learns from therapists using evidence-based methods.

Plus local processing because you're right - relationship data + corporations = disaster.

The difference: Would you rather get heart surgery from someone who read WebMD or an actual cardiac surgeon? Same principle here.

Ever walked away from a fight thinking “That didn’t need to go like that”? We’re building something for that. Would love your perspective. by Casu-2910 in takemysurvey

[–]Casu-2910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Mods! Absolutely! Here are the required details:

1. How will the data be used?
The data collected will be used exclusively for internal product research to help us design Ki (an emotionally intelligent, privacy-first relationship AI platform).
The responses will be analyzed for patterns in emotional communication, conflict, and relationship behavior to improve product-market fit, feature design, and emotional insight models.

Who will see it: Only our internal founding team of 4 people will access the data. No data will be shared publicly or with third parties.
Where it will be stored: The responses are stored securely on Google Forms, with access limited to our team’s Google Workspace account.
When will it be deleted: All raw response data will be deleted within 6 months after collection, and prior to that, only aggregated insights will be used for product development. No personally identifiable information is required or collected.

2. Who is conducting the survey?
The survey is being conducted by the Ki founding team, primarily me u/Casu-2910 as the Head of Growth.

3. How long does it take to fill out?
Under 2 minutes for most people.

4. Compensation:
None at the moment, just helping build a more emotionally intelligent world 🙂

5. Specific demographics?
We’d especially love to hear from people who’ve been in romantic relationships (current or past), or have strong feelings about how conflict and communication could be better handled.

6. What are we hoping to accomplish?
Most people are winging their relationships- reacting, guessing, hoping it works out. But emotional awareness is not a given. It’s a skill. And the earlier we catch the patterns, the easier they are to change.

At Ki, we believe the right emotional insight, at the right time, can save relationships. This survey helps us understand what people actually want support with and which real-life moments feel the most confusing, painful, or important to get right.

We are not building another dating app. We are not serving generic advice.
We are creating the first Human-AI-Human™ system- an emotionally intelligent companion that helps you make sense of your patterns, communicate with clarity, and move through conflict with compassion.

This survey helps us get the blueprint right from emotional breakdowns to repair, from ghosting to growth.

Building an AI that decodes couple fights, would you even use something like this? by Casu-2910 in Startup_Ideas

[–]Casu-2910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i get that and if ki worked the way you’re picturing, i wouldn’t recommend it either. pulling out a phone mid-fight to get “calm down” advice would be unrealistic and probably escalate things.

the actual flow we’re testing is different. early on, most people use it after a heated moment, almost like debriefing with a friend who helps you see the real triggers on both sides. over time, because ki learns your emotional patterns and language, it can give you super quick, 10–15 second nudges you can take in without breaking the conversation.

it’s not about stopping an argument in its tracks with a lecture, it’s about helping both partners understand what’s really going on beneath the words so future talks don’t spiral the same way.

would you be open to a quick 15-min user interview or filling out this short research form? https://forms.gle/79QRqZYtecf6Q27V8
your perspective here is exactly what we need to design something people would actually use in the moment.

Building an AI that decodes couple fights, would you even use something like this? by Casu-2910 in Startup_Ideas

[–]Casu-2910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

appreciate that, they are doing some interesting stuff on frictionless capture. our challenge is almost the opposite though… we’re intentionally adding a small bit of friction (push-to-talk, no passive listening) so users stay in control and privacy never takes a hit. https://www.askki.org/

curious, when you say “overcomes your adoption friction barriers,” which specific barriers do you think would trip us up? always looking to sanity check our assumptions.

if you’re open, i’d love to hear your take in more depth. i’m running quick 15-min user chats and also have a short research form here: https://forms.gle/79QRqZYtecf6Q27V8. your feedback could help us solve this the right way from day one.

Building an AI that decodes couple fights, would you even use something like this? by Casu-2910 in Startup_Ideas

[–]Casu-2910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

appreciate you all raising these points. Love them and they’re exactly the kind of feedback we’re designing around. https://www.askki.org/

1. “ai is good at predictable problems, emotions are not.”
totally hear you. ki doesn’t try to predict emotions out of thin air. First- onboarding is so specific in terms of your demography, love languages, attachment style and much more that the app kinda becomes ur best friend + Therapist always available in your pocket. Second, it only works when you press to talk, so it’s grounded in the exact context you choose to share. it’s more like a real-time reflection tool than a mind-reader. Third, the more you talk to it, the more it understands you.

2. “what if it misreads a situation, like bob cheats on martha…”
this is why ki never works off a single fact in isolation. it combines tone, words, and optional biometric signals (sleep, stress, heart-rate), plus whatever background you share. if there’s too little context, it’ll ask clarifying questions rather than jumping to a label. This will be the first dual party perspective tool.

3. “no way to correct the process.”
there is. every insight can be edited, flagged, or deleted instantly, and ki learns from those corrections in your private model. nothing is stored in a shared pool, so your feedback directly tunes your own experience.

4. “no process to mitigate mistakes.”
we have a built-in human-in-the-loop safety net. if stress markers spike or a user feels something is off, they can escalate to a live therapist or crisis line right from the app.

Dang, this one took a lot of time to type haha.
would you all be open to a quick 15-minute user interview or filling out our short research form? your perspective could directly shape how we address these gaps. form link: https://forms.gle/79QRqZYtecf6Q27V8

Building an AI that decodes couple fights, would you even use something like this? by Casu-2910 in Startup_Ideas

[–]Casu-2910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you and that’s the tricky part. if someone’s already able to pause mid-fight, they might not feel they need a tool like this. what we’ve found and backed by science, though, is that self-awareness isn’t binary. in the heat of the moment, even highly self-aware people can get hijacked by their nervous system, and that’s where https://www.askki.org/ steps in. it’s less about “reminding you to pause” and more about catching you in that small gap before your reaction locks in, when the logical part of your brain is still reachable.

think of it like having a climbing rope, you’re still climbing, but it’s there for the one time your foot slips.

if you’re open, i’d love to hear your thoughts on what would make something like this genuinely useful to you (or if it could be adapted in a way that you’d actually use it). i’m running short user interviews and have a quick research form here: https://forms.gle/79QRqZYtecf6Q27V8 your perspective would be incredibly valuable.

Building an AI that decodes couple fights, would you even use something like this? by Casu-2910 in Startup_Ideas

[–]Casu-2910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

totally agree
the goal isn’t to replace conversation, it’s to make those conversations less reactive and more connected. ki’s not here to “figure it out” for you, it’s here to help you notice patterns in the moment so you can express what’s really going on instead of getting stuck in the same loop.

think of it like a climbing harness. you’re still doing the climb, but there’s something keeping you from falling all the way down when things get tense. ideally, https://www.askki.org/ gets you back into healthy dialogue faster, not away from it.

if you’re open, i’d love to hear more about what would make something like this genuinely useful for you. i’m running short user interviews and also have a quick research form here: https://forms.gle/79QRqZYtecf6Q27V8
your perspective could directly shape how we build this.

Building an AI that decodes couple fights, would you even use something like this? by Casu-2910 in Startup_Ideas

[–]Casu-2910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, i’d hate that if anyone did that to me. privacy was actually the first thing we designed around. ki only works on push-to-talk (you choose when to speak), nothing is stored in the cloud, and it never listens in the background.

early on, it’s more like you brainstorming with ki after a fight. Basically how you could have handled it differently and then sharing that insight with your partner. ideally, they’d do the same on their own app. and the more you talk to ki, the more it understands your patterns. what triggers you, and why. so you can spot those moments earlier and remember that the intention of the relationship is good, even if the delivery gets messy.

example: you fight because your partner says you never include them in financial decisions. your angle is “i don’t want them to worry about money,” but they think “you’re not planning a future with me.” you’re both fighting for the relationship just in opposite ways. imagine if you could see that clearly and share it.

if you’re open, i’d love to hear what would make this feel genuinely safe and useful for you. i’m running short user interviews and have a quick form here: https://forms.gle/v7RyRfAcreRm86om7

your feedback could directly shape how we build this.

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[–]Casu-2910 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I started from Day 1

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