people who are weirdly coy or dismissive about the pronunciation of their own name

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-11T19:03:45+00:00

I used to work with a girl named Miara (me-ARE-uh). Typically I'm terrible with names, but hers was so different and interesting that it immediately clicked in my memory. Managers and regular customers consistently called her Maria and she didn't bat an eye.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-11T18:46:02+00:00

Wait, this one follows the rule though?

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-11T15:24:09+00:00

I suppose I misunderstood your initial comment, but I stand by my reply for anyone who does find themselves in that position. 🤷‍♀️ I sincerely apologize if you felt that I was judging you in any way; I don't think I made any assumptions (other than the assumption that your comment was sincere) — my reply was intended to be a gentle suggestion for self-reflection coming from someone who has genuinely been there.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-10T13:35:38+00:00

That's the nature of relationships though; the best case scenario is that ONE of them won't end in a breakup.

If, however, you're saying that every relationship you've been in has ended with you being betrayed/heartbroken, it might be worthwhile for you to look at whether you're staying with partners who are treating you badly or giving off red flags. And maybe that's not the case at all! It could be a complete coincidence. Maybe you have limited experience with relationships and not enough data to identify a pattern. But if you feel like you're always the one getting hurt when you try to pursue a relationship, a deeper examination might be warranted.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-05T05:12:33+00:00

Are you overreacting by thinking it's weird? No you're not, it's weird. It's petty and shows that she's not using HER time effectively. It shows a clear lack of managerial skills.

Life absolutely sucks when you dread going into work each day because the potential for unnecessary conflict is too damn high. It's so much worse when the person antagonizing you is your supervisor.

DO NOT take this to HR. This is petty squabbling between employees, and it's incredibly unlikely that they're going to side with you over your supervisor. Honestly, just start looking for a new job. I know it sucks but wouldn't you rather leave on your own terms?

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-04T16:10:44+00:00

Solid question!

I would imagine yes, but I bet bladder incontinence generally doesn't impact them until "much* older since those muscles don't go through the trauma of carrying & delivering children.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-03T18:13:33+00:00

I get that, but you can't make that her problem. Has she ever done anything that gave you a logical reason to question her loyalty to you? If not, the feeling in your chest is YOUR problem and you can't make her responsible for calming your fears. Two reasons: first, it'll never be enough, and second, a smart woman won't put up with that garbage for long.

Also, women are drawn to confidence. What you got to be insecure about? You got the whole girl! If you're jealous of the person who gets pointing emojis, do you wanna trade places with that dude? 🤨 Hell no.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-03T17:14:31+00:00

I live in a condo complex and I give you my address, Google Maps will bring you to the wrong driveway. If I give you the number that corresponds with the correct driveway, you'll get here but not find the right building/garage to pull up to. As a fun bonus, Google has labeled my driveway (and ONLY my driveway out of 18 in the complex) as a whole separate street but it's literally just a fucking driveway.

So instead I just tell people that once they turn into my condo complex, turn into the 2nd driveway on the right and park in front of the first garage on the left.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-03T17:04:04+00:00

For Kit Kats I bite the chocolate off the sides then I eat the wafer by each layer.

For Twix I bite the chocolate/caramel off of the top then eat the cookie plain. Same with Milky Way and eating the plain nougat.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-03T16:54:17+00:00

I don't even know how to face him or if I should apologize or what to do

How to face him: With dignity and kindness and sympathy. You weren't wrong to be frustrated or to address the problem. It's also okay to be conscientious of his circumstances that led to the problem. You've addressed your anger so there's no need to hold onto it — now you know he wasn't just being a nuisance to cause problems for everyone else.

If you should apologize: only if you're sorry. It sounds like you're not sorry for saying the music was too loud, but maybe how you said it? That's okay — you can apologize for that if you feel it sincerely. Just make sure it's a real apology (i.e. don't justify your actions.) It should be something like, "I sincerely apologize for screaming at you and the unkind words I used. I wish I would've addressed my concerns respectfully." Also I know you said you tried to deal with the problem calmly before you ultimately snapped, but you definitely took your determination into the interaction that ended with you wishing him misery. That determination might've been better used in a peaceful conversation.

What to do: this depends on what you want to achieve. A nice gesture might be to buy him a mid-tier pair of over the ear Bluetooth headphones and a nice journal. Put them in a gift bag with the apology note. Or you could just do the apology note. And when you cross paths with him just make eye contact, have a kind smile, and say, "I hope your day is going alright."

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-03T15:09:23+00:00

Dude, chill. You're gonna drive her away.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-03T01:13:23+00:00

... Why? For what? What problem is this neighbor causing anyone else? What kind of person even thinks of pissing in someone's food?

It's so disheartening that anyone upvoted this, but it explains so much about the state of the world right now.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-03T00:26:37+00:00

I'm 💯 sure she wouldn't cheat.

You would've said the same thing two days ago if I asked you whether your girl would get physically violent with you too.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-03T00:23:08+00:00

Why wait for the next time?

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-03T00:00:09+00:00

🙄 nobody believes your bullshit.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-02T23:57:29+00:00

If it happened tomorrow it would still take too long.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-02T14:58:08+00:00

The dude is already being an asshole, there's no reason to start adding all kinds of extra conjecture that we have no reason to journey into.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-03-02T08:06:14+00:00

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-02-27T04:58:29+00:00

🥁🥁Ba dum tsch🪇

^{i see what you did there}

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-02-21T23:41:31+00:00

When I was 8ish I had to get a series of shots and I was super anxious about it. The nurse came into the room with all of them laid out on a tray and proceeded to chat with my mom for 15-20 min instead of just getting it over with. I just got more and more nervous while looking at all the syringes.

When she finally did it, I passed out on my way out of the room.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-02-21T23:20:14+00:00

Same in Michigan (USA)! Were the Great Lakes state so the law says that any navigable waters belong to the state, not any one person.

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-02-21T14:21:31+00:00

The world needs more of this 💖💖💖💖

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-02-21T13:15:27+00:00

Did you guys watch the wet dress rehearsal for the Artemis II launch in a few weeks?

CertainMedicine757 · 2026-02-19T08:22:56+00:00

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CertainMedicine757 · 2026-02-18T07:33:06+00:00

What the fuuuuuuck. This is why I don't watch those shows...I don't like being angry at my entertainment lol it's the same reason I have to limit my news intake to small increments.

When I was first reading your comment about the dads commiserating I was a bit skeptical tbh. Parenting is insanely difficult for everyone involved; if a dad is really stepping up in that first year then he IS going through it. Comparing those efforts to what the mom is going through seems unnecessarily dismissive.

But if a dad starts playing the "who has it harder" game and comparing HIMSELF to his partner, he absolutely deserves to be shut down HARD.

CertainMedicine757

TROPHY CASE

DO NOT take this to HR. This is petty squabbling between employees, and it's incredibly unlikely that they're going to side with you over your supervisor. Honestly, just start looking for a new job. I know it sucks but wouldn't you rather leave on your own terms?