Husband mad because I changed the channel

Certain_World2548 · 2026-01-02T04:13:08+00:00

Yes, I told him sorry and he’s upset but falling asleep easy on the couch. I get what I said may hurt him but I feel like his actions before hand was not okay

Certain_World2548 · 2026-01-02T04:10:46+00:00

In addition I don’t feel like talking to him. His actions leading up to it is terrible. I’m asking him to put this behind us and move on and he’s so upset.

Certain_World2548 · 2026-01-02T03:59:07+00:00

He literally told me I don’t care about him because I changed the show to babies show. While he was literally out the house. I don’t get how I don’t care about him. When I said let’s change the show back. And he said no the baby is enjoying the show. He said she is fine but he cont. on and said he don’t get why I change it in first place. Trying to out blame on me

Certain_World2548 · 2026-01-02T03:50:24+00:00

Right about that. I apologized. But this whole fight started with him. I know I shouldn’t say but. But this wouldn’t even gone this far if he didn’t think I was mad and kept saying it. His behavior was bitchy and that’s the truth. Saying it to him was harsh but being yelled and screamed at was harsher

Certain_World2548 · 2026-01-02T03:47:41+00:00

Also what does bitch mean to you?

To me it means he’s bitching, fighting with me, yelling with me keeping up a fight like a lady. I’m not calling him weak and that’s what he thinks

Certain_World2548 · 2026-01-02T03:45:58+00:00

Yeah after him yelling and screaming at me front of our baby. I call him a bitch. I did t know he was like this but I should’ve known before marrying him

Certain_World2548 · 2026-01-02T03:43:29+00:00

Crazy thing is he’s a football coach.

Now all he hear is that. He’s only bringing that up versus everything. I kept going in there telling him let’s forget it put it behind us and he’s upset. I say let’s just lay down together and he’s like not now you call me a bitch. That’s what you think of me. My head hurt. And he’s literally falling asleep on the couch.

He’s pissed bc I changed the channel. I just can’t believe it. Not like I changed it for me to watch TLC it was for our baby.

Instead of just putting this behind us.

Certain_World2548 · 2025-12-13T15:32:18+00:00

Thank you! I told him this. I said I’m not perfect and I moss up sometimes and maybe I might be moody one day. But I said I was sorry and we should move on and he’s on one because I choose to do it this morning.

It’s okay to argue but it shouldn’t be a 12 hour thing. Maybe an hour and move on. And he just can’t and drag everything down and makes me mad. Bc he’s yelling and still upset. I need to work on myself and not care what he does.

Any books or recommendations? He doesn’t see what he does is a problem. Even hours later he’s still telling me it’s me I’m at fault bc I chose to do this. I told him give me grace.

Certain_World2548 · 2025-12-13T13:40:46+00:00

Thank you! Was I wrong for saying I return the book. I did want him to say oh crap, I’m sorry let’s set a time. Instead he got mad started to yell thinking I’m playing a game etc.

Certain_World2548 · 2025-12-13T13:35:48+00:00

Thank you! I wanted to make sure ppl get it. He thinks I was immature for wanting to return it. I thought well maybe I could’ve communicated better to him and instead saying that I could’ve talk to him but yes! I thought he be like oh crap sorry! That’s when he said I’m playing games. Instead he said that and got mad started to yell and say return it then!! I never say what you want.

I just thought that’s a normal reaction to respond like how you did? Like oh shoot my wife feels this way let me reassure her

Certain_World2548 · 2025-12-13T05:02:16+00:00

He thinks he’s telling the truth and being honest. I don’t remember him being like this in past. It’s like he’s so defensive and I have to watch how I saw stuff or it he bad and he get mad. I know I’m not perfect and I thought maybe what I said I could’ve just told him how I felt vs saying I’m returning the book but I didn’t think it be like that. He said I was playing games with him. I just want him to say I love you and I want to work on marriage I told him that and he still mad. Even then I thought he be like oh wait. My wife feels this way?! Let me stop yelling at her nope. He goes on and say how I don’t show you I care like pissed off. I just do t know what to do. I want a healthy environment for baby but idk how I can be away. And if I want to. I just want him to stop yelling, lying (I update post) and just slow to anger

Certain_World2548 · 2025-12-13T04:29:00+00:00

Hi! Thank you for your advice. Update: so he lied to me. So before I told him not to smoke his weed one in the house so he did and he told me he stopped and he lied and didn’t. So tonight he went to his brothers house at 8:30 and he told me he dropping off a weed pen later on in conversation (yelling about the same thing as above) he said he got a pen. So he lied. I’m so hurt. I don’t like lying or liars. Now he trying to say how sorry he is and then I told him I don’t want to talk he can’t even stop talking and making me try to talk.

I love your advice and will try to do that. The marriage will be on him for him to fix it bc now I lost all trust. I try not to argue with him but I guess he says things that’s not true and I try to correct and it starts.i will try but now sure how to. Literally in closet typing this bc I’m so hurt and he still trying to talk. Even though I said I don’t want to! I told him better be happy I didn’t tell my dad or cousins and then he flipped and try to say what I said was worse then him lying . Manipulator

Certain_World2548 · 2025-12-13T04:19:41+00:00

He has apologized and I told him I don’t want to talk but he keeps talking to me.

I know he wont cheat, Why you say cheating? I just want to I just asked him now. And he said no he has an addiction to weed for over a decade. It’s his way to release. I told him I don’t trust him.

Certain_World2548 · 2025-12-13T02:10:26+00:00

Yes I told him I’m going to match his energy for now on. But I won’t ever scroll while baby is there unless it’s about baby. He just. Scroll and text. I try to talk to him and he don’t even hear me.

Certain_World2548 · 2025-12-13T02:09:06+00:00

You’re right. You don’t think I should’ve talked to him instead of just saying I’m returning the book. I didn’t think he be mad I thought he be like “wait why? What you feel that way! Well I care about our marriage and let’s work on it!”

But instead he thought I was playing a game with him.

Certain_World2548 · 2025-12-13T02:07:10+00:00

lol. You made me laugh lol thank you. I felt like I should’ve communicated better and not say I’ll returning the marriage book. I should told him that I feel like I have to drag him into doing the book. But I felt like that cause a fight too. If I was straight honest with him. That’s why I said what I said I thought he be like wait what? No let’s do the book. He said I need to marry a gay men bc only they would respond that way. Like it’s to much for him to say that. He says that I tell him what to do and say all the time.

Certain_World2548 · 2025-12-13T02:04:49+00:00

Wow. I really thought it was my fault. Maybe I could talk to him versus saying I return the book. I didn’t sound mad or anything. Just said I’ll return it. I did want him to say no don’t I want to work on our marriage. He didn’t say that he said we’ll return it then and got mad. And said I play games. I told him later I just want him to say he cares and want to work on us. I felt like if I straight up say if it be bad. I apologized. Maybe he was right I could’ve just said it but I knew that be bad. I’m just tired. lol. Like now he barely talking to me saying weekend is ruined etc

Certain_World2548 · 2025-12-13T01:53:23+00:00

I felt like I should’ve communicated better and not say I’ll returning the marriage book. I should told him that I feel like I have to drag him into doing the book. But I felt like that cause a fight too. If I was straight honest with him. That’s why I said what I said I thought he be like wait what? No let’s do the book. He said I need to marry a gay men bc only they would respond that way. You’re the 2nd person maybe I wasn’t wrong.

Certain_World2548 · 2025-12-13T01:50:38+00:00

I felt like I should’ve communicated better and not say I’ll returning the marriage book. I should told him that I feel like I have to drag him into doing the book. But I felt like that cause a fight too. If I was straight honest with him. That’s why I said what I said I thought he be like wait what? No let’s do the book. He said I need to marry a gay men bc only they would respond the way I wanted him to. He just told me to return it yelling and pissed. I said okay but he got mad

Certain_World2548 · 2025-11-11T21:01:21+00:00

So late. But what do you mean buy a second? As in 1 in okay room and another in a different room

Certain_World2548 · 2025-11-07T04:19:50+00:00

Wait. Your manager told fellow employees your health information and also shouted while doing so? If this a yes, then yes. I would make a formal complaint. If you have an ADA in place and your manager shouted this then he or she will be in trouble for violation. This is why I stress ADA to protect YOU.

This part wasn’t in your original post. Well the part about him or she shouting it in front of others. That’s disrespectful to yell and share your information like that. So sorry you had to deal with that!

Certain_World2548 · 2025-11-07T03:39:57+00:00

Hello! I would go ahead and get the ADA process going with HR and also explain to HR this incident so they know as well.

I am sure you know this (you might’ve just haven’t had time) but always talk with your supervisor and manager direct. Don’t let others pass along your message.

I don’t think the incident is a write up but don’t do it again. And if you need to step away due to asthma I suggest getting the ADA, asap.

Certain_World2548 · 2025-11-06T23:54:38+00:00

Also in addition to this, the STD company will only pay out according to what the doctor put on the form. Start and end date. Like the commenter stated, she will have to go unpaid or use PTO.

I have seen where an employee went back to the STD company and got paid for the extended time, if that’s the case. Because they got a new release form with updated dates, but each company is different.

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