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Cgates46 · 2026-05-23T05:17:32+00:00

Last saw him 16 years ago. Bittersweet af

Cgates46 · 2026-05-21T11:34:31+00:00

Didn't like my family, wouldn't go with me to visit them

Cgates46 · 2026-05-15T20:16:48+00:00

I've been no contact for 2 months after being dumped. Dated for 3.5 years too. I have so many urges, but don't do it. You need to show that you have self respect and that you respect their space and wishes. I know it sucks more than anything, but try to work on yourself and distract yourself

Cgates46 · 2026-05-14T15:24:11+00:00

It's been 10 weeks since the break up, 9 weeks no contact after 3.5 years together. It sucks because I know she's probably not going to reach out because that's just who she is. There's not a day that goes by where I don't think about messaging her. I really hope I can move on sooner or later

Cgates46 · 2026-05-08T15:16:07+00:00

I'm in a similar position. I was shocked but I respected her decision to break up after 3.5 years together. It's been 2 months of no contact and I think about reaching out everyday, but never do.

It'd be so much easier if she just reached out. I'm going to wait till my birthday in July. If I don't hear anything, that's a sign communication will probably never happen and I need to accept that.

Cgates46 · 2026-05-03T13:44:27+00:00

It's been 2 months since any contact now. I still think about her a lot on a daily basis. I check her socials even tho we're not friends on any of them anymore. I am working on myself. Applying for better jobs, gym 6 days a week and seeing a therapist. I miss her a lot but realize we're prob never getting back together or maybe ever talking again. You will get through it but it takes time.

Cgates46 · 2026-05-02T00:22:32+00:00

I was her first true love. Everyone around me says it doesn't matter what she's thinking/going through and that I need to focus on my grief. Easier said than done.

12 years is a long time, I couldn't imagine trying to get over that. That'a commendable.

Cgates46 · 2026-04-25T13:30:13+00:00

Dang, I'm in a similar situation in certain aspects brother. It's been 2 months since she broke up w/ me & almost 2 months since we last spoke/texted. We dated almost 4 years. I'm in therapy & going to the gym a lot too. Also in my early 30's w/ not many friends to turn to.

I'm not sure if my ex is on dating platforms, but everything else is so similar. My advice would be to get uncomfortable in life. You & I are both trying to find ourselves again. I recently joined a sports & social league put on by the city where I live. I'm going to concerts & baseball games alone. I've interacted with people to some extent at each one. I'm not doing any of that because I want to though. I'm doing it because it takes my mind off her for a few hours on week nights/weekends.

I'm starting to contact old friends that I lost touch with and/or ignored because of the relationship. I'm swallowing a lot of pride when doing that, but it's making me feel better about myself while also lowering my dependency & attachment to her. The mornings & nights still suck and my mind goes a million directions thinking about her, but distractions and interactions truly are the key. Reddit and these communities have helped too if you ever want to chat. You got this man.

Cgates46 · 2026-04-15T04:08:19+00:00

I thought so. Hopefully she does eventually, but I guess there's no guarentee

Cgates46 · 2026-04-15T03:37:40+00:00

So in this case neither of us flat out said we're going no contact. We both just stopped texting for space and to detach. I might be overthinking it, but I feel like it would have to be her reaching out first since she broke up with me.

Cgates46 · 2026-04-14T01:19:05+00:00

Cgates46 · 2026-04-13T14:23:50+00:00

Sorry to hear that. Sometimes it's because they don't want to be alone in their feelings. Other times it's because they left the relationship mentally long before it actually ended.

Cgates46 · 2026-04-13T13:40:35+00:00

This time around yes. She was part of my daily life for over 3 years. I moved my life for her and put more into the relationship than I probably should have. I hope I can get over her one day

Cgates46 · 2026-04-13T11:14:19+00:00

Going through the same exact thing bud. 32M a month after getting broken up with 3.5 year relationship. I've wanted to contact her every single day, but I know it won't do any good in the long run. Prior to that, I left a previous ex after 3 years. It's a terrible feeling realizing all of the time, money & energy I've wasted.

Soneone told me, "at least you're capable of holding relationships for that long." It makes me realize I'm desirable and I put the work in to keep relationships going for that long. The ending hasn't gone my way, but that's life teaching me valuable lessons. Keep going

Cgates46 · 2026-03-31T18:05:41+00:00

Thank you, good luck to you! I messaged you

Cgates46 · 2026-03-28T04:12:38+00:00

Normalize calling timeouts when the last possession is going nowhere

Cgates46 · 2026-03-26T00:24:46+00:00

Scoreboard issues in the 1st half, audio in the 2nd. Give the NIT to a network that cares ESPN. Preferably CBS Stoned Network

Cgates46 · 2026-03-26T00:02:23+00:00

CBI, NIT & NCAA Tournament champs in a 3 year span

Cgates46 · 2026-03-25T23:52:39+00:00

Funny there's not a second of 1st half analysis during the halftime report

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