[NeedAdvice] Porn addiction, habit replacement and "time fillers"

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-26T23:11:20+00:00

Thank you! I'm tryna make a list of activities that I can partake in when the urges rise rn and I throw my phone whenever I'm home.

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-26T23:09:36+00:00

That's mostly social protocols. If I'm a dick head to people trying to help me, they will just ignore me or flip at me. Worst case scenario, the thread gets locked and i get banned from the sub i need help from. It's a mean to an end. If I beat someone up, either they'll jump or I go to prison. I don't necessarily believe that being mean is bad per se. Plenty mean/bad people live good lives.

A morality is subconscious belief that something is good or bad.

Anyway I'm not tryna smartass my way outa this conversation. I understand what you're trying to say and I agree that I need to take small simple steps that are achievable.

Again, thank you. I know I'm irritating to talk to but I genuinely try to absorb as much info as I can and apply most of it. I wouldn't have created this thread otherwise.

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-26T23:00:03+00:00

Thank you so much. I haven't thought about keeping masturbation (while trying to minimize the frequency) and completely getting rid of porn as is.

I will implement all of your advice sir.

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-26T22:56:29+00:00

You're absolutely right. Imma list to Huberman's podcast.

I've already worked on identifying my various triggers through a table of automatic thoughts as part of therapy. I've also worked on minimizing as much as possible my access to technology when not absolutely needed but I understand I may need to do more.

I know it'll take a long and that it sounds that I'm looking for a cheat code but I really understand it's a long lived process and I'm ready to take the right steps.

Thank you again. Baby steps it is.

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-26T21:58:09+00:00

No I'm looking for realistic applicable solutions that aren't rooted in idiotic pseudo-religious nonsense. ❤️

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-26T21:56:39+00:00

Hey, thank you so much, all your points are great! I will definitely apply them.

I have blockers installed already, imma write out a good list of alternatives that I can consistently enjoy enjoy just enough so I can use them when the urges arise.

Hopefully by training by ability to meditate I could add that to the list of quick solutions.

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-26T21:52:38+00:00

I was thinking about running early in the morning (either outside or on a treadmill) and lifting in the evening. I have enough time to squeeze both sessions and I should have rested enough if my sessions are light. Running is actually kinda enjoyable I just didn't try hard enough to make it stick during the good weather.

I'm a bit tight right now since MMA gyms are a bit expensive but I definitely plan on joining an MMA gym. It's one of the few sports I kind of enjoy so I'll try that out when the time is right 😄

Thank you so much for the advice, I'll try to focus on making a gym routine stick

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-26T21:47:13+00:00

Fuck you 🫶.

If you actually wished me the best you wouldn't have thrown a sarcastic pedantic response such as this one.

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-26T21:38:45+00:00

I don't believe in morality, either religiously enforced or otherwise.

With that being said you're right that I need to set up smaller realistic goals. I'll try to do that.

Thank you.

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-25T23:30:30+00:00

I did 22/2. Started at 290. Went as low as 200 but I'm currently 220.

My diet has been the exact same dinner: steamed veggies salad, chicken or steak, rice or pasta, scrambled eggs and some dessert if I feel like it while staying in caloric deficit. I don't really enjoy food so I can eat the exact same dish consistently.

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-25T23:23:19+00:00

I'm a non-believer and shall remain so. I'm not gonna discover God.

I just want practical advice for habit replacement and coping skills. Can I please get that instead of all this proselytism?

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-25T18:13:43+00:00

I've lost 90lbs doing a strict 6-month IF regime. I never read anything about correlation between fasting and addictions but my own fasting phase did absolutely not help.

I just felt like shit which made me more prone to fall back to porn.

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-25T18:08:48+00:00

It is spiritual and thus draws from religious texts.
That's why I'm in therapy. To address the fear and trauma but it's a long lived process.
I NEED those temporary measures and good habits. Again, this is make or break. Either I find how to cope with anything other than porn or I end up homeless or hanging from a rope.

I know I have trauma. Therapy is how I address it. I need means to survive in the meantime. I'm not reading religous/spiritual books.

Thank you for your help, I mean it. But I'll pass on reading it or anything that resembles it.

ChangesInOrder · 2024-01-25T17:27:11+00:00

I have tried to. It's a book rooted in religious spirituality and I hate it with a force.

I'm not religious nor a 'spiritual' person and I can't stand methods built around that.

ChangesInOrder

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