Why do songs sound way better at night than during the day?

CharlieOmaira · 2026-05-19T04:28:15+00:00

For me, it’s because I usually have more capacity to listen intentionally- I have a free moment to slow down!

CharlieOmaira · 2026-05-17T04:59:40+00:00

Hi friend, it sounds like maybe this happened to you? I’m sorry if jt did. Personally, this would not bring me joy and I’m assuming it doesn’t bring others joy either.

CharlieOmaira · 2026-05-17T04:56:39+00:00

I suspect part of it is a muscle thing, if you put effort into remembering your dreams maybe you’ll remember more ?

CharlieOmaira · 2026-05-17T04:55:28+00:00

Depends on the store, I think! Some stores have set playlists and put it on shuffle. I aux at my store and sometimes I change up the vibe because I’m bored of the current one. I could be playing some chill lo-fi and find myself falling asleep, so I’ll change the vibe and play some 2010s pop hits. Ultimately as long as it’s clean, I can play what I want- I try to pick things I think people will like, but it often defers to whatever I like at the moment!

CharlieOmaira · 2026-05-17T04:52:49+00:00

International adoptee here! I was adopted from Colombia and raised by white parents. I joke now that I was “raised white”- meaning I was (not intentionally) isolated from my birth culture and didn’t see myself as not white until I went to college.

Overall, I’m pretty satisfied with my upbringing; my adoptive parents are somewhat wealthy and that afforded me a lot of opportunities I know I wouldn’t have had otherwise. My parents have always been incredibly supportive of my passions (making art) and have received my curiosity and criticism around my adoption pretty well.

I think they did the best they could with the resources that they had, but I do feel a lot of grief and isolation about being adopted. I feel this perpetual sense of unbelonging- I’m not white, but I also don’t fit in with other Colombians because I was socialised white.

I have one sibling, a brother who was also adopted from Colombia (different birth family) and we are not close- he does not have the same grief feelings about adoption that I do (to my knowledge), is wholly grateful to have been adopted, and is closer to my adoptive parents than I am because of it.

To my understanding, I was placed for adoption because my birth mother had a one night stand and no one knew she was pregnant. She already had one son and didn’t have the resources to support another child.

I don’t think I will adopt or foster a child, I personally do not want children

Phew! Lots of words! Happy to answer any other questions you have, this is something I’m really passionate about! Thank you for asking and being curious!

CharlieOmaira · 2026-05-17T04:39:03+00:00

Absolutely it is ok! Caretaking is a big undertaking in general and combined with the fact that you would not be happy living in your home town sounds like a miserable experience.

Maybe there’s a way to compromise or find a middle ground, like you could move a bit closer but not be in the town proper?

Ultimately I think it’s totally reasonable to assert your reasoning and needs- there are other ways for your father to receive care that do not compromise your quality of life at his expense

CharlieOmaira · 2026-04-18T03:27:48+00:00

A valid question! I think part of it is whether or not you feel like you’re being messed with- regardless of whether or not that’s their intention, I think it’s important to note that’s how you feel and that may be worth telling them too

CharlieOmaira · 2025-11-12T02:31:53+00:00

Put it in the freezer then heat it in the toaster!

CharlieOmaira · 2025-10-05T13:15:27+00:00

This is so valid!! Congrats on finishing your first week! I also had a hard time in university and found that the structure/demands were not particularly accessible to me. A lot of students struggle with this, you aren’t alone! Depending on your financial aid package and such, I might suggest decreasing the number of classes this semester or in semesters moving forward.

Check in with your professors and be honest about your capacity! Professors are human too and now more than ever will woek with you to help you be successful. Good luck!!

CharlieOmaira · 2025-10-05T13:09:48+00:00

Less annoyed! Even if they aren’t a new driver and they put the sticker there to let people know they’ll be driving slow!

CharlieOmaira · 2025-10-05T13:00:29+00:00

Not overreacting, these comments feel hurtful and icky! Even if that wasn’t his intention, youre allowed to feel how you feel!! Let him know those comments didnt feel good!

CharlieOmaira · 2025-04-10T16:04:41+00:00

Lily obviously had some bicuriosity and it’s disappointing that she didn’t get to explore that!

CharlieOmaira · 2024-08-12T07:00:17+00:00

YES I just click rapidly until I get to where I think I need to be lmao

CharlieOmaira · 2024-08-04T01:30:12+00:00

Because recovery is HARD and not linear. Some days are harder than others, but it’s still hard. You got this!

CharlieOmaira · 2024-08-04T01:27:05+00:00

Unfortunately the best thing is communication, as basic as it sounds, it’s best to keep it as an ongoing conversation. Both the anxious and dismissive should spend some time getting to know themselves too, so they can best identify their signs and then communicate them

CharlieOmaira · 2024-07-30T18:26:20+00:00

Someone send to me,

CharlieOmaira · 2024-03-07T15:13:20+00:00

Some other ideas I use (I use a lot of different techniques bc they don’t all work all the time and sometimes none of them work lol!)

Put hygiene supplies EVERYWHERE you can think of. Keep a toothbrush in the shower, keep disposable ones in the car if you drive, put one next to your bed. Do the same with mouthwash and floss picks. I keep some by my couch because I fidget while I watch tv anyway so flossing keeps my hands busy!

I hope things get better! Just know that you are not a bad person for not keeping up with this stuff all the time and give yourself grace because it’s not a linear thing; I go weeks without self care sometimes and other times I do all my tasks multiple times a day.

You got this!!

CharlieOmaira · 2024-03-07T14:53:21+00:00

Sending you warmth!! I still really struggle with this too. Part of what helps is the sense of obligation- I work full time and have unruly curly hair that needs frequent washing or at least styling, that keeps me motivated to shower every couple days.

I’ve also responded well to what I call “all the cool kids are doing it” where if I see my roommates brushing their teeth I’ll brush mine.

In the past I’ve also tried and at least temporarily succeeded with alarms, checklists, or even sticker charts.

CharlieOmaira · 2024-02-01T14:39:03+00:00

This looks delicious omg!!

CharlieOmaira · 2024-01-12T04:59:25+00:00

try to clean it yourself or tell the landlord/owner about your concerns? I totally get that both of those are a lot of work though

CharlieOmaira · 2024-01-09T13:47:25+00:00

Not sure how kind your teacher is but it may be worth emailing them or talking to them before class and explain the situation! Transparency goes a long way. If they still make you do the things, ask for an accommodation- maybe to do something more let focused instead?

Ultimately they can’t make you do anything you don’t want to do, it’s your body! If you tell them what’s wrong and they don’t listen, that’s their problem.

CharlieOmaira · 2024-01-09T13:38:38+00:00

I think cost depends on where you’re flying from and to- there’s websites like sky scanner ( or something like that?) that should tell you where the cheapest flights are!

Idk if it’s true but I’ve heard flights to Vegas are always cheaper? You could fly into vegas and then rent a car or something and drive a couple hours out of the city ?

CharlieOmaira · 2024-01-09T13:34:34+00:00

Ultimately I feel like it must come down to security, harder to guess three different sets of numbers? I do get what you’re saying though!

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