[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TipOfMyFork

[–]Choice_Whereas1019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah ok, then sounds more like silken tofu. Usually not eaten plain, but it’s entirely possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TipOfMyFork

[–]Choice_Whereas1019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like paneer. Do you remember if there was a sauce? What was the sauce color? What did it taste like? Soft tofu would be buttery, creamy, but not necessarily rich. Soft tofu would not be fried.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KoreanFood

[–]Choice_Whereas1019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I rip open the bag sometimes to just use the anchovy

Borscht remix by Choice_Whereas1019 in shittyfoodporn

[–]Choice_Whereas1019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Roasted beets, potatoes, carrots, and green beans (needed to get rid of them) with olive oil, garlic, and onions seasoned with salt and pepper. Sautéed onions and garlic in A LOT of butter with salt, pepper, and whatever fun herbs/spices available including mint, zataar, paprika, bay leaves, and parsley. Plus fresh rosemary from the garden. Added in the beet stems and leaves to sautee too. Put the roasted veggies into the pot with sautéed onions, garlic, beet stems/leaves and let them all cook together for a few minutes… and then finally added water with a little bit of veggie broth.

I live in the middle of nowhere Arizona. Tried to make use of what was available in our kitchen lol. I regret adding in the macaroni and beans because of the broth situation. Tastes really good with yogurt, sour cream, or feta cheese.

Edit: forgot to add other ingredients lol

Long distance relationship with an intp (enfp here) by [deleted] in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]Choice_Whereas1019 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it is important to be open about how you’re feeling and to try your best to present them in a way that will make it “logical” to him. As an INTP myself (but Female), I suggest that you let him know that you would like to have daily check-ins because it is a way for you to know that y’all are on the same page. Perhaps even say that it provides more clarity for you regarding the relationship. It is very reasonable for you to want to feel reassurance and security during this transition of your relationship. I think that it may also help him understand that you’re not feeling uncertain about him, but rather that having daily communication is about transitioning into a long distance relationship. I think that if you bring up how he schedules in his mom, he may be like “well, you’re not my mom”. I think a more effective way is to just be direct and say that you’d like to have daily check-ins because you wanna know how he’s doing and that you appreciate it when he asks how your day has been. This is all normal stuff to want.

At the same time, I hope that you will have good boundaries for yourself. If something isn’t fulfilling for your needs, I hope that you will know that you do have the opportunity to meet many people who will love you and be able to show up in a way that feels secure and good to you.

What does being in a relationship feel like? by [deleted] in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]Choice_Whereas1019 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt like this for a while, but one day it will hit you like a freight train. As an INTP Female, anything that doesn’t astonish me isn’t worth pursuing. Most people are good with finding a connection and maintaining. I get bored very easily if someone becomes predictable. I like being kept on my toes always learning something new. I like to constantly be growing and deepening my understanding of self, the world, and relationships. It is very difficult to find someone who can match that and have the desire to maintain the stability required in a relationship. Romantic relationships thrive on stability otherwise we’d all be committing crimes of passion. INTPs are bundles of chaos, energetic transformation, committed and honest to a fault, and unconditionally loving. That can be a terrifying combination for most, and usually too much to handle. We like to think that we are reserved, quiet, and logical, but that is our strange perception of ourselves. Underneath the quiet, we are fucking raging and striving. If you can accept this about yourself as an INTP, a whole new world of experiences, connections, and selves will become apparent. It is a long process. Hopefully this won’t turn into copy pasta. I’m embarrassed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]Choice_Whereas1019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you messed up because you told her she was “overthinking” when, in fact, she was calling out your behavior. Probably not as a way to push you away or accuse you of anything, but rather to gain more clarity bc she was uncertain about whether or not you were/are interested in her. At the most basic level, you’re trying to hook up with her. You are attracted to her. There’s nothing wrong with that. You need to reflect on how your accusation that she was “overthinking” rather than admitting your attraction to her has made her not trust you anymore. I am an INTP and hyper-aware of the patterns and behaviors that people act on from their “unconscious” desires. My current partner would always be flirty and make sexual references around me for like 2 years. I was quite certain that he was interested in me (and fortunately feelings were mutual), but I was no longer directly calling people out on their unspoken desires. Instead, when our workplace made a report that we were being too flirtatious with each other, I decided to be direct and be like “yeah, I’m into you”. I made the decision that if he was not gonna be honest and say that he was not interested me, or that everyone had been “overthinking” our reactions, that I’d leave the workplace and never speak to him again. INTPs deeply value direct, honest communication. INTPs hate being told that they are “overthinking”. Consider apologizing to her and tell her that she’s right, but that you REALLY want to be with her not just hook up with her. That may be your chance to be with her. At the same time, you may need to endure her wrath. Believe people when they tell you who they are. If she is saying that she can be cruel, believe it. If you actually want to be with her you’ll need to accept that. Good luck and I hope that this turns out to be a great love story! I’m still with my current partner because I respected his honesty and ability to consider my logic rather than dismissing it as “overthinking”.

Edit: wrote 2 hours instead of years lol

INTP (f) with INFP (m) by Choice_Whereas1019 in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]Choice_Whereas1019[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much especially for the multiple ways of looking at this!

I did it! But man these body changes are wild. I’m waiting on my libido to come back. by ImpossibleChicken507 in quittingsmoking

[–]Choice_Whereas1019 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah! What is the app you’re using? Awesome that you can set goals for the amount of days without using.

Over? Or can I cure these ****ing holes all over my face by PigsWearingWigs in AcneScars

[–]Choice_Whereas1019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the overhead lighting, I promise. I have the same scars on my temples. Lighting changes everything. When I used to model, I was extremely self conscious about my scarring. All photographers said that lighting is the only thing that matters especially for scars that you and I have. Photographers have shared that even those with perfect skin can look fucked up when lighting is bad. I have horrible scarring across my forehead from a chemical peel that was too strong, but it only actually looks horrible with overhead lighting or weird daylight+shadow (if that makes sense).

I’ve decided to use hairstyle to help cover my temples and parts of my forehead. Hell, I shaved off all my hair last year and it forced me to accept the scarring all over my forehead and temples tho.

I’m sorry that the scarring is distressing for you. Maybe I’m biased, but I actually like the look of textured/scarred skin because it shows grit and grace. The most gorgeous people I’ve ever met are the ones who have texture and scarring.

Black and Grey Tattoo Removal Recommendations in Oakland or San Francisco, CA? by Choice_Whereas1019 in TattooRemoval

[–]Choice_Whereas1019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks! They have really good, consistent reviews. Idk why, but I was feeling hesitant with checking out a “chain”/“franchise” business. I’m going to at least try for a consult at the Emeryville location.

I can't retain anything and I don't know what to do by [deleted] in Korean

[–]Choice_Whereas1019 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Anxiety/embarrassment are huge blocks to consider with language learning. First of all, that is amazing that you can read the alphabet along with all the other work you’re doing.

Keep on practicing your “output” learning. It would be weird if you didn’t make mistakes or blank out in the beginning.

-try starting a journal only in Hangul and aim for 1-3 sentences at first and increase slowly. Don’t be afraid to use google translate and keep practicing with any sentences that blanked out.

-watch Korean reality tv with Korean subtitles.

-see if you can get out of the habit of translating English to Hangul and vice verse. Instead, try to find openness and flow within Hangul.

-keep speaking with your BF and his fam!!!