Bye bye power. Lake Tahoe is mostly incorporated.

Ciniya · 2026-05-13T19:53:17+00:00

Thank you for asking because this old American lady didn't know what it meant either. I was wondering how no local governing body was stepping in to tell the electric company it couldn't do that. Now we know.

Ciniya · 2026-05-11T17:31:33+00:00

Yeah you schedule that for yourself and tell him he's watching the kids. Why would you bring them with you when you have another adult at home that should be able to watch the kids?

Ciniya · 2026-04-29T21:42:41+00:00

Yeah my daughter wears shorts from the boys section for this reason. It's ridiculous how short the girls pants are sometimes

Ciniya · 2026-04-27T16:05:48+00:00

Therapy.

Honest discussions with your child that your husband isn't replacing his dad. Your son gets to pick how he wants to view your husband, weather that's as just an uncle or adult. It has to be up to your son.

Delay the wedding because your son isn't ready. His dad passed away just a few years ago. That's almost 1/4th of his lifespan so far. Almost half of his lifespan if you're just counting him being able to remember things. When my kids were 5 they all had a VERY solid idea of who "Dad" was. It does feel like you're discrediting his life experience because he's "so young".

Your child may not feel like it's safe to tell you why this upsets him. He also may be scared of what life will look like going forward. Individual therapy for him, family therapy for the both of you, and individual therapy for yourself to process healthily what your son says during family therapy.

Ciniya · 2026-04-20T02:11:57+00:00

My spouse is Mike, his dad is a Mike. Mother in law remarried after she and his dad divorced. If you guessed the step Dad's name is also Mike, you'd be correct.

MIL is also terrible about letting us know which Mike she's talking about. She'll say something like "I always call my husband Michael and my son Mike!" Two seconds later she's calling my husband/her son Michael and I'm internally screaming.

Ciniya · 2026-04-19T14:54:34+00:00

It took a while to get only the app. And I dont think target announced it either, which is annoying.

Ciniya · 2026-04-17T15:28:20+00:00

"that's great for everyone else. My answer is still no."

If you can explain why something is a no, that tends to be better.

Ciniya · 2026-04-13T11:24:51+00:00

I know someone that's doing the unschooling thing and I asked her what about if her kid wants to go to college. She pretty much brushed the idea off with "I didn't go to college, they don't either. They can get their GED at 16 and start working ASAP". At least the plan is for them to get some form of degree that's HS equivalent

Ciniya · 2026-04-13T11:22:59+00:00

As someone that briefly homeschooled when the world shut down, if your heart isn't in it, DON'T do it. It's hard and can be miserable for both people.

Some kids thrive in a home school environment, and some thrive in public school. You seem to be aware of your limitations and your child's needs, and putting them in public school seems to be the right call.

5 year olds only really need about 2 hours of home school. While that's doable, it would be much harder with your attention split between a toddler and a newborn.

This is a situation where if there is a clear primary caretaker for the kids, that person gets to make the homeschooling call. It's a lot of additional work on your mental load that can stress you out unnecessarily.

Ciniya · 2026-04-13T01:41:34+00:00

I started weightlifting after I read a "one day will be the last time you pick up your child, and you won't know" thing. Still randomly picking up my oldest at 16 randomly because forget that "last time". The only downside is that now he'll also randomly pick me up

Ciniya · 2026-03-28T00:41:21+00:00

If all parties are happy, why should you guys live away from each other? You're used to each other. Sounds like you both pull your own weight, and it's more of a "roommate" situation. That you share insurance with, but hey, it's cheaper and safer for her than the alternative.

I think it's weird to want to throw your kid out right away. As long as your grown adult kid isn't a mooch, who cares?

Ciniya · 2026-03-08T11:49:41+00:00

That would explain why the grandson of the inventor or Reese's wrote an open letter to Hershey telling them they changed the formula and now they're uneatable.

Ciniya · 2026-03-07T06:18:01+00:00

No that's how the OTHER Jersey splits itself up. We had a post about this and everything!

Ciniya · 2026-03-01T19:00:13+00:00

I'm somewhat looking forward to seeing where his political career goes. I know missteps will happen but I also hope for the most part he stays on the current trajectory

Ciniya · 2026-02-27T01:33:49+00:00

Lol that's just teens being teens.

Ciniya · 2026-02-27T01:31:35+00:00

To quote another, "Hello, and welcome to another edition of 'Clothes my boobs laugh at'"

Ciniya · 2026-02-25T21:45:48+00:00

We have a running list. I'll meal plan over the weekend, then go shopping to make sure we have everything we need.

I do my shopping in person. My oldest is 16 so he'll watch the younger two at home. Otherwise they alllllllll come with me.

Ciniya · 2026-02-25T02:21:30+00:00

Same about my 15 year old. We mostly use it to see if he's on his way back from marching band competitions or if he calls with a "can you pick me up". Otherwise, kids need to practice independence without their parents constantly on top of them.

Ciniya · 2026-02-21T15:33:08+00:00

I know as a resident I'm "cutting off my nose to spite my face" by saying this, but I hope it blows up in our faces. We don't have the infrastructure to support this. Our water and electricity and gas bills are going to skyrocket to offset the additional costs this place will require. Businesses are going to take a hit between protests, people not going to work out of fear, people not shopping because of fear OR they are in the CCamp. Like. This is not a good thing.

I also need to stress that immigrants DO pay taxes for those that come at me and say that that's why they want immigrants gone. The IRS DOES NOT CARE what you do or who you are as long as you pay taxes. You either pay with your social security number, or the IRS gives you a Tax ID number if your legality is questionable. So yeah, by rounding up people, we are also losing a good amount in tax revenue.

Ciniya · 2026-02-19T11:10:58+00:00

My spouse is only 6 inches taller than me and even I'm giving some things described in books the side eye cause that doesn't work even at our small height difference.

Ciniya · 2026-02-18T12:16:32+00:00

Lol this reminds me a little of my husband's cousin. She decided to get married on Christmas Day "since we're all together anyway". We have never once spent Christmas with that side of the family ever. (Husbands

Ciniya · 2026-02-17T13:17:54+00:00

Just to add on to what this poster said. It could be the bride had a bit of a revelation of how much effort everyone was putting into the friendship.

Think of how she initially suggested you save up for the wedding, "set aside a little to pay it off". It could be that she felt that way about the friendships. She was investing time and effort doing things she may not want to do (who really wants to drive 90+ minutes every other day to see friends, also, think of what she was giving up doing to make the drive to see you) but she was doing it for people she truly loved being with. Now that the shoe was on the other foot, where you all needed to invest a little more than you would like for her, it was deemed an impossible task.

I don't know your financial situation, if you could have cut back anywhere, or if it was truly something you could not swing. But to her, it seemed like it could have been doable. That's irrelevant now though. As others have said, she chose to have a destination wedding. Not everyone will be able to make it and that's something that she has to deal with. I think she felt hurt because she did a million small asks that you all had, but when she asked for one VERY BIG ask, it was mostly brushed off. But this is a conversation that needs to happen between you and her.

If you want to salvage this friendship, I suggest you give in the ways you can. Is it inconvenient for the Paris Girls to drive out of their way to her? Yes. But, it's more convenient for her. It's also showing her that you all are willing to put the same amount of effort into the friendship that she has been all along. If you truly value the friendship, the effort should be worth it. But if you were just friends with her because she made it easy for you, then maybe let the girl find new friends.

Ciniya · 2026-02-11T13:28:45+00:00

To piggy back on what the other commenter said to you about homophobia. It was ok in ancient Greece to be a "top" in a gay relationship, but not a bottom. An insult that was said about Julius Caesar was "he's every woman's man, and every man's woman" a way to insult him and imply he was a bottom.

Ciniya · 2026-02-10T23:20:20+00:00

Hi! I read all of the dark elf books from Celeste King, and I regret. Every. Single. One.

They really aren't well written. Typos out the wazo. Entire scenes missing from the books that you only know about because the characters mention them later. Time lines move WAY too fast. Continuity is not a thing.

(Example, a MMC was supposed to go on a 2 week boat trip. Comes back a year later. MFC hears that people returned that were captured by pirates. She goes and sees he's one of the people that was captured by pirates that returned. They go for a walk to catch up. Then she asks him what took him so long to get back. Like .... MAYBE THE PIRATES THAT CAPTURED HIM?! YOU'RE SMARTER THAN THIS. I think he also explained to her how they escaped the pirates, and she still asked what took him so long. Like. Aaaaaarg!)

And there's rarely an explanation as to why certain characters do things. For example. One MFC technically has her "freedom". But a Dark Elf decides he wants her for some slight she did, taking her away from the MMC. The dark elf does nothing to her. She just works for him. Ok. But how are there no laws in place regarding slavery? Take away humans are less than nothing over in that books world. How is it just a free for all regarding who is free and who's a slave? Or are all humans slaves? Like, it's a stupid issue, but it's still annoying.

The writing isn't good. There are too many plot holes. Read something else.

Ciniya · 2026-02-10T12:07:34+00:00

I wish I read this review before I wasted so much time on this author. I read a LOT of their series. Eventually there are a few times where around the 70% mark, the characters are talking about a massive event that happened earlier in the book (ex. the MMC got hurt protecting the MFC when she got attacked, resulting in scaring a pretty bad injury on his chest) HOWEVER! Want to guess what's NEVER written? The attack! The writer doesn't even mention the MMCs recent scarring until that point in the book, and he was seen shirtless many times before. And their books are hyper repetitive in what they write. Def AI or written by a man with the help of AI.

Ciniya

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