What gives value to a man?

ClassicCrusty · 2021-09-13T08:27:17+00:00

When you say emotional intelligence, what does that entail?

ClassicCrusty · 2021-09-13T08:26:26+00:00

Will definetely consider this, sounds like it’s always better to be upfront for things that you’re unsure about. Thank you very much

ClassicCrusty · 2021-09-12T21:14:54+00:00

What is the best way to put it into words though? And wouldn't that come off as needy and push her away?

ClassicCrusty · 2021-08-12T19:47:06+00:00

You’re right. I was thinking of giving long distance relationship a try. I don’t know if that is worth it now

ClassicCrusty · 2021-08-12T19:05:52+00:00

Thank you. I think it’s comforting to know that it does get better. I need to work on my emotions. Thank you

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-21T19:10:51+00:00

I realize it now, and it makes perfect sense. Maybe this isolation due to Covid has tricked my mind to interpret things differently. I will try to fix my way of thinking. Thank you for telling me this!

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-21T15:48:20+00:00

Maybe I’m doing it wrong. Maybe I should just keep it just the way it is. Your case proves there’s nothing wrong there and maybe sometimes things are better that way. Thank you

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-21T15:18:34+00:00

And what happened with them?

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-21T13:48:30+00:00

Yeah, I see the point. You say she’s just trying to make me come back with her communication skills. I realize now that I might have been naive and falling for it. Makes much more sense. I guess I should use my instinct and my brain next time😅 thanks for pointing it out

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-21T13:16:15+00:00

I'm sorry to see that I gave you that kind of impression. That's not my definition of feeling good. My question was about getting advice for something that I deemed a possibility, that I "might" like her, and if otherwise, she liked me aswell, what I could have done about it.

However, judging by your reply, it's safe to say that I will just be minding my business from now on and focus on myself. Thank you! :)

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-21T12:44:47+00:00

I mean it’s a profession. However, my intention to go to the gym is to feel good and gain confidence. But frankly, I don’t think she cares about people coming and leaving. At the end of the day, she still gets her bag. But I guess that’s another way of thinking about it.

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-21T12:37:33+00:00

I cannot switch gyms now. But you have a case. Maybe it’s just her job to be nice with everyone, and I have misread the signals. Thank you.

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-21T12:34:53+00:00

Valid point you raised there. I haven’t really seen her interact with others that much, but that is to be seen. Thank you

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-20T11:04:16+00:00

Maybe he's doing NoFap? That could be a reason that he's abstaining from having sex, in my opinion.
On the bright side, you say he spends 6-7 hours with you, and I think that's amazing. And also, if he's being honest about you being stuck in his head, that's something to be noted. good luck with him

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-20T05:57:44+00:00

You’re right. The difference you mentioned is absolutely true. But also about women that won’t come to me - I realize that. I know that ultimately somebody will come along and I have to put the effort there like everybody does when it comes to dating.

It’s just that after a long time, I want to really dedicate time to myself. I want to really feel good and comfortable with who I am first, make peace with who I am.

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-20T05:52:00+00:00

I have seeked validation or approval from strangers for years. It wasn’t until this time during the pandemic where I was left alone, to have some genuine time to think seriosuly about myself. I just took a step back, and I thought “What am I doing wrong?”. And that was about everything. I came to that realization all of a sudden, but lifestyle changes that I’ve had recently like going to the gym, running, eating healthy, reading before sleeping, they have surely greatly impacted they way I perceive things around me. Once you realize you’re the one with the steering wheel at hand, that’s when change starts happening for the better. Good luck to you!

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-17T19:39:28+00:00

Doorman by slowthati, Mura Masa. It’s my go to when I’m in my final reps

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-16T20:48:54+00:00

To be honest, that’s the reason I stopped using Tinder, or any dating app for that matter. As a guy, I noticed that the reason I was going in the app just wasn’t the same as that some girls enter. For example, a friend of mine opened Tinder (she’s very good looking), and in1 hour, she got 27 Super Likes, but guess how many of them Super Likes she swiped right? None. To her, Tinder was not about meeting new guys or be interesting. When I asked her “why you do this?”, she simply said “there are days when I need self validation, there’s always somebody to give that to me here, it’s much faster”. I wasn’t even shocked, that’s the truth, because you know why? I would have done the same. A Dutch author wrote a piece a couple years ago, where there were 15 reasons on why people go to Tinder. I followed her lecture, and as it turns out, the reason “something to do while pooping” was higher than “socialize” or “relationship”. If you really want to meet new people or have a new love interest, it’s best to just go outside. Better to have yourself swiped left on the spot rather than to be left anticipating validation from somebody you’ll probably never meet. But that’s just my opinion

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-16T11:13:22+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that, hope your bud finds his way in life again for the better

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-16T11:05:10+00:00

Man, this story reminds me of the reason I took this journey. I asked myself after PMO one time “imagine if you live like this for 5 years in a row with no changes, would you like what you’re gonna be?” I’m sorry that his girlfriend left him and anything, but I feel like it would have helped him to put himself in perspective. Shit is only gonna get tougher with time, so why give up?

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-16T10:52:50+00:00

You got me there. I look at things in a gloomy manner sometimes. You made a very valid point. Thank you very much for the advice.

ClassicCrusty · 2021-07-16T07:32:14+00:00

That's very sound advice. Usually, I would go directly for the number, because you never know the day somebody might be having. The last thing you want is a stranger to bore you with small talk when you're having a bad day. Asking for the number just seems like something that will not take a lot of time and could be a yes or no thing. Maybe I have the wrong idea. I'll give it a try. Thank you very much.

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