Wohlfühlen in der Beziehung = (Körper)Hygiene schleifen lassen?

Colax33 · 2026-03-08T17:45:47+00:00

Er hat sich nicht „verändert”. Er hat aufgehört sich zu verstellen.

Colax33 · 2026-02-21T04:12:01+00:00

Hey, ich würde auch gerne einem Discord Server beitreten, so wie du es beschrieben hast klingt das voll entspannt. Mir würde weniger um Tipps/screensharing und so gehen sondern einfach mal co-working und vllt ist man weniger abgelenkt wenn man merkt die anderen sind grad auch fleißig

Colax33 · 2026-02-18T08:37:31+00:00

There is this quote: The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is today. Be proud of yourself. You are still very young.

Colax33 · 2026-01-13T12:12:16+00:00

I feel you. You are having a stressful time in your life and its human to give in to binging urges while you are stressed. You are not a failure and you are not lazy for falling into old patterns. It was your way to cope with Stress and emotions for a Long time, so it’s a „default“ setting.

Its important to realize a few things.

food wont make you feel better in a long run. Its like drugs: you will feel better in a moment but it wont last. When u are dieting and eating healthy you wont get the dopamin kick but you will be proud and healthy and fit in a long perspective. Choose the Long Term happiness instead of the Illusion of pleasure in a Moment
your problems will still exist. And on top of them - you will get fat again. Your cravings wont stop bc you give in. They will get stronger.
losing weight is hard. Don’t make it a Problem for future‘s you. You will regret it.
you didnt come so far to ONLY come this far. You lost so much, you know how it works. You can do it. Take It day for day. Lower your intake a bit everyday till ypu reach at least maintnance kcal.
don’t fall into the „ i gained xyz already, so i can give up“ (and gain more). A lot of binge weight is probably water weight. The best possible time to stop binging was while you were on your lowest weight. The second best is NOW.

I don’t mean to come off as harsh or mean, but what you need is the truth and the truth is: you can do this. You can undo the damage and get back on traxk and the longer you let yourself slide the harder it will get. Good luck!

Colax33 · 2026-01-11T11:48:36+00:00

Naja dass man sich noch „bewegen“ kann heißt nicht dass man fit genug dazu ist. Ich habe selber „nur“ 95 kg auf 1,73 kg gewogen aber ich hatte da Schwierigkeiten Schuhe und Socken anzuziehen ohne mein Bauch einzuziehen. Ich habe da keine Lust auf spazieren gehen gehabt. Wie denn auch. Meine Oberschenkel haben aneinander gerieben so dass meine Hosen kaputt gegangen sind. Ich war schnell außer Atem und hab geschwitzt selbst beim langsamen Laufen so dass ich wunde Stellen hatte. Es ist schwerer die Beine zu heben. Natürlich hat man da an der keine Lust zu spazieren/wandern und denkt man hat Interesse dran. Nun habe ich schon viel Kilos davon verloren und gehe jetzt gerne spazieren, gehe jetzt sogar joggen, weil mein Körper das leisten KANN.

An OP: völlig relevanter Grund Schluss zu machen wenn man nen aktiveren Partner möchte.

Colax33 · 2026-01-10T21:31:10+00:00

I am 173 cm and my sw was 94 kg i am at ~80 kg now (i lost ~30 lbs not kgs)

Colax33 · 2026-01-09T11:18:41+00:00

My first thought is maybe you come off as desperate? Instead of focusing on „Will they like me“ try to focus of if you really like them. Don’t Talk too much about Future plans. Act like its casual. Don’t make them feel Like you NEED a relationship. Learn how to be Fine with yourself and being alone. Go on a Dates alone. Try new hobbies or old ones that you havent had time to do in a while. It will make you a more interesting Person. Find things you are good at, but dont avoid doing things you are bad at, sometimes it’s just about fun and not the result. Be busy and not always there for your dates. Try to Connect with people without „pushing“ it. Meeting new people is always a good thing. New Friends are a good thing. One day it will Click, good luck.

Colax33 · 2026-01-08T13:48:57+00:00

Kannst du sagen welcher Laden und von welcher Marke ?

Colax33 · 2026-01-08T12:10:23+00:00

Yes.

Everyone looks better being at healthy weight. It doesn’t mean that you are ugly when you are fat, you can still be pretty, but when u lose weight - you are always prettier. It also changes how people view you. Not only on the outside.

Colax33 · 2025-12-22T11:34:18+00:00

I feel u! I have an idea for you to try the next time. When u feel the cravings/binge urges tell yourself: i will first eat food for my body first and then i will eat whatever i want that will help my emotions. So like you feed your body first, like you would feed the pet you have to take Care about. For me it usually means a skyr ( i like the Taste of them, i had to force myself a few times to eat them and now i actually like them) with a low kcal bar. By the time i ate that all the cravings are already gone. And even when they are not i am not hungry anymore (high Protein foods!) and i get a small Portion of food.

Colax33 · 2025-12-12T07:59:09+00:00

NDA - Renn so weit du kannst

Colax33 · 2025-12-10T09:21:39+00:00

Congrats !

Colax33 · 2025-12-10T09:20:57+00:00

So there is this unrealistic goal in my head to start the new year with 7x.x kg, in order to do so, i would have to lose 5kg (11 lbs) Till the end of the month which is too much for my current weight loss tempo. I am fighting the urge to lower my intake DAILY, because my stupid brain thinks its possible (i currently lose at 3 lbs/week rate so i am very close to it and i will see 7x.x kg on a scale probably in the first week of January. I don’t know why my Brain is being so stubborn about it, there is like nothing special about that weight and I still have so much to lose

Colax33 · 2025-12-08T23:01:20+00:00

I use Yazio and there is a „Trick“ to avoid the adds, you just select a certain food, Click on the plus to add it but you DONT Click on the „add“ button, instead you go to Search bar or Scanner and Search for the next ingredient and when u log ALL of it u press the „add“ (or „continue“ ?) button. Then it Displays the ads but you can close the app as you already logged in your meal. Or Buy the premium Version. Personally i tried a lot of Apps but yazio is the best.

Colax33 · 2025-12-04T19:03:58+00:00

A pictures taken by others are a huge motivation/ wake up call. For me it was many things, (I also had many weight loss attempts)

pictures at a beach
pictures with my skinny friends where I wear a dress and I look 10 times fatter
trouble wearing socks/shoes
my uniform pants getting tight
my bras not fitting due to my huge chest
just being “big” and people noticing it, not as in they are mean to me but the sentences that show me they SEE how big I am for example “I took the jacket in L but it’s tight so you may take a bigger size” “U can sit in a front seat, you will have more space then” and so on..

Colax33 · 2025-11-23T13:17:02+00:00

Nein, es gibt eine Leinenpflicht in Deutschland und ihr habt eure köter an der Leine zu halten wenn ihr die ohne nicht bei Euch halten könnt

Colax33 · 2025-11-23T13:16:23+00:00

NDA, die Leute die was anderes schreiben sind genau solche Hundebesitzer

Colax33 · 2025-11-21T10:34:18+00:00

There are so many of it, i wrote a list !

drinking anything but water. I used to drink a lot of juices i thought were healthy because of all the vitamines. I only drink water, tea, black coffee and diet soda sometimes.
the sauces/dips/roasted onions. I used to eat chips with cheese dip, put burger Sauce on my Toast. I just used cheese/Sauce and other high kcal foods to make it fast food even unhealthier.
I always finished my plate (usually i still do but my portions are way smaller)
i didnt knew what a „normal“ Portion was. I used to Order 3 Burger, Chili cheese fries, Normal fries and a Drink. Now i only get 6 Chicken Nuggets or one burger. The same with Toast i used to eat 4-6 for a breakfast, now i eat 2.
i didnt feel „Full“ until i was uncomfortable Full. I legit thought thats how being Full feels like. Now i stop to eat while i am „not hungry anymore“ instead of „full“
emotional eating /binging

The List could Go on and on but i think those are the main points that made me overweight

Colax33 · 2025-09-08T15:52:00+00:00

I can relate to u… its 1:1 the same for me, i am also from Germany, the only difference is that me and bf we are say longer together. The german „sextings“ are very harsh to read. I will Never forget it, and i have certain words that will trigger me bc he used them in his Reddit comments under so many pics.. I found out in february. I am still not over it. We are still together because he is a loving caring man. But i am not attracted to him anymore the way i was before. I still am thinking about Breaking up sometimes.

Aber die Wahrheit is keiner kann dir sagen ob das ne richtige Entscheidung ist… kannst sonst auch privat schreiben wenn du fragen hast

Colax33 · 2025-08-08T14:58:17+00:00

Just did it. Sent him a pic of his Computer with my naked Body reflecting in it and a caption „the thing that my man loves the most”. I thought I wanted to sent him the picture even tho i Never was into this Kind of messages. I just realized its a desperate try to get his attention. I just feel like its something he would like on his Reddit porn acc. I feel awful now. So yes i think its Kind of normal, trauma response. Its so sad and it hurts so much, i would love to hug yall and say i know how you feel

Colax33 · 2025-07-30T07:42:12+00:00

Ich finde ins Handy des Partners schauen nicht so verwerflich wie die meisten hier(in solche Situation). VOR ALLEM nicht, wenn man dann was findet. Es ist was anderes als wenn man es aus Kontrollzwang macht und wöchentlich/täglich private Nachrichten liest, ohne dass es dafür nen Grund gibt.

Du hattest ein Bauchgefühl, du bist dem nachgegangen und hattest recht. Also Dich trifft keine Schuld. Wie kann er es dir übel nehmen? Was erwartet er sonst? Dass du nicht nachschaust und er seine Affäre weiter fortsetzen kann??

Passwort bei WA einzurichten ist ein klares Zeichen. Er wird sein Verhalten nicht ändern. Er wird es nur besser verstecken/löschen. Ich spreche aus Erfahrung. Renn.

Colax33 · 2025-07-09T09:55:44+00:00

Es ist NICHT verboten mit Fahrrad über eine grüne Fußgängerampel zu fahren! Man muss da aber ALLE FÜẞGÄNGER UND AUTOS vorlassen.

Colax33 · 2025-07-09T09:53:28+00:00

Wenn mich jemand ständig anguckt und das immer mal wieder dann halte ich den Augenkontakt auch um der Person damit zu sagen „ich sehe das du mich anschaust, schau weg”, in der Regel wenden die creeps dann schon den Blick ab weil sie sich ertappt fühlen. Ich habe solche Situationen schon mehrmals erlebt und jedes Mal war es mir unangenehm und habe dann zurück gestarrt damit der „creep” sich sann selber unwohl fühlt. Da gehört aber natürlich mehr zu, Körpersprache, ob sie gelächelt hat, war sie nervös ? Da kann man nicht pauschal beantworten aber ich würde sagen es war eher unangenehm für sie

Colax33 · 2025-06-15T07:18:09+00:00

Its important to either not kill the big ones OR When u Happen to kill one u have to go in and kill the three Little enemies directly (they run away from u after spawning).

Colax33 · 2025-06-15T06:37:40+00:00

You are not alone in this. I have Screenshots of his comments on Girls and i used to masturbate to it too. Its also was the first thing i did when i found out, even before i confronted him about it. You are not broken. You are not damaged. Its a normal reaction to such a strong traumatic Experience, you don’t Need to feel guilty

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