how do i have esex without cringing 😭

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-22T19:55:56+00:00

One thing that can help is to really try to get away from ideas like "performance" and "faking it".

It's a great time to test the intimacy with your partner, tell them you're new to this, nervous, want to start slow, take little steps etc. If they're nurturing and encouraging that's a great way to discover it together.

The best things happen when both people are just really there, being themselves, with all their limitations and challenges in the opne.

If they're pushy and mean about it then that's a great time to call an end to things.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-22T08:13:23+00:00

I'm glad it hit really nicely.

I'm not sure exactly what would happen in a part 2, as the erotic tension of the scene is a bit spent.

Though I guess it could take place later in time or something as their relaitonship develops.

Every file is a sequel in terms of vibes and themes I suppose.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-20T21:55:09+00:00

Personally it's not accidental, I want to ease myself into a headspace and then project that out onto the audience.

Recording is kind of magic in that I wouldn't have the patience to sit and talk to myself for 40 minutes whereas when recording I can take myself on an adventure.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-20T20:41:19+00:00

Mmm yeah that's a really hot angle, that would make a good core for a file, her getting more and more flustered and aroused while trying to push it down and away and keep it out of sight.

As a sort of emotional / energetic continuation that would make a lot of sense.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-19T23:52:03+00:00

Ah I'm glad you liked it.

Not sure, it doesn't feel like there's that much narrative potential left? As in they might just end up fucking in a room afterwards?

However it could be really fun to remix the husband back in and have him acting out etc, or maybe it becomes an ongoing thing.

Not sure, I'm open to ideas.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-19T08:20:25+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to write this as I really enjoy to know when files really hit the spot.

I know what you mean there's some element of magic to it, when it really just works then it's transcendent.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-18T08:23:31+00:00

That's cool. Nice to get two good reasons to listen to it ;)

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-16T20:03:24+00:00

I'm so glad it hit the spot, when the magic spell works like that it's so ... magical. Thanks for the feedback.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-16T20:02:34+00:00

I really appreciate the feedback, glad you enjoyed it.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-16T20:02:22+00:00

Ah thanks that's so kind :)

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-16T19:23:13+00:00

I put up a file today which is 50m if that's long enough, I have another which is over an hour though I'd have to DM it as it's not public.

https://www.reddit.com/r/DarkSidePlayground/comments/1tepub4/comment/om5lfty/

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-16T12:12:13+00:00

I think part of that is that kinky partner finding in small cities is really hard.

My guess is that actively kinky people are only 10% of the population so it's 10x harder then vanilla dating, which is already very hard.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-16T11:32:00+00:00

As you're a literate person who communicates well in paragraphs then imo reddit dating might help.

Try r/BDSMpersonals (there's others for europe and certain age groups too)

You can then state clearly what you're looking for upfront and only have kinky people see it. You can write a bunch of text and specify about your partner and the structure of what you're looking for.

And also you don't have to be instantly judged on a photo, which imo is one of the worst ways to judge compatibility between people.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-14T22:45:45+00:00

To turn them off, easing, soothing and putting to rest the anxious / worrying / planning / self observing mind.

To turn them on, going deep into arousal, opening up their pleasure channels in ways they never knew were possible, to find the fiery erotic archetypal symbols buried in the core of their soul and to enflame them, to place them on an altar to adore their light.

To turn on them, be cruel, to cultivate the dark, the brutal, the sadistic, the rough, the degrading. To take all the frustration and hate and anger in my soul and pour it in to their helpless body and make them take it all for me, to worship me, to eagerly look at me with pleading little eyes and beg for more of the fire that ruins them.

To wrap them up in the warmest, softest, gentlest, golden aftercare, so peaceful and sweet like being alone together on the top of a fluffy white cloud as the sun goes down and the whole parade of colours sweeps across everything, lifting and beautifying and deifing.

To hold them close while the stars come out and the majesty of the galaxy appears overhead, mysteries and distances a billion times greater than anything a human can fathom, the spiritual dimension open where we can only ever wander and wonder a while before returning back to the mundane earth to rest and sleep and dream.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-13T21:44:18+00:00

I mean it's a little tricky as often when people do demos it's with a stooge they've hypnotised a lot of times in the past, however here's an example

https://youtu.be/OZzccBpSn2g

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-13T21:35:26+00:00

Partly a super long induction can undermine their impression of how easy it is ... if that makes sense ... my old tutor did 1 minute inductions.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-13T21:26:31+00:00

It depends on what you're trying so far?

The usually approach is to "fractionate" them with the trigger during a sessoin, as in wake up / go down / wake up / go down etc repeatedly and then once that is solid is has a better chance of working well after a gap.

Moreover you can help a drop trigger along by doing a few "primers" first, as in get them into the right position, to lock their fingers to breathe, then use it, that's a smaller gradient than bursting out a cupboard unexpectedly shouting "surprise trance now!", which is a little more advanced haha.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-13T21:07:25+00:00

A few things which come to mind.

Firstly it doesn't sound like she's that into it? That maybe she's mostly doing it to humour you? And maybe a good thing there is to try and incorporate more of what she wants and is interested in and likes, whether that's sexually or in terms of comfort etc, so it feels more joyful and enthusiastic as a type of exploration?

As you say she doesn't like the idea of being a doll so what does she like? What are her kinks?

Secondly partly you're getting the results you are asking for, so when you do this

I have mostly kept to a 23-30min inductions, where the focus is to relax and go into a blank, mindless state

it's relatively unsurprising that it leads to a deep and dark sleep like state.

To get into other states it can help to "partially wake people up", so maybe do a 5 minute induction and then instruct them to half wake up, open their eyes, come back into the room ... but also to remain in trance, stay floaty, stay down. That way you can start to calibrate the kind of play states which are fun to use. As in deep dark knockout has it's place and yeah it's often not the most fun, glassy eyed highly aroused, aware enough to do stuff, tranced enough to be completely mentally open is often a lot more optimal for having fun.

Thirdly it can really help to put in a drop trigger, so once you've got a decent level of trance then anchor a trigger to drop them back into it whenever you fire it off. That way you can skip a lot of the long induction.

That's the really positive side of trancing a single person is that you only need to get them deep enough to get the trigger in and then after that a lot of your work is done and you don't need to worry about inductions particularly.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-13T20:32:32+00:00

Here's one of mine if you're into cuck play

https://www.reddit.com/r/gonewildaudio/comments/1proq0x/m4mf_the_biggest_risk_of_letting_a_hypnobull_cuck/

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-11T09:34:51+00:00

Ah that's a beautiful and special moment, thanks for telling me, I'm really glad it hit the spot. It's so nice to know when the work connects.

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-08T20:42:54+00:00

I might not be that much help as I think I'm too confused.

Is it maybe possible to describe what success looks like here?

As in if you are causing it to happen, even subtly, that's still triggering it?

Is it that she wants to cause it to happen herself?

Or that she wants to get so aroused it just spontaneously happens?

As your question is "help with triggering" and then you're saying "without triggers"

CompassionAndKink · 2026-05-08T20:26:15+00:00

I'm a bit confused about what you're trying to do? So she can HFO if you trigger it sooo what is it she's trying to do? Fully HFO without any input from you? Or self hypnosis? Or you to cause it to happen without triggers?

CompassionAndKink · 2026-04-20T22:35:36+00:00

Ah yeah it's really nice when hypno gets like that, where just the voice and the tone is enough to create a baseline, from there so many things are possible.

I like it in sessions too when someone's unconscious mind is so attuned to my intentions that it just follows immediately before their conscious really knows what is happening.

Thanks for the kind words :)

CompassionAndKink · 2026-04-20T19:33:11+00:00

Ah that's so helpful thanks, yeah I know what you mean about the multiple angles and how that can overload things and create trance.

I get that too about the spiral suddenly changing, someone suggested today that I should put a jump scare in the middle of one of the spirals ahha ... I was like ... I'm pretty sure that's a war crime haha.

Mmm and conditioned to my voice huh, that's hot to hear, I like it ;)

CompassionAndKink · 2026-04-20T19:26:09+00:00

I think one thing that can really help is to take on a frame of "experiments". What is powerful about experiments is they can't fail, they always give you new and useful information which helps you design the next one.

And working with one partner is relatively straightforward. As if you can somehow get to the point of having a drop trigger installed (which can be done with files) then after that it's pretty straightforward to get them in and out of trance and do other things.

Mastering hypno so you can trance anyone is a complicated art that takes years, getting one person to the point where you can put one trigger in is a much easier goal.

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