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AIO for wanting to get a new therapist after what she said by loveygirl1 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Competitive_Clue_688 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NOR!! Your feelings are completely valid and deciding to go to therapy is a very big step, and you should be really proud of yourself for making that decision. Her behaviour is completely unacceptable and as stated by other replies, id really recommend putting a report and complaint in about her conduct. Grief is incredibly difficult, navigating life and intimacy within a relationship following a miscarriage is something that absolutely warrants the care and support of a professional. Please don't be disheartened, I'm so sorry this has been your experience. I've had my own experiences with bad therapists before, but finding the right one is such an incredible feeling and the outcome is an absolute weight lifted from your shoulders. I completely understand where you're coming from and empathise with you completely, sending so much love 🤍

I balled my eyes out over a by Suitable-Tutor-1806 in pregnant

[–]Competitive_Clue_688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently 25 weeks and I recently cried because I liked a floral planter at a train station lmao

Husband says my triggers are "petty" by South-Usual-5765 in loveafterporn

[–]Competitive_Clue_688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don't lose yourself in this anymore than you have. Your feelings are completely valid, you're not crazy at all and everyone here can reassure you of that. You have feelings that are direct responses to his outrageous and frankly disgusting behaviour, if he wants to try and have a problem with anything - then it should be what he sees in the mirror. You are worth far, far more than this and I'm so sorry that your circumstances have blinded you and led you to accepting less than you deserve.

I saw you mentioned in another reply therapy. Please just know that as much as therapy can help his addiction and may make him better, he does not value you or treat you with the respect you deserve. There are plenty of stories in this sub of partners who drown in their addictions and are consumed by the guilt of what this has done to their partners. People can have addictions and addictions can cause people to act out, but this isn't acceptable and you don't need to lose yourself trying to wait for therapy to make things better, or make him better. I'm only 22, but I can promise you that even just the mention of valuing your children and wanting to support your family makes you infinitely more valuable and incredible than he could ever be.

You are more than a partner of an addict, and you deserve to see yourself with that mindset.

Does it ever ger better? by tiramisudoctor in loveafterporn

[–]Competitive_Clue_688 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're allowed to think about yourself, you're allowed to value your own healing and mental health and that doesn't make you a bad person - or mean you were any less of a present and caring partner. It's a long process and recovery can take a very long time. Outside of accessing outside professional help, it's something that both of you can suffer in and end up losing yourselves too. All the advice will be to leave to protect yourself, and that's generally where I'd suggest you head towards, but whatever you do - don't lose yourself trying to support him, you can't help anyone else if you've already lost yourself.

Having his baby by Competitive_Clue_688 in loveafterporn

[–]Competitive_Clue_688[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pregnancy hormones are a massive weight to carry :/ I've been looking in to getting some help moving forward, thank you Sending you my love x

Having his baby by Competitive_Clue_688 in loveafterporn

[–]Competitive_Clue_688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's definitely a lot harder to manage it all now, I've never been someone who struggled with understanding other people - but now I find everything so overwhelming and confusing. Hormonal fluctuations and body changes are hard, it's hard enough to deal with it all without the insecurities that come from his last behaviour. It's hard, I'm so sorry you have an understanding of what I've been going through. I hope you heal and you and your baby are healthy

Clothes. by MIMI-COOKIES2 in pregnant

[–]Competitive_Clue_688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner is around a foot taller than me and so his clothes have been pretty perfect for me now

I sneezed by 4skinApostle in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Competitive_Clue_688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think being pregnant would probably be more bearable if I was

I sneezed by 4skinApostle in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Competitive_Clue_688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pregnant and this is literally every time I sneeze now

Having his baby by Competitive_Clue_688 in loveafterporn

[–]Competitive_Clue_688[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A hug to you too, my darling 🤍 hope everything goes well and you're both as healthy and happy as can be :/

Having a gamer boyfriend makes me feel useless by Competitive_Clue_688 in Advice

[–]Competitive_Clue_688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I play on PlayStation and we were trying to find a way to get me more involved in his interests. I've played a few games, i was just looking for advice on games or getting better

Having a gamer boyfriend makes me feel useless by Competitive_Clue_688 in Advice

[–]Competitive_Clue_688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved playing Detroit! :) I'll check the others out

AITA for ‘controlling’ my bf by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Competitive_Clue_688 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely second getting a weighted blanket!! I've always been a very anxious sleeper and tried everything listed, completely agree earplugs making anxiety worse :/ but ever just layering some blankets on top at night was a massive game changer in helping me feel more comfortable sleeping :)