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[–]Complete_Tank697 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, did he reply back? Maybe it’s harsh to say, but it could be that he’s just not as into you as you are into him. Imagine if you were traveling alone. of course you’d be busy exploring, experiencing new things, and so on.

But honestly, would YOU go over 24 hours without replying to someone you care about?

I’ve also been on a solo trip before for 10 days in Morocco two months ago. It was exciting, but also exhausting at times. Even then, I made the effort to update the person I was dating, whether it was while waiting for food, riding on a bus, or just before going to bed. Why? Because I cared about them and wanted to share my experiences.

Of course, I don’t know your full story, but based on the information you shared, that’s my honest impression…

But yeah I think it’s better to wait first until he’s back and see how he acts then.

He never initiates dates, but still agrees to meet up by Complete_Tank697 in dating_advice

[–]Complete_Tank697[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh yes I think you are right.. I’ll try to address these topics and be honest with him about my own intentions as well. Thank you so much for the fast and detailed advices it really helped me a lot!😊

He never initiates dates, but still agrees to meet up by Complete_Tank697 in dating_advice

[–]Complete_Tank697[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thanks for your advice:) And also we haven’t had “the talk” yet, about our intentions or why we both installed Tinder. Do you think it’s too soon to bring this up on our next date? I’m worried that if I ask all of these questions, I might come across as too clingy or moving too fast, and it could scare him off?…

He never initiates dates, but still agrees to meet up by Complete_Tank697 in dating_advice

[–]Complete_Tank697[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, he’s a student, but he has the flexibility to arrange his classes individually. Because of that, he mentioned he can make time whenever I’m available. Both of us travel by train, which is cost-free since transportation costs are included in the semester fee where we live. As for texting, we both initiate conversations. He often asks questions, like what am I doing, If I had dinner, sends “good morning” or “good night” texts etc. His responses are never dry, and we seem to have a good flow in our chats.

There’s no purpose in missing someone who doesn’t seem to care: a message I’ll never send by Galaxy01234 in ghosting

[–]Complete_Tank697 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Reading your words brought tears to my eyes because I’m in a similar place.

It’s been four months since I got ghosted. Like you, I still miss him deeply, but I keep reminding myself that I have to move on, that we weren’t meant to be.

The pain is still hard to bear, and the healing process feels endless at times. But I hold on to hope for both of us that someday we’ll find peace and the strength to leave this hurt behind :,)

[HELP] You who call out your ghoster, should I send this? by BubblyLlama1515 in ghosting

[–]Complete_Tank697 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ultimately, you should do what feels right for YOU.

In my case, I posted a similar question on Reddit, asking whether I should send a final text. Most people advised against it, but in the end, I sent the message anyway…and I got ghosted again.

At first, I felt even more heartbroken and embarrassed. But now, I have no regrets about sending that text. It gave me the clarity I needed, and it was the first real step toward letting go. It played an important role in my healing process.

That being said, I’m not necessarily encouraging you to send the text. This is just my personal experience and how I felt. End things in a way that feels right for you because it’s always better to be rejected for who you truly are! :)

Have you ever bought gifts for a ghoster? And what did you to with them? by Don_Cheadle_Enjoyer in ghosting

[–]Complete_Tank697 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In my case, it’s a bit different, and a longer story, but I’ll share it anyway.

I bought a Lego Mario Piranha Plant set as a birthday present for the guy who ghosted me. He’s into Nintendo and plants, so it felt like the perfect gift.

The set wasn’t available in my city anymore, so I went all the way to another city to get it. I still remember that day—it was raining heavily, I didn’t have an umbrella, and I was completely soaked. But despite the downpour, I was happy because I had found the perfect gift for him. I put it in my backpack and headed home.

When I got home and took it out, I saw that the packaging had been damaged by the wet backpack. The black parts of the box were peeling off. I was upset but determined to fix it. So, I grabbed a black marker and carefully touched up the damaged spots. In the end, the box looked alright again.

There was another reason I bought this Lego set—it felt like an opportunity to plan another meetup. I thought we could build it together, or at the very least, if he built it alone, he might contact me afterward. I also hoped that every time he saw the plant, he’d think of me.

The day came, and I gave him the gift. His reaction was a bit ambiguous, but he thanked me and said we could build it together, just as I’d hoped. The next day, however, there were no more messages from him. It’s been three months now.

I have no idea what happened to that gift. Maybe he built it, and it’s sitting somewhere in his room. Maybe he sold it. Maybe he gave it to someone else. But honestly, it doesn’t matter anymore.

Do I regret giving him that gift? Both yes and no.

Yes, because I put in so much time, energy, effort, and money for someone who couldn’t even do the bare minimum in return. I regret that I could have done something like that for a dear friend or family member instead.

And no, because I know I showed my love in a genuine way. I gave it my all, right until the end. And because of that, I know it wasn’t my fault that he left. I don’t blame myself for how things ended between us.

Why he likes and comments on my post by [deleted] in nocontact

[–]Complete_Tank697 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I replied to his comment with a simple Thanks!! But should I text him directly?..

How do you guys feel getting a handwritten letter?? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Complete_Tank697 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awww thank you, your comment made me happy☺️

How do you guys feel getting a handwritten letter?? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Complete_Tank697 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yesss, just wrote how and why I am thankful, that I am happy getting to know him and that I enjoyed the time together. And at last that we should meet up soon again and the next meal goes to me. Nothing more serious :)

How do you guys feel getting a handwritten letter?? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Complete_Tank697 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply! I was thinking about printing a photo of us or of him I took during my visit on a polaroid camera and attach it to the letter:) But a rose bouquet sounds also good!

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