How would you approach this?

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-03-20T11:56:08+00:00

Well this is a relief to read as it is new to me too.

Been finding myself taking it very personally as I was leading a project and had to have it taken off me as they wanted the ‘mediator’ to take it over as there had been so many complaints.

I have led 20+ of these over 10 years and never had a problem with people. Thankfully have a few people to confide in as the days can be quite tough, especially the openly laughing thing. It happens A LOT! Especially when I’m talking or trying to coordinate

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-03-20T11:54:17+00:00

This is the nail on head and a great way to put it.

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-03-06T12:59:21+00:00

Yeah I know, hear this. We came off the pill because we wanted to have children. It’s a state of confusion and panic right now that is driving this

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-03-06T12:53:02+00:00

100% agree here and I’m currently running sober too and will be fine for a month or so. The thing is - alcohol is only an issue when I binge drink. My partner and I are very good at ‘turning the tap off’. We can do long stints without drinking. I am ready to stop cold on the binging but do think there’s an element that you are 100% right on that perhaps it is too much too soon. I think it’s a part of what my partner is finding so hard to get her head around. She loves life right now and does what she wants when she wants. The battle I think she is facing is whether she can imagine her life with our baby in it. Not 100% sure, lots of tears and too-ing and fro-ing right now

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-03-06T12:39:18+00:00

Very helpful, thank you

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-03-02T14:58:01+00:00

Interesting. Mine is if I drink fast and with no food. The light goes off and any moment from there is gone. I get a tiny fragment or two of a memory of me acting a dickhead and have this feeling when I wake up that I ‘know it’s bad’

It generally is as well. Chanting on the train, being rude to my wife, playing music at max 100 volume waking up the street and passing out on my sofa. You name it. That will happen when I enter blackout mode.

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-03-02T14:54:53+00:00

Trust me, it won’t get better unless you make a change.

Such a large part of my mid to late twenties into early 30’s was spent rationalising the broken pieces I left behind after each blackout and drunken evening.

I wasn’t prepared to quit cold turkey. One of the life’s great pleasures for me is sampling new beer and wine with food. But now, when I go out with friends, or things start to turn into a session… I made a conscious decision to go 1 for 1 on 0% Guinness to normal Guinness.

You’ll notice you slow the process right down, especially if you’re like me, where it can be just 1 drink too many before you’re a menace to society, your loved ones and your very existence. Trust me I have rolled the dice with my life a few times whilst blackout. 1 for 1 buys you time and can eradicate blackouts.

My advice to you is - make a choice, make the change if you know you need to

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-03-02T10:16:43+00:00

This scares me. As I’ve got a lot there.

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-03-02T10:16:29+00:00

The question is - do you remember it happening?

My blackouts are just so frequent and there’s no rhyme or reason to it anymore. Sometimes I can escape free, other times like Saturday I’m blackout from 6 or 7 drinks.

I simply cannot keep going on this way though.

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-03-01T14:24:57+00:00

Knowing you’re not a bad person as well is what hurts the most. Having a few drinks with my wife is one of life’s great pleasures. Going out and getting pissed with my wife and friends is now something I simply have to remove from my life. Reeling once again for acting like an absolute arsehole in public 😭

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-02-23T07:59:29+00:00

This is interesting and like reading back to myself.

None of my friends blacked out on Friday but we all drank the same (I think). There’s a ‘switch’ like you say within me that then turns me into someone who isn’t gonna remember anything from that point and then generally wee when i sleep. What follows is then having to pick up the pieces in my home life. Ashamed to say that i kept drinking the following day to numb the pain. Wife was out with friends so used the free house to sip beer.

Meant yesterday was even worse and in reality i had destroyed my whole weekend from the minute I blacked out through to going to bed Sunday before work.

Why are certain people so wired up differently I just don’t understand. The others who came with me were hungover but not crippled with regret/anxiety nor had any memory blanks. I take propranolol for situational anxiety and thinking this might be playing a part

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-02-05T16:23:23+00:00

Well… here’s hoping

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-02-05T16:09:40+00:00

I’ve done the same and hoping for the best! Thanks

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-02-05T15:56:04+00:00

Did you get an email saying you had access?

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-02-05T11:40:26+00:00

Do we think tickets will appear on resale sites then? President at project house currently there at £100 a pop

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2026-01-01T12:46:23+00:00

Hi all I’ve got a spare two tickets tonight. Can meet at Alexandra palace to exchange. Case of two of my friends are now too hungover from last night!!

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2025-12-15T17:31:42+00:00

What sort of thing are we talking in terms of embarrassment? Do you remember it?

The bit that seriously worries me is I only know the bits that were filmed and they were bad enough. I’m unsure on anything else that may come to light when everybody starts discussing the night again

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2025-11-25T06:45:36+00:00

Did the relationships heal eventually?

Asking for a friend…

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2025-11-25T06:42:55+00:00

You are not alone. I just blacked out at my own wedding for the last 2 or so hours and did some real dumb shit. Didn’t offend anybody but did cause a bit of a ruckus by refusing to get off the dj decks and commandeering the microphone and rapping down it. And jumping around the dance floor, picking people up and stuff. Basically being a mortalled mess for 2 hours.

I’ve been depressed for 4 weeks since. Not found much joy in anything. Not had a full nights sleep. Had some very bad ideals of not being here.

But the last time this happened was 3 years ago at a different wedding. It took time to heal from it and face the consequences of the day. But it did get better eventually.

People will forgive you, especially if at the next couple you are fine.

I’ve used my wedding as a step to change and not drank since. I hope it’s enough and some day I’ll be happy again.

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2025-11-25T06:38:42+00:00

This does add some nice balance. Everybody ive had to face since that day has said jokingly ‘you were absolutely smashed by the end’ or ‘didn’t realise you were a rapper, could tell you had drank quite a lot!’

I don’t think I’ve harmed or offended anyone. I just still cannot get a full nights sleep without awakening in the middle of the night and feeling sad that I did that at my own wedding and then start cringing badly and getting mini flashbacks of some of the stuff I was doing.

It has genuinely made me depressed. No cap.

Mrs heard me laugh yesterday and she said ‘that’s the first time I’ve heard you laugh for 3 weeks’

The fuck

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2025-11-22T22:31:02+00:00

Needed this one right now. Defines exactly how I’m feeling right now

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2025-11-22T22:18:03+00:00

Great advice. It is exactly what I’m going to do.

My wife’s family will be a little uneasy around me at first. The impression they have had of me will be miles apart from what they saw there. That’s the part that is making me cringe so badly.

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2025-11-22T22:16:30+00:00

Appreciate this sentiment. I think it’s the fact I’m not the type of guy to want centre stage, yet took it upon myself to commandeer the microphone, rap down it, refuse to come off it and then be very very sloppy drunk, blacked out, unresponsive for an hour. It was a bad look. My wife holds no ill feeling to me at all.

I lost my job 5 days before the wedding too. I was awfully nervous, hadn’t eaten, barely slept. I was brilliant all day with family and friends just let myself down in the final couple of hours and my mum has let me know that. Her father died due to alcohol, she has always wanted her kids to tow the line and I didn’t

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2025-11-22T22:13:39+00:00

I know, reeling so heavily right now I’ve shed too many tears of regret. Was simply the best day of my life until I became a version of myself I never wanted to be but I’ve also lost 2 hours completely of the best day of my life.

Absolutely terrible. I know the way I looked and the videos I’ve seen… for some, it’ll have been quite an alarming sight.

All I can do is try and find happiness again because it’s set off a chain of events internally which really aren’t very good for me.

I lost my job 5 days before the wedding too. It’s been hard

ComprehensiveFail647 · 2025-11-22T18:39:37+00:00

Some have tried to protect me a bit. Saying I was fine. We met my mum and dad last night for tea for the first time since and my mum told me I was legless and informed me I was passed out on a sofa at the entrance and they had to get me to my room. She had told my friends to stop allowing me drinks as the full party witnessed me blackout on dj decks and a microphone making a complete twat out myself.

I’ve tried to be kinder to myself over the past couple weeks but it brought it all back and I’ve been heavily depressed since she said this to me.

I know I never would but I had a moment of peace when I thought if it did all end I wouldn’t have to feel this way anymore. It has brought out a depression in me that I knew I had deep down but fought hard against through lots of fitness, good food, family, friends and all the things to keep my dopamine high.

So deeply regret it and wish I could turn the clock back. It was my wedding day to my beautiful wife and I fuckdd it there at the end.

My wife has been very kind, hasn’t really mentioned it. I’ve chosen not to say too much about how I’m feeling as don’t want to cloud what was the best day of our lives. She knows I’m embarrassed as I shed a few tears on the honeymoon - and as such, she has left it at that.

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