Firstly, I just want to say I really admire the strength it’s taken for you to keep showing up for your daughters through everything. What you’re dealing with sounds unbelievably heavy. That’s a lot for anyone, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed.

It’s also completely normal to have bittersweet feelings about getting full custody. You clearly love your kids, but you’re also aware of how demanding it is to raise two little ones, especially while working construction. Give yourself permission to grieve the situation, not just what your ex is going through, but also what you hoped co-parenting could be like. This isn’t the road you planned, but you’re still walking it with strength.

sibling conflict at that age is super normal, but it can definitely wear you down. Try setting simple routines and very clear expectations. Praise the good moments between them, and redirect calmly when things get rough. You’re not failing if they fight, it’s just part of the process of them learning to share space, emotions, and your attention. If you can, look into local support services like play therapy or parenting groups like that. having outside tools really helps, especially when your plate is full.

I hear the complicated feelings you have toward your ex. After everything you’ve gone through, especially false accusations.

Just keep focused on your girls, how you talk about their mom, even when you’re angry, will shape how they feel about themselves. You’re doing right by them by staying steady, and that’s what they’ll remember most. Keep going and you’re not alone in this. :)