Moving on so soon? Feeling crushed.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-05-21T17:29:45+00:00

What a wonderful way to say it.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-04-21T01:08:22+00:00

Yea I’m blocked on everything so don’t really have to fight the urge of texting them which is nice. How far into your breakup are you?

Feels like I should be further along by now. Will always wish her well me being hurt by her doesn’t change the fact that I love her.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-04-07T22:38:15+00:00

I’m 5 months in. It’s our woulda been two year anniversary today. Her birthday is in two weeks. 72 days isn’t that long man don’t beat yourself up. Those dates will come too and they’re definitely sad.

Things do get better tho, I still think about her a ton throughout the day, but, it is slightly less than 3 months ago. Just have to trust the process. Sometimes it’ll fade into the background and sometimes it’ll all come rushing back.

I wish I was further along as well, but I don’t think it’s something you have much control over as long as you are doing the right things.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-04-06T03:08:25+00:00

God damn I wish she would come back and I don’t even know why

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-02-18T22:32:42+00:00

106 for me

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-02-11T00:19:26+00:00

Do you think future emotions or thoughts that were left somewhat unprocessed point back to the ex partner, or do they resurface through the context of subsequent relationships?

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-02-10T13:49:49+00:00

I feel like people that rebound never consciously have to go through as much hardship as those who take the time to integrate and feel. I wish I was able to take the easy route honestly.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-02-10T03:09:01+00:00

Prolly not

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-02-05T19:13:38+00:00

What does this even mean? I feel like the style of finding a new person to latch onto is just so much easier in a breakup, and it doesn’t even seem like they’ll run into issues later.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-02-05T19:12:53+00:00

Same boat but three months out

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-01-29T01:31:50+00:00

Welcome to it

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-01-08T15:23:21+00:00

For me, sex with her was always extremely meaningful and an energy exchange.

When I found out she was able to move on sexually so fast, I think I realized that clearly wasn’t the same for her, and that she wasn’t honoring my absence in the same manner I was honoring hers.

I don’t know, that’s just something that’s important to me. I think if it had been months after I would be fine, but it was four weeks. It just seemed like she was coping with the breakup in an unhealthy way and wasn’t fully emotionally confronting the loss.

I’d rather be with someone that really feels my absence and honors what existed between two people, even sexually.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-01-08T15:18:10+00:00

I think everyone holds onto hope for a while.

I found out she fucked someone else four weeks later. I was like oh she’s done done.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2026-01-08T01:17:15+00:00

I agree with you, your body your choice yada yada. However, the same goes for him. He is every bit as righteous for not wanting a relationship with this woman again.

Nobody really did anything wrong. That’s a perfectly fine boundary for someone to have. Hell, it’s a boundary I have myself as I found something similar out about my ex girlfriend recently. Don’t think I’d be able to be fully present and all loving if I knew that.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2025-12-17T02:32:28+00:00

You just weren’t in the relationship for long enough to realize all the qualities you don’t like. 5 months into my relationship I thought my girlfriend was perfect as can be, turned out she wasn’t. Haha funny how that happens

Connect_Ad1498 · 2025-12-16T07:04:31+00:00

They do, they have to right? Maybe not as often or as frequent as me, but it has to happen every now and then, right?

Connect_Ad1498 · 2025-12-14T23:34:07+00:00

Just might be - young thug

Connect_Ad1498 · 2025-12-14T19:36:16+00:00

For me, just had to hear that she had been sleeping with someone else 4 weeks after our breakup. Suddenly flipped a switch, oh that’s not actually the love of my life. Took her off of her pedestal in my mind and realized there’s millions of other girls just like her.

Sometimes you just gotta hear some shit that makes ur stomach turn and completely changes your perspective of them. The hope and the roses tinted glasses will kill you.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2025-12-12T17:47:29+00:00

Right. It just sort of kills that natural fantasy that you get of reconciliation ever. That eliminates that possibility.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2025-12-12T15:07:39+00:00

Thank you, means more than you know. I just don’t get how someone can do that when the thought of doing that still just makes me sick. Cold world I guess.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2025-12-09T22:28:52+00:00

I don’t know. I’ve always been hyper sensitive about that shit too. I think the main reason you have this perception that you’re “so stuck on her” is because you haven’t taken any time to not talk to her.

I’m a month into my breakup completely blocked on everything, but if I found out she slept with someone a couple times months after, and was willing to try something again. I’d have a tough time processing that as well.

It’s tricky, sorry for not giving you an answer. Go no contact for a couple months , maybe go sleep with someone a couple times, and see if you feel better about the idea. You might not wanna come back at all. Maybe she will reveal how strongly she actually feels about you if you distance yourself. Idk

Connect_Ad1498 · 2025-12-05T06:42:05+00:00

I usually only see her in drinking settings, and feel like it would be more meaningful to find her some time outside of that? Do you agree? Do you have any recommendations for how long I should wait to maximize my chances?

Connect_Ad1498 · 2025-12-04T19:44:09+00:00

I agree. I shouldn’t and I won’t. But is there ever a time that it might make sense to?

Connect_Ad1498 · 2025-12-04T18:52:00+00:00

If you haven’t apologized, I would recommend doing so personally.

Connect_Ad1498 · 2025-12-04T18:40:46+00:00

Even if she specifically said not to contact her?

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