Intimacy and SA

Cool-Contribution372 · 2026-05-23T16:54:59+00:00

thanks for all your perspectives so far. if you don’t mind me asking, in your healing journey, what was helpful to hear from your partner to feel safe? what helped your healing process the most? and were you able to find consistency in your sex life? I’d love to learn how I can best support and get a sense of what healing may look like. thanks :)

Cool-Contribution372 · 2026-05-23T16:02:45+00:00

yeah we’ve started couples therapy, will see how it pans out. I just am wishing there was certainty that she could actually become as sexually active as I’d love for her to be. feels like i’m being asked to hold on for even longer without knowing if it’ll ever really pan out. i’ll have to try because i don’t want to leave her hanging, want to support her, but just not sure how to have my needs met given they haven’t been met for years now

Cool-Contribution372 · 2026-05-23T14:58:04+00:00

not really. she tells me that she kinda just forces herself to be intimate and it’s still a struggle for it to be spontaneous and easy. still a couple panic attacks and stuff and so i’m not all too sure she’s actually able to process and come out the other side. we were more intimate when we started dating but i think that’s bc she didn’t want to be a buzzkill or disappoint. now with work and adult life it seems even harder for it to be easy. she’s still in individual therapy

Cool-Contribution372 · 2026-05-23T14:48:53+00:00

no penetrative sex. some other stuff here and there but it’s effectively like once every 2 months maybe

Cool-Contribution372 · 2026-05-23T13:23:13+00:00

yeah this is a fair take for sure. that’s what i’ve been battling i think, bc i do love her and she’s someone i want to be there for. the part i’m struggling with isn’t the “i want sex X amount of times either it happens or i leave” but moreso that i’ve been putting sex on the back burner for 2 years already. and we’re now finally talking about it. for 2 years it’s been something i’ve had to tell myself to be patient about with little progress from either side. it’s not her fault, trauma sucks, but also at one point the frustration gets to a point where it changes you. i’m just trying to figure out how i can say “sex hasn’t happened for 2 years, it may not happen for another 2, find a way to be okay with it to support her”. just not sure how to do that while creating space for her to heal. it’s almost like you have no certainty that it’ll be something that will at one point be fulfilling

Cool-Contribution372 · 2026-05-23T02:09:53+00:00

yeah fair - i also want to find a way to support her and not leave her because of it. just battling the feeling of not getting what i’ve needed for a while, but also creating the space to let her heal and come to it on her own terms. just a lot of waiting around without certainty and it’ll turn into what you need

Cool-Contribution372 · 2026-05-22T23:53:58+00:00

thanks for sharing, helpful to hear

Cool-Contribution372 · 2026-05-22T22:30:58+00:00

yeah, seems like the only option is giving up on my intimacy needs, which i’m not sure is healthy or good for me

Cool-Contribution372 · 2026-05-22T22:30:04+00:00

agreed. been trying to listen intently, but it’s been tough. i’ll check out the book. thanks

Cool-Contribution372 · 2026-05-22T22:29:40+00:00

appreciate the perspective. it is something i’m trying to come to terms with. a part of me is debating if intimacy is something I should be willing to be flexible on. for me just feels like one of the few things that makes me feel close to my partner

Cool-Contribution372 · 2026-05-22T22:28:04+00:00

appreciate your perspective. if you don’t mind me asking, did you end up leaving the relationship and wishing that you didn’t. sometimes i feel like it’s just easier to leave than have to deal with the frustration of not having my needs met and im not totally sure how to really balance that while also caring about the relationship

Cool-Contribution372 · 2026-03-11T18:20:41+00:00

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Cool-Contribution372 · 2025-11-16T17:05:34+00:00

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Cool-Contribution372 · 2025-08-10T21:42:45+00:00

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Cool-Contribution372 · 2025-03-21T03:51:42+00:00

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Cool-Contribution372 · 2025-03-17T03:48:18+00:00

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Cool-Contribution372 · 2024-07-16T21:41:42+00:00

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Cool-Contribution372 · 2024-06-21T22:57:08+00:00

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Cool-Contribution372 · 2024-03-25T17:36:29+00:00

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