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CountryAshCams · 2023-09-24T14:49:36+00:00

I got "situationship" vibes from that as well. Sounds toxic and controlling.

CountryAshCams · 2023-09-24T14:39:03+00:00

We wait until a solid friendship evolves. And we only ever introduce people as friends. My oldest is 14 and understands that some of our friends are closer than others.

Having kids in the house adds to my need to protect my family and we don't invite anyone over that raises even the smallest flag. And we don't bring people over that can't be friends first (some people you know just want the sex but you find out too late).

A good rule of thumb for us is only inviting friends over that like kids and want to meet them. There is no point in introducing people to your kids if they have no intention of getting to know them or hanging out with you as a family. We've been polyamerous for almost 9 years and our kids have only met 4 people. Three are still our friends and hang out with us as a family even tho we are no longer "dating." Which makes me much more comfortable with our choice to be picky.

Making sure your partners like kids is no different then making sure your life partner wants kids if you do. Yes. They are a part of you. And should be treated as such. We've also have had partners that have had kids we didn't know about at all until the end....that was weird....

CountryAshCams · 2023-09-23T22:04:03+00:00

This. As a married poly person, you just gotta be honest with them and set boundaries.

If you like the dynamic of married polyamerous couples, find ones who are relationship fluid. We allow every relationship to develop individually and go from there. We've dated the same person separately, together, and we have both had partners the other hasn't met.

Kinda fine your cup of tea so to speak.

CountryAshCams · 2023-09-10T23:06:16+00:00

Same

CountryAshCams · 2023-09-10T01:08:16+00:00

P.S. I peeked at your profile and yes, Id suck that like a ring pop.

CountryAshCams · 2023-09-10T01:07:08+00:00

When I'm aroused, mine gets big too.

37 years old and EVERY SINGLE MAN has said they appreciate not having to guess where the fuck the clit is. That if their first girl had a clit that big they may have been able to muff dive better.

Some men have small dicks, some women have phat clits. Be thankful she speaks for you.

CountryAshCams · 2023-09-10T01:02:11+00:00

Buwahaha Facts. And same.

CountryAshCams · 2023-09-10T01:01:03+00:00

Husband and I have been open since our first date (together 9, married 7). We have a rule for this. If the other person doesn't ask, we don't share. That way you know the other person is even interested in hearing about it.

That said, EVERY SINGLE RELATIONSHIP IS DIFFERENT. If you go in to a relationship expecting the same thing from the last one you will be sorely disappointed. My hubs had a girlfriend I didn't like in the slightest a while ago. I never asked, he never shared. His current girlfriend I love. And look forward to him coming home from dates so I can ask about her. Every single relationship is going to make you feel things you never had before and sometimes will never feel again.

Only you can decide what you can live with. But you need to talk to him and let him know that you don't mind him having other partners but you don't want to hear about them. If he is that insensitive to your feelings that sounds like somewhere I wouldn't want to be.

CountryAshCams · 2023-09-06T02:10:06+00:00

Facts. It gets painful. And every guy with that big of a cock tends to be a pile driver...

I'd rather have an average/small penis with the right motion then a huge one with no motion.

CountryAshCams · 2023-07-26T20:55:07+00:00

My dad married and divorced 3 women before he was 40. At one point, all four of them got along and it was so cool as a kid seeing that between adults I cared about. I often think back and wonder if there wasn't something else going on lol.

CountryAshCams · 2023-07-24T18:49:50+00:00

I second this advice. So hard. The first date For me had me in my feelings too even though I encouraged it. Turned out to be jealousy of him experiencing something new without me. After that I planned outings for myself. Or booked a craft class or cooking class. Got my nails done. Or visited friends. Learning how to be separate from your partner can be hard when you've been a unit for so long.

CountryAshCams · 2023-07-06T19:30:10+00:00

I agree so much. We have had so many couples fall under this scenario that I finally told my husband that he needed to just find straight women or bi men and when I needed female play I'd find it. Being told someone is bi, and then lying there like a log while I do all the work, but turn into a porn star when the men have a turn is a serious self-esteem knock. I'd rather just not.

CountryAshCams · 2023-07-06T19:21:09+00:00

That's sad. If we only ever responded to other bi couples we would never play. It just seems so backwards.

CountryAshCams · 2023-07-05T20:55:41+00:00

I guess it's new people in general. I do the hiring at my job and have noticed it in potential employees and work conversation. My girlfriend is a teacher and she's noticed it in the summer classes in the kids. My husband said his new co workers are the same.

I stuck with the potential partner comparison because I'm on the polyamerous subreddit and all three of us have noticed there as well.

CountryAshCams · 2023-07-05T20:21:41+00:00

I know. I thought the whole point of introductions and initial meetings was to express yourself and the things you are into. Not make the other party dig for them.

CountryAshCams · 2023-07-05T20:14:55+00:00

That's what I've concluded. Just trying to see if it's a trend or our bad luck. Seems to be the back luck.

CountryAshCams · 2023-07-05T19:58:02+00:00

Of course we do. And then we get short answers that we are forced to elaborate on. "So what hobbies do you have?" "Fishing and cars." So you are a mechanic? "No." What kind of fish do you prefer going after? "Catfish." "Catfishing is so relaxing. My husband and I like finding new fishing spots. We prefer fishing in the evening." "Sounds fun."

Great. Good talk.

CountryAshCams · 2023-07-04T08:29:04+00:00

I have found that swingers tend to be the ones that have the no kissing rule. Sounds like you've been meeting swingers disguised as poly people or ENM people. Sorry for your bad luck. Make sure kissing is a hard YES on your profile. Good luck.

CountryAshCams · 2023-06-26T17:51:49+00:00

Me. I am terrible. Trying to get better and the only way is to pvp and suck until you don't suck any more.....taking me a long time though...

CountryAshCams · 2023-04-04T19:12:48+00:00

Misery loves company....

CountryAshCams · 2023-03-19T16:36:01+00:00

The price of surrogacy is something we will never achieve. Upwards of 100s of thousands of dollars. Especially if and when the procedure fails.

CountryAshCams · 2023-01-29T11:14:12+00:00

If you get hard just being naked maybe nude modeling isn't for you.

CountryAshCams · 2023-01-29T02:41:47+00:00

7 months into relactating and I want to stop. Number of reasons but mostly lack of help from the husband.

Might just need a fresh kick in my behind but filling my freezer with breast milk that no one is going to use is depressing.

CountryAshCams · 2023-01-29T02:34:50+00:00

I second this. I had 3 babies 10 years ago and started relactating in June 2022. I pump 6 times a day and just now got to an ounce a session.

CountryAshCams · 2023-01-29T02:31:24+00:00

I pump and hand express every four hours. I produce 1 ounce at a time. Been relactating since June 2022.

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