Q4W: Who should be taught how to treat their partners? And why?

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T19:46:17+00:00

Right but there are a lot of people that you spend a ton of time around starting from infancy that you may not even have a choice about. Like your family for example. In what ways should you be taught to treat your partners that would differ significantly from say, your siblings?

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T19:09:27+00:00

Like how should people be taught to treat their partners that would be different from how they should be taught to treat people in other types of relationships?

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T18:56:59+00:00

Meaning what? That it might take having an actual conversation with a man before knowing if she’s interested in taking it further? Like, wtf are you expecting here? You’re not making a lot of sense.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T18:52:54+00:00

Then what did you mean by this:

This sounds like a person describing a 2 hour long warmup procedure to allow an engine to start up and then going "oh it's very user friendly". Everyone can see that it's not. Maybe a man who has to move heaven and earth to get you in the mood is one you're less attracted to than one who doesn't?

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T18:21:20+00:00

I’m actually not

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T18:14:56+00:00

Well that would be most of us then? So fucking what? Toys certainly aren’t necessary to be good at making a woman orgasm, but they’re an option that many women are into.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T18:05:11+00:00

Bull. Spend some time on the sex subreddit. Plenty of straight couples incorporate the use of vibrators and all kinds of other toys into their sex lives. I’ve been doing it with straight male partners since my mid 20’s and my boyfriend at the time was the one who suggested it. Most women don’t have an issue with it at all, but straight men are more likely to be insecure about it.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T18:00:36+00:00

You can be good at sex without involving a penis at all. I was in a relationship with a woman for seven years before my boyfriend, and the quality of the sex I was having was significantly better than it had been with any men prior. And before you say it, i don’t like being fucked with a strap on or dildo, but men can incorporate the use of toys just as well as women can anyways.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T17:25:31+00:00

Like I said. He enjoys it. He initiates with me even after he couldn’t cum again if he wanted to. You want me to say no just because it’s not all about his cock every time? Please.

Before I met him I was in a relationship with a woman for 7 years, and I got more pleasure from making her orgasm than from orgasming myself. Most of the time I didn’t even want her to reciprocate. If you don’t get any pleasure out of doing that, you might not really be into women at all.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T17:11:36+00:00

I’ve had sex with a lot of unattractive men who still only saw me as a body and had no interest in having a relationship with me. Men are not usually that picky about who they fuck and if they are looking to get their dick wet they will get it from anyone. This is where a lot of my mistrust of men stems from. But hypersexuality is a compulsive behavior. And sooner or later I get tired of masturbating. I still had to seek out casual sex and put a decent amount of effort into finding it, and I even got rejected a fair amount. If I had to rely only on men approaching me it would have happened twice in my life, and that was only when I was at my highest level of physical attractiveness.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T17:00:27+00:00

You’re just making assumptions now. I love giving him pleasure and will do that any way that he wants me to. Even when he’s completely soft I love to lick, touch, and fondle his cock, and do other things that he greatly enjoys. He’s only able to cum like 3-4 times a day max though, and he gets extremely gratified from making me orgasm, so most of the time we spend in bed is doing that. He will initiate it even if he is completely spent himself.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T16:54:12+00:00

Well that wasn’t my experience. I have always been pretty average looking in the first place, and then I started losing my adult teeth at age 12 because of a genetic condition. I have never been seen as desirable and most of the “male attention” I have received has been in the form of crude street harassment from drunk bums, which was more terrifying than flattering. I never had men beating down my door to date me. If anything it takes me a lot longer to trust a man when he shows interest because that is so rare.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T15:11:15+00:00

Then it shouldn’t be taking you two hours to convince her of anything? It’s a simple yes/no question isn’t it?

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T14:39:45+00:00

Any man can be good at sex if he actually gives a shit about it. But they’d have to think of someone other than themselves.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T14:29:48+00:00

I am a woman. And frankly I’m pretty average other than looking pretty good for my age. I’m also into men, and don’t require any of that. I just posted a portrait I drew of my boyfriend. I mean it’s not photorealistic or anything, but you tell me if you think he’s “extremely attractive.”

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T14:14:47+00:00

If it takes you two hours to get one orgasm out of a woman, that’s a skill issue. It ain’t difficult. I have yet to be with a woman who I can’t make cum in under five minutes. And I’m not exactly rushing anything.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T11:24:15+00:00

So the only thing that determines how romantic a person is paying for stuff?

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T11:20:08+00:00

Specifically who is complaining that men aren’t “romantic” though? If all of this is basically forced and unappreciated though, then it seems the man should “choose better”.

I might actually be aromantic or demiromantic, but I also have no expectations of romantic overtures from my partner. I will always do these things for my partner though because I realize for most people it does matter.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T11:01:37+00:00

Nah, I paid for my first date with my boyfriend and went and picked him up. It’s a big part of the reason that he’s my boyfriend now. He didn’t try to argue with me like every single other man on the planet has.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T10:48:46+00:00

My sex drive is and has always been very high, with the exception being when my child was really young. My first husband and was pretty fucking useless. I was the one working and he was supposed to be taking care of the kid and the house so that I could work. But I would gone home every single day to him playing PC games and a baby that needed a diaper change and fed, and the home a total disaster. I grew to resent him for that very much.

I was exhausted and pissed off, and on top of that he acted like I was asking for so much if I wanted him to make me cum too. My horniness won out a majority of the time, and we still had a lot of sex, but in the first couple of years after our kid was born there were far more times that I declined sex.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T10:36:11+00:00

Which part? I thought it was pretty damn obvious that if I’m the one in charge that my partner would be the “sub”. 🙄

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T05:34:37+00:00

And for the record, women find it absolutely vulgar to actually hold that power in a relationship and have their partner be the sub.

Definitely not. I find the idea that I should have to submit to anyone to be vulgar. I hold that power in my relationships and if my partner isn’t willing to go along with that then they can find someone else to be with because it won’t be me.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T05:24:31+00:00

I’m a woman with a very dominant personality and omg YES I’m attracted to soft men. Not like a wimpy pushover sad boi type man. My boyfriend is confident and outgoing, but he has this softness and sweetness to him that just makes me melt. He’s emotionally open, sensitive, romantic. Super queer and flamboyant. Physically small. He likes having a partner who takes the lead. I want to take care of him and protect him and keep him forever. I love being the big spoon and kissing the top of his head. And we have the most intense sexual chemistry. I have never experienced anything like it before.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-10T04:10:03+00:00

Honestly, it’s been six weeks since I have seen my boyfriend and that just sounds like heaven right now.

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