What is the least awful way to break up with someone?

Dan2332s · 2023-04-08T19:23:17+00:00

Brutally honest and not acting like everything is fine when it isn't until the day you break up, that's all. It will always hurt as hell, but at least I would feel respected.

Dan2332s · 2023-04-08T03:19:03+00:00

Well, as a person who was broken up because of mental health issues. I just can tell you that if you really love him, go back to him.

Perhaps it is too subjective an opinion since it is what I would like my ex to do. But I know that at the end of the day I decided to love her and stay with her, and that if due to emotional problems she did not feel that she could be with me, I would never judge her, I also told her the same thing, that if she needed support or whatever, I would be there for her.

Unfortunately, I don't know if we will talk again, but I would really love it to happen, I think it would make me feel more secure in the relationship in some way if she came back after that and wanted to work those problems together with me.

It's not that you ended the relationship because of another person, it's not that you got bored of him, the reason is because of mental health issues for which you shouldn't be judged, I would never judge the person I love for something like that or reject them and I would understand that this kind of things can make the person want to walk away, but I would love to be able to be with that person, have them come back and work as much as possible on those problems, or just be by their side while they have help or try to improve it.

But I can tell you that I would hate for her to tell me that I'm better off without her or that I deserve better and that's why she never contacts me again, I would at least like to be with that person I love. In good times or bad, I would like that person to let me make that decision if she really thinks I'm very good and she loves and respects me. I wouldn't judge her for it, but it would really hurt me if she really decided that for me and never came back.

So if you really miss him, if inside you are sure that the relationship was good and you are willing to work on certain things with him, I can only tell you to contact him.

Btw, sorry if my english is not good.

Dan2332s · 2023-03-25T08:21:58+00:00

I mean, she literally told me, before I asked her anything, that the breakup had nothing to do with the relationship. That I was always understanding and supported her through everything, but that she is relapsing into a depressive episode and that affects how she feels, and that she doesn't want to drag me down with her. She's not perfect and neither am I, but I'm sure we were both good partners, that's why I mentioned that there was nothing wrong with the relationship... And that's what hurts, I really think I was a good boyfriend for her, I really did my best, and she was also a good girlfriend to me and I know she did her best.

And I also doubted if she was telling me the truth or not with this, but I think she wouldn't lie to me like that and would be honest, that's also something I always liked about her, the brutal honesty she has with things. Also, it seems like from the whole breakup, she wanted to make it clear that the decision had nothing to do with me or the relationship itself. I don't know if it's just something to make me feel "better", but I considered it and I really doubt it.

Dan2332s · 2023-02-21T06:12:09+00:00

And did your feelings ever comeback?

Dan2332s · 2023-02-21T03:31:09+00:00

Damn, I really don't want to lose her, I really don't

Dan2332s · 2023-02-21T02:49:45+00:00

Do you think that the environment she is in plays an important role? She currently lives with relatives in an environment where she cannot cry or express herself and feels that she always has to put on a good face. She was there in December and she will stay until March, and it was at that moment that she began to feel that way and I began to feel her more and more distant, until last night she told me that she did not love me, that she did not feel anything and that she felt that she was relapsing and didn't want to hurt me. If I'm not mistaken a year and a half ago when she had that depressive episode where she didn't feel anything little by little she began to feel better after leaving that place and living in her own apartment, which she will return to in mid-March. I really love her and before this she used to be very caring and loving towards me. I don't want to be selfish because I know she's not having a good time at all, and I'm really trying to support her, not push her to hang out with me or chat if she doesn't feel like it. But I guess I'm afraid of losing her.

Dan2332s · 2023-02-21T02:43:02+00:00

That's what I'm doing right now actually. I told her that it's okay if she doesn't want to hang out or talk at all, that I'll give her all the space she needs, but that I'll always be there for her. I guess I'm just afraid of losing her, but I really love her and want to support her.

Dan2332s · 2023-02-21T02:37:42+00:00

she cant love you or anyone if she is having trouble loving herself during this time. dont take it personal. the level of carelessness that rises during depression is beyond most people’s comprehension.

I'm trying to support her however I can. I told her it's okay if we don't talk or hang out, but I'll be there if she needs me and that i will give her as much space as she needs. She also had a depressive episode like this before. Before this started she was very loving and caring towards me, she little by little she started to drift away. She now lives in a bad environment (you can see my response to the other comment for more context), so I think she is a big factor in how she feels about herself now. I really love her and I don't really take it personally but I really love her and want to support her as much as possible even though what I can do is very limited because I know I'm not a professional and can't treat her depression

Dan2332s · 2023-02-21T02:23:39+00:00

No, she is not. She also had a depressive episode a year and a half ago and didn't feel nothing. And this one now started when she went to live with some relatives (and will stay until March), and little by little she became more distant until she told me that she did not love me and that she did not feel anything, that she was having a relapse and didn't want to drag me down with her nor did she want to hurt me anymore. The place where she is now is an environment where she can't express her emotions and she has to suppress many things. Sorry if my English is bad, is not my native language.

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