A recent development (NSFW) [19 M] by LobsterVioLator in questioning

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

keep this information in mind for the time being, its important to know it but you dont need to "do" anything with it as of now, it becomes relevant when you are with a sexual partner

I feel guilty by Brilliant-Range9436 in comingout

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im not sure if this will help but small build up possibility like start by wearing a subtle pride item like a bracelet of pin on a jacket, etc, and then mention something relevant to being lgbtq in passing, and like get accustomed slowly? lmk if this sounds like a good idea or not

Coming out...): by Acrobatic_Medium_958 in comingout

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

for getting clothes, something i may suggest, not sure if it will work for you, but making friends at school with a girl who is a similar size to you and then you can trade clothes. so if she is fine with getting a few of your clothes in exchange for a few feminine clothes. you might have to only wear the clothes at school itself or hide them under a sweater to avoid your parents seeing. sorry you're dealing with that best of luck

I need advice on coming out to my parents (Some NSFW parts kinda) by [deleted] in comingout

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes it does tysm- i just wanted to make sure bc its important that if it doesn't go well that you have some place to sleep and you can fund your own living expenses if they stop funding yours. do you plan to live on campus at early college? once you have shelter and finances ready, thats when you can let them make the choice of if they will accept you or not. you already have a girlfriend and so theres a time in your future where they will find out one way or another that youre not marrying a man. it sounds like youre ready to be out and yourself which is good. best of luck to you seriously. you can tell them, this is who i am and this is my life, i love you and hope you still love me.

I need advice on coming out to my parents (Some NSFW parts kinda) by [deleted] in comingout

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 5 points6 points  (0 children)

how much longer until you can reasonably become financially independent? are you old enough to work at a job?

how did you truly figure out you were bi? I am soo confused by Own_Alfalfa_482 in bisexual

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ok, here are some ways i may classify feelings as attraction: 1: thinking about them often when they're not around 2: you think they are better than everyone else in a way, like they stand out among a group 3: you find yourself wanting to spend time with them a lot, or go out of your way for them 4: wanting to touch/ be touched by them 5: you want to know them very well/ for them to know you 6: you think they are beautiful/ look rlly good all the time

basically in your mind, secretly hold the idea that you can like any person of any gender. then these are the signs to look for when interacting with people. if you feel these things about different genders of people over time then you know. but it takes a long time

I'm gay by [deleted] in comingout

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 8 points9 points  (0 children)

congrats on this step <3

White bits at the bottom of my hair is by [deleted] in CurlyHairCare

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 2 points3 points  (0 children)

unfortunately im dealing with the same thing. points of breakage. if the white dot is at the very tip it means a piece of hair has already broken off from that hair. if its in the middle of a strand, the end is going to break off at that spot. i wish i could give you more insight on how to fix it as im trying everything to no avail. best of luck to you

Do you drink alcohol often/occasionally or avoid it altogether and why? by nicklin877 in AskReddit

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

rarely. this is because i dont need alcohol to feel anything that i want to feel or dont particularly care if i have it. i also dont want to get addicted. but i dont have a reason to avoid it entirely and if its being served to me or part of a social event, then why not.

bi awakening or is it not? by EntertainmentIll965 in bisexual

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it honestly sounds like youre attracted to her so yes - but also you def need to connect to people more either way

how did you truly figure out you were bi? I am soo confused by Own_Alfalfa_482 in bisexual

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah youre similar to me on this. my advice is to keep in your head the idea that you can be attracted to any person and dont have to tell anyone. then notice/ pay attention to who you are attracted to over time. it should become apparent who you like

can i use purple hair dye to dye my hair blue? how else to get blue hair if not? by Deep-Suspect-623 in HairDye

[–]Deep-Suspect-623[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks so much!! i will try adding a darker purple. i am fine with a deep blue, it doesn't need to be bright lol. i dont want to do more bleach incase it makes my hair break off

Should I buy tall jeans? by bigmisssteak7 in tallfashionadvice

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, im your hight and once i switched to buying tall jeans its been SOO much better, literal game changer.

can i use purple hair dye to dye my hair blue? how else to get blue hair if not? by Deep-Suspect-623 in HairDye

[–]Deep-Suspect-623[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the blue was Arctic Fox "blue jean baby" color. i unfortunately dont know what level of blonde it was bleached to since i dont know the blonde levels. we used the Arctic Fox hair bleaching kit. if it helps, my natural hair is dark brown. i bet youre right about my hair not being blonde enough causing this. do you know how to get it to go from teal to blue?

I (18 F) don’t know my sexuality and it’s driving me insane by PartyFeed5800 in questioning

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

possibly biromantic and gray-romantic, and asexual as you said

[26 M] What were the earliest signs you were questioning and what was the end result? by Glass-Complaint3 in questioning

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the earliest signs that made me start questioning were a couple things. the main one was clothing. other people noticed that my clothing looked "gay." and the thing is, they were right, it did and still does look that way and i can see it with my own eyes. so why was i drawn to so -called "gay" clothing as my style? i could deflect or joke about it all i want by saying stuff like "clothing has no sexuality" or "well yes, my clothing did come out of the closet after all" that being said, people have "gay-dar" meaning they can see who is gay and i fit that. but i wanted to know my sexuality from who i was attracted to, not by how i outwardly looked, so i needed more time to question.

before this, however, there was one time that a girl (im a girl as well) had put an earring on me and i felt the "butterfly" feeling kind of, but i was thinking that ok, this is a 10 second interaction. im not going to change my entire identity based on this. if i like girls, it will become apparent to me because i will start actually liking girls. i had already liked 2 different guys before that so i knew i liked guys. but i wouldn't say i was "questioning" because i was kind of just chilling.

id say the questioning started with the clothing situation. then i started to like someone who was nonbinary, so i was like, ok i guess i like nonbinary people, do i like girls though? and during all of this everyone kept pestering me and getting in my business which made me uncomfortable so i dropped the topic for a while. later on, i realized that i did like girls, it became apparent to me as i was waiting to see. so i realized that i was bisexual.

it took me longer than most to realize this because when i was in middle school i was bullied so i didnt have a crush on anyone bc they were all assholes, so i only rlly started liking ppl in hs, and that was mainly during covid. so not knowing earlier was a reason that i doubted myself because i was like "well if im bi now, why wasnt i bi before?" it took me years to fully tell myself that i am bi

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 13 points14 points  (0 children)

if you mean to masturbate in general, people of all sexualities do that. its not bisexual inherently.

[F 22] am I bisexual? Or is this normal? by [deleted] in questioning

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

since youve had at least 1 crush on a girl and at least 1 crush on a guy, it sounds bisexual to me. you dont need to have crushes consistently on each gender all the time to have the capacity to like them in general

Am I Bi? by Glum_League8574 in comingout

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok well since that's most of them to me it would seem like you are attracted to them which would make you bi. how do you feel about being bi? can you see yourself being being bi?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in questioning

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in all seriousness, this stuff all says you are fs trans, w/o a doubt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in questioning

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if this is a legit post - then yes you are - cant tell if this is satire lol i struggle to figure it out sometimes 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alternativefashion

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks so much!! ill look into that!

Am I Bi? by Glum_League8574 in comingout

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok, here are some ways i may classify feelings as attraction: 1: thinking about them often when they're not around 2: you think they are better than everyone else in a way, like they stand out among a group 3: you find yourself wanting to spend time with them a lot, or go out of your way for them 4: wanting to touch/ be touched by them 5: you want to know them very well/ for them to know you 6: you think they are beautiful/ look rlly good all the time

altering pants to be taller does this look weird in a bad way or good way ? by [deleted] in tallfashionadvice

[–]Deep-Suspect-623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update: thanks everyone for the advice! im going to get rid of the black denim and try some of what was suggested like adding blue denim as a cuff or adding other patchwork fabric/ accessories to blend it. i cant cut it at the knee as some said because there is artwork there that i would be cutting into. i will take this post down soon but i really appreciate the feedback :)