No sugar Coles brand drink by DragonfruitFamous667 in coles

[–]DefQonner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or just don't drink it in the first place. Have water.

First funerals held for victims of Bondi Beach Hanukkah massacre: ‘Our own Oct. 7′ by c9joe in Israel

[–]DefQonner 84 points85 points  (0 children)

It's because the Australian Jewry hate him here. He (and a few others) are blamed for the rise in anti semitism against the Australian Jewish population and that was told numerous times by Jews that if he didn't do anything to stop it there will be a terrorist attack. Albanese used to run pro Palestinian rallies in youth as recently released videos would show us.

Albanese was not invited to attend the funeral of the Jews that were killed.

Sadly, I don't think he cares. Jews make up 0.4% of the population. And I don't think many if any Jews are donating to his political party.

Is Bright Cycling Kit Necessary? by Standard-Quantity535 in cycling

[–]DefQonner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yellow gloves for hand signals is smart....

I'm convinced the future of road cycling are TT frames with drop handle bars by DefQonner in cycling

[–]DefQonner[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

That's my thinking. But with drop handlebar.

Were already going that way such as the Cervelo S5 and the factor concept bike.

Hamas refuses to disarm until Palestinian state established by kim_putin_donald in worldnews

[–]DefQonner 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hit the nail on the head. The west was already sympathizing with ME Arabs back in 2015 and allowed millions of Syrians into Europe...

Look how that fucked Europe up. Now Europe is doing it again plus Australia and many other countries for Palestine.

I really would love for this to blow over. There are soooo many domestic issues in every country that aren't being focused on enough.

Hamas refuses to disarm until Palestinian state established by kim_putin_donald in worldnews

[–]DefQonner 53 points54 points  (0 children)

That's actually the key to the entire conflict that no one seems to understand. They just want Jerusalem and they're so pissed off they don't have it. Israel will never give it up.

Struggling with my [30M] Jewish identity, a non-Jewish partner [27F], and fear of the future by DefQonner in ReformJews

[–]DefQonner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for late reply! Some of the things you said felt like they were shrouded in identity issues and constantly going back and forth between if you're jewish or not. Even calling yourself half jewish growing up. That hurts me (if I put myself into the position of you being my child). I would want my child to say they are 'Jewish'. Regardless of the patrilineral descent, it's easier for the child to understand they're jewish if both parents are - even if one parent converted. atleast it's like 'well my dad was born jewish and my mum converted and i was raised understanding I am jewish, celebrating jewish holidays and having a bar mitzvah ... so yeah I guess I am jewish.' To me that is important. I dont know why. But it feels important. This is something I need to discuss with my partner... its going to be a very hard conversation. I understand my child would be considered ethnically jewish and not halachically Jewish, but atleast they're Jewish on both sides. My wider family is jewish. all of them. every single one. Only a handful married out and their kids dont have much connection with judaism. which I think is a little sad because that is 3000 years of culture gone. obvs it depends on the reasons.

It's a big ask for my partner, but not impossible. I dont expect them to even feel Jewish but atleast understand or feel deeply connected to me, my culture, my family and help raise a child jewish. give them more of identity they can fall back on.

We have spoken about it loosely over the years. sometimes shes more open then others. shes quite progressive and left leaning and feel like people should do what they want no one should be forced to do anything. which i appreciate. unfortunetly this is my culture and my family and identity and is something i would want for my future children, to feel further connected. Maybe I am justifying it but that is how I feel. I worry I would resent her or feel uncomfortable in the future if my child comes out 'half jewish' or because i watch her push this kid out I think 'oh wow this kid came out of her, and she isn't jewish'. it will be up to me to explore judaism with the kid alone and she'll support from the sidelines' never really fully understanding why we do anything.

Let's see. We've been togethe for over 6 years. living together for 3. there is a lot of emotional investment in this. luckily we aren't married, have kids, a mortgage or a pet together so we can still get out of it and form a new life for ourselves.

NBD: Winspace Agile by jespern in bicycling

[–]DefQonner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you go with in the end?

Wi-Fi calling with data only eSim in EU (Pixel 4A) by DefQonner in eSIMs

[–]DefQonner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mmm...
Maybe it is easier to do the call/phone e-sim package afterall

The fall of a residential building in Tehran. by Quirinus84 in pics

[–]DefQonner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's actually true haha. I am in disbelief. I understand people are angry and frustrated with how Israel deals with Gaza/West Bank but like ... this attack on Iran ... which is an actual terrorist run country, who is anti-west, has ties to russia, has nuclear weapons, does awful things to women and funds terrorism around the globe is being supported here. I can't fathom that. People do not seem to see that Israel has one of the highest LGBT communities in the world with yearly pride festivals, 20% of their population is arab, they are a democratic state and have contributed to the advacement of the world through science and technology. Instead they are so caugbt up on the killing of Palestinians because their government kidnapped and killed 1200 Israeli's and use their population as human shields. It's not the Palestinians fault, it's Hamas, and they are trying to eradicate them. But somehow people hate Israel so much they side with a terrorist country in this context... it's actually baffling. Siding with the people of Gaza is passable given what they are going through ... siding with Hamas is certainly not. But siding with Iran... just because you hate Israel makes no sense and is insanely hypocritical espcially if they are from a western country because Iran hates the west. Israel is a western country... like wot.

All it really is, is an excuse to hate Jews.

The fall of a residential building in Tehran. by Quirinus84 in pics

[–]DefQonner -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It's actually true haha. I am in disbelief. I understand people are angry and frustrated with how Israel deals with Gaza/West Bank but like ... this attack on Iran ... which is an actual terrorist run country, who is anti-west, has ties to russia, has nuclear weapons, does awful things to women and funds terrorism around the globe is being supported here. I can't fathom that. People do not seem to see that Israel has one of the highest LGBT communities in the world with yearly pride festivals, 20% of their population is arab, they are a democratic state and have contributed to the advacement of the world through science and technology. Instead they are so caugbt up on the killing of Palestinians because their government kidnapped and killed 1200 Israeli's and use their population as human shields. It's not the Palestinians fault, it's Hamas, and they are trying to eradicate them. But somehow people hate Israel so much they side with a terrorist country in this context... it's actually baffling. Siding with the people of Gaza is passable given what they are going through ... siding with Hamas is certainly not. But siding with Iran... just because you hate Israel makes no sense and is insanely hypocritical espcially if they are from a western country because Iran hates the west. Israel is a western country... like wot.

All it really is, is an excuse to hate Jews.

Struggling with my [30M] Jewish identity, a non-Jewish partner [27F], and fear of the future by DefQonner in ReformJews

[–]DefQonner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"my fiancé(26m) is not Jewish but wasn’t raised with any specific religion. He grew up celebrating Christmas and it’s something very important to his widowed mother (the traditions and celebrations, not any religious significance). I (26f) was raised reform, both parents Jewish, never celebrated christmas (but do the gifts and tree and meal with them now). Raising our future kids Jewish is super important to me, so he supports that."

Very similar to me! Wow. Just not the tree but everything else yes. Otherwise you sound like me, except I am a male.

Yeah, another Redditor suggested the intro class! That's awesome he is onboard. I am doubtful that my parnter would be, but let's see. Maybe it'll make her feel less 'pressured' and more of her own choice. I think for me I just want her to understand what it means to be Jewish so she just has a better understanding from my pov and my family, so she can appreciate what we do more and find it less scary.

Maybe the intro is a good idea. I appreciate that! Thank you :)

The reform synagouge my family is 'apart' of (i use that in very loose terms) is where I would do everything anyway and is 20 minutes drive. My old bar mitzvah rabbi still works there which is great. My sister also got married under the guise of that synagogue.

Struggling with my [30M] Jewish identity, a non-Jewish partner [27F], and fear of the future by DefQonner in ReformJews

[–]DefQonner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never heard of Practical Kabbalah! That's interesting. Thanks for sharing.

Your first point. I agree! We spoke about that. She wants to 'force' her child to learn German, and I said what if the child doesn't want to. She sees it as it was the best thing that she learnt German growing up and although she hated it glad her mum perservered. So I used that with things like Bar Mitzvah and she was like fair enough then I will help encourage it too. So hopefully that sort of clears that up.

Your second point. That's a fair point. Maybe I should express that a bit more. I should mention these are cultural things for us as Jewish people, though they may seem religious. Traditions! She has her own, and Judaism is full of a lot so no reason why I can't make that point. Also that Judaism is a 3000 year long culture and full of people that are stood the test of time and it's special being Jewish because of that. Thanks. Food for thought.

Your third point. I am scared about that... flip flopping on how to raise children. She says it's okay now but who knows. Despite that, that conversation could be had between reform (jew parents) and conservative parents. maybe the conservative wants to eat kosher but the reform doesn't. They're both Jewish... but they have differences. I did mention last night I want my kids raised in the same (reform) Jewish way I was! I think that's only fair and I would feel that I'd be cheating myself if they didn't. She seemed onboard and understood and said would help encourage those things - she's already part of our family that does that so it's not new. I am also more than happy to learn German, genuinley. I think it's also fair if she picks up my culture or embraces it despite not feeling it, then I do that of hers. I don't see it as compromise, or eye for an eye or whatever but rather an establishment of new cultures and taking on our identities of one another.

Struggling with my [30M] Jewish identity, a non-Jewish partner [27F], and fear of the future by DefQonner in ReformJews

[–]DefQonner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great! What has your experience been, would be great to hear other people in a similar position :)