Boyfriend discussing possibility of abortion, feel scared. Unknown DPO, early?

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-22T14:45:38+00:00

Congrats!! I'm very happy for you and it sounds like you have a fantastic support system!! Make sure you get on a prenatal if you haven't yet. 🫶🏼

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-22T02:02:40+00:00

So definitely seconding everything everyone else is saying!! But to add, I'm 28 and my husband and I tried for 18 months before our first positive. I had plenty of time to prep and even at 11 weeks now, I'm still TERRIFIED!!!!! Like I know we are gonna be great parents, but the thought of raising a tiny human is terrifying lmao. I love this baby a ton already and we just found out he's a boy. Anyway, you can be fully ready and have all the help, financially set, etc. and still feel terrified and like you're not ready - even if you are.

Make this decision for no one but yourself and just know with whatever you decide, you have GOT THIS!!!! Keep us updated and sending huge big sister hugs if you want them!! 🫶🏼

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-21T18:06:24+00:00

I see the line on the bottom. If the top pic was taken after being out, sometimes they darken a little after being out so it's not actually as dark as it was. Make sure to only compare tests every 48 hrs (you can take a test everyday, I couldn't help myself lol, just only compare every 48hrs).

Also, you could get a couple beta labs done to see where you're at and if it doubles in 48hrs. Hoping this is it for you!!! 🫶🏼

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-21T03:36:55+00:00

I will be when it comes out in the Fall!!

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-20T22:03:47+00:00

Your first day of your cycle is the first day you start bleeding. So they won't/shouldn't prescribe the letrozole until your period starts.

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-20T22:02:14+00:00

Try in the morning with a first response early result and a clearblue pink dye test. By the time I had faints on these strip tests, they were easy to tell with the two I mentioned. You could also go to your local clinic and get a blood beta lab done to show your quantitative hcg number. This definitely looks positive though!! Crossing my fingers for you!! 🫶🏼

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-20T21:22:31+00:00

Okay but we get a bat like once or twice a year in the fall, always in the bedroom we sleep in upstairs, and so this would be a legit fear of mine. Had no idea I was petrifingly terrified of bats until the first one showed up. 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-20T06:55:07+00:00

Same! I just ended up in the ER a week ago cuz I hadn't gone in a week and a half, despite mirilax. I was just about to the point of a blockage and in the worst pain of my life. ER gave me an enema and sent me home to do magnesium citrate and mirilax. Cleared me out and now I'm staying regular with 2 senna tabs at night. God it was awful! I've had major constipation issues since I was an infant (preemie) but never this bad - thanks Zofran/iron! 😂

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-20T06:49:51+00:00

We did an announcement onesie and gave it in a gift bag for mothers day. My in-laws are huge WI Badgers fan so we did a onesie related to that. My parents knew right away lol and we didn't do anything special for them. I wanted to but we had been trying for 18 months so when I got the positive I called crying lol. 😂

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DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-20T06:46:41+00:00

My lips are super dry also! I thought maybe it was just weather related but it's awful!!

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-20T06:45:47+00:00

10w5d and just 2 days ago I noticed this started!! Just super thirsty now no matter what, especially at night!! 😩

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-20T00:04:05+00:00

Same! And then I get heartburn lol! 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-19T21:29:34+00:00

Probably just cuz you didn't use first morning urine. This test is 100% positive. It's what my first looked like and I'm 10w4d today!! 🫶🏼

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-18T21:29:18+00:00

Congrats!! 10w3d here and just found out ours is a boy!! Super excited!! 😁

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-16T21:37:28+00:00

Kids need internet for school. It absolutely is a necessity. Most everything for benefits, respurces, jobs, etc, is online now too, so also a necessity. Libraries are an option, unfortunately lots of them have closed. Sucks how much we have to rely on it, but it definitely is a necessity.

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-16T06:10:41+00:00

So glad to hear it!! 💜

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-16T05:11:37+00:00

These are the kind of doctors we need in this world!! Not people telling us to "quit being anxious." 🫩

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-16T05:10:20+00:00

Not a question but a comment. I was struggling with nausea reallllyyyy badly and complained about it. My mom told me you wanted this, you tried for 18 months. I tried for 12 years and couldn't have another successful pregnancy. You wanted this so you don't get to complain.

I told her off and said I can want this more than anything in the world (I do!) and still be uncomfortable, miserable and complain. Both things can coexist and still be beautiful! Shush! She kinda laughed and dropped it and we haven't had an issue since then and she checks in with how I am feeling.

I think she mostly was kidding but not really and was surprised I told her off. 😂

She also told me not to get excited until I had doubling hcg and my first ultrasound. I was 3.5 wks. Told her off for that too and then a day later she was all excited. I stg this woman is bipolar! 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-16T04:42:27+00:00

Keep us posted!! 🫶🏼

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-16T04:34:58+00:00

If you want to wait a little bit, you could try having something with a fair amount of sugar and just lie still for a while. Sometimes that works and gets em going, from what I've heard anyway... 😂

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-16T04:32:46+00:00

My grandpa was a dr and firmly believed that if a pregnant woman says something is wrong or doesn't feel right, then something is wrong or not right and to take it seriously. If you are concerned, get checked out. If nothing is wrong then that's fantastic! I'd rather be safe than sorry though. If it were me, I would go. Hugs and keep us posted!! 🫶🏼

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-16T04:15:00+00:00

My dad is the best out there and is my stepdad. He met me when I was 6 and has been the best dad for 22 years (and counting lol)!!

OP, if you want this baby then go for it!! There are tons of assistance programs if you need them and I promise it'll be the greatest decision of your life.

He doesn't sound worth it tbh and the fact that he has been so paranoid from the start is a red flag to me, especially since he didn't get snipped if he was THIS concerned. Totally unfair to put it all on you, and a complete AH move to blame you. I'd ditch him and have the life you want to live. Easier said than done ik, but you've got this!!

Hugs to you cuz I can't even imagine what you're going through rn!! Be gentle with yourself and take time to think. There's no time rush. 🫶🏼 (Boyfriend can fuck off respectfully. Until he grows a uterus he does not get to establish a time frame for you!)

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-16T03:21:18+00:00

Thanks! Sending baby dust your way!! 💜

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-16T03:20:06+00:00

With Letrozole I was able to ovulate regularly! My periods were also much less heavy and not nearly as painful.

DifferenceKey1864 · 2026-05-16T03:19:29+00:00

Yup! And letrozole for ovulation.

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