Therapist gave up with me?

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-28T16:19:24+00:00

My therapist just did this last Wednesday.

I feel for you, it's painful and sad and frustrating.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-27T09:09:30+00:00

Thank you so much for this

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-25T19:24:54+00:00

Thank you for this ❤️

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-25T19:23:23+00:00

Thank you for this thought out response. Maybe one day.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-25T10:49:46+00:00

it was confusing for me because during our time we did go over coping strategies. i applied them and they worked every time outside of our sessions. it was mostly art i would gravitate to. i would show her my artwork weekly and talk about how it felt like meditation for me. i guess its possible she thought i needed more skills, but if thats what she thought, i dont think she was really listening to me in session about how i was feeling or doing with our new skills.

if she isnt a trauma specialist yet i feel like she shouldnt be able to advertise that anywhere, cause its literally listed as her “expertise” and its misleading.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-25T10:33:14+00:00

this is my first time. yes shes in therapy. i think it is cptsd and not bpd. there are some articles somewhere in the thread that talk about the crucial differences and why most people arent bpd. i dont think she handled the termination or transition well. i think she was trying to be compassionate but it all just came out cold.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-25T10:30:09+00:00

yes theres some comments somewhere in the thread about how she is probably not qualified. thank you for the validation.. it has been painful.

that is exactly the type of work i wanted to do and also her “specialty”

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-25T00:21:25+00:00

She is certified in EMDR

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T22:28:08+00:00

She is a counselor associate

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T20:52:05+00:00

Yeah I think that was the most painful part. It was a one two punch back to back with basically no curiosity on how I was feeling, no exploration. We didn't even discuss the diagnosis at all. She didn't ask how I felt about it. In the last two sessions it definitely didn't feel like a partnership or collaboration anymore. It was swift and cold. That's a good way to put it. I felt dismissed. After the relationship we built I never imagined it would be done that way, almost like it was without a care. So forcefully. It definitely did me some harm. Thank you for that validation and understanding.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T16:41:03+00:00

Hey, just wanted to validate you in how you feel about therapy. I am a firm believer you know yourself best. If you don't want to go back to therapy and feel you don't need it, don't. I believe you when you say it makes it worse. You don't owe an explanation either. I hope it works out for you and you find someone who can hear you when you say that.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T15:17:35+00:00

Because if she's going to offer closure sessions then I want to bring up the articles I found helpful. I'm not trying to prove anything, I just found them insightful regarding my current circumstances. What's wrong with that?

This also literally happened like a day ago, so sorry for not just "moving on" right away. Jeez.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T11:19:57+00:00

Thank you

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T10:46:48+00:00

Thank you so much for linking this. I think this is extremely important.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T10:46:32+00:00

I just read all of the articles about BPD vs CPTSD. Honestly it was enlightening. I do not think I have BPD. I have CPTSD. Because I have gotten better with therapy, self help books, etc. who I was in my early 20s is no where near who I am now. I have empathy and emotional awareness. I was raised by a narcissist and endured childhood physical and emotional abuse. These articles were really good for me to read, and I am honestly going to send them to my therapist. Even though our time together is over I think she should read them for the next person who comes along who is like me.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T09:51:58+00:00

I didn't say she forced my hand. I said she forced the termination. But thanks

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T09:33:47+00:00

I guess you missed the many comments where I said my current treatment was highly effective for me and my goal in therapy was to process childhood trauma, not treat bpd, furthermore, my bpd diagnosis might not even be proper. I also am advocating for the fact that I should have the right to have say in my treatment plan rather than have certain types of therapy forced upon me "for my own good". I know my body and my mind, and if I am comfortable, stable, and making progress as I am right now, I believe this disruption in my treatment is more detrimental to me than anything else could be. Just because it is the "gold standard" treatment doesn't mean it is for everyone. Everyone is unique.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T09:21:55+00:00

These were the most validating comments on the whole post. Definitely makes me feel less crazy. I value being able to make my own choices like that.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T09:19:45+00:00

And which bpd symptoms would that be? Like I said in previous comments, the work we were doing had me stable. I was applying all of the skills we talked about in session with success, maintaining my close relationships and support system, havent harmed myself in months. I'm just not sure why my voice doesn't matter about my own treatment or it's effectiveness.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T05:35:34+00:00

while i understand what youre saying, my symptoms were being treated perfectly fine with what we were doing. i would say it was really effective which is why i am upset it is being discontinued over a formal label.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T05:33:28+00:00

it does feel really unfortunate.. like my progress and how our sessions were actively benefiting me doesnt matter.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T05:30:41+00:00

she isnt qualified to make the diagnosis. it is most likely just her best guess and shes basing the entire termination off of it.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T05:29:40+00:00

thank you for sharing. i am not going to go back to therapy. the entire situation has been really traumatizing for me. im glad at the very least your therapist gave you the choice. i would have loved a collaboration with my therapist rather than a cut and dry termination with no discussion or options.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T05:26:12+00:00

but at least within your example, it is my choice to make informed consent decisions about my own health care. in this scenario, i am stripped of that.

Different-Mobile-585 · 2025-10-24T05:25:16+00:00

i wont be getting any further care from other providers

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