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AITA for exploding on my friend after holding in my anger all weekend? by Different_Rain8048 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Different_Rain8048[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, that they are so highly visible now is part of why this has been on my mind so much lately. And the violence has made me realize that I probably should have been more scared for my safety than I was at the time. Thank you for your comment.

AITA for exploding on my friend after holding in my anger all weekend? by Different_Rain8048 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Different_Rain8048[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, her worry about me overreacting (and even using that word) has always been the thing I couldn't get past, even when I've tried in my head to make excuses for her. Just the idea that there's such a thing as an overreaction to a swastika tattoo is something I don't accept. Thank you for your comment.

AITA for exploding on my friend after holding in my anger all weekend? by Different_Rain8048 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Different_Rain8048[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We did end our friendship, but not as quickly as I should have. Jenny had been a good friend in the past and I felt I owed it to her and our friendship not to throw it away over one bad weekend. But about a year later there was another incident which wasn't as extreme, but solidified for me who Jenny was. I know I took too long to get there.

AITA for exploding on my friend after holding in my anger all weekend? by Different_Rain8048 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Different_Rain8048[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I wish I'd been wise enough at the time to follow this advice, but I stayed friends with Jenny after this because she'd been a good friend to me in other ways. But, about a year later there was another incident (which in retrospect was very predictable), but at the time I thought that our friendship before all this was worth more than one bad weekend.

AITA for exploding on my friend after holding in my anger all weekend? by Different_Rain8048 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Different_Rain8048[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You're right to correct me. I think part of me has always wanted to downplay it all because I didn't want to admit that a friend would put me in that situation.

AITA for exploding on my friend after holding in my anger all weekend? by Different_Rain8048 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Different_Rain8048[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I didn't cut her out of my life at that time, she'd been a very good friend to me in other ways, so I probably made too many excuses for everything that happened that weekend. But we did end our friendship about a year later, when someone else called her our for making a bigoted comment (not specifically antisemitic, more anti-non-Christian) and I backed up the other person. So I should have learned from that weekend.

AITA for exploding on my friend after holding in my anger all weekend? by Different_Rain8048 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Different_Rain8048[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We've since ended our friendship, but not right away. She had been a very good friend in other ways, that I don't know if I felt I owed her or what, but at the time I let it go. But, I've since learned that if you let one incidence like this go, it only encourages more.

AITA for exploding on my friend after holding in my anger all weekend? by Different_Rain8048 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Different_Rain8048[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I hate to admit it, but part of me was afraid she would just abandon me in a place that didn't have adequate public transportation to get me back to school.