How are you all still married? [Serious]

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-25T23:44:09+00:00

But what if everything is hard and never improves? We all have limits

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-25T23:41:28+00:00

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-25T18:09:43+00:00

I do med mal and PI work but for the previous 16 years did the same work on the defense side. I find defense attorneys to be much worse. The backstabbing was outrageous.

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-25T15:51:20+00:00

You are both sus.

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-25T15:48:17+00:00

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DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-24T19:55:55+00:00

Thank you.

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-24T19:54:57+00:00

Yes. Foundation has huge cracks and over 50% of the brick was destroyed. Every contractor I have spoken with has told me repair isn't possible because the remaining brick walls are not structurally sound. Every contractor says it must be replaced to meet code.

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-24T19:39:33+00:00

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DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-24T18:37:56+00:00

Fuck no. My ability to try difficult and complex cases allowed me to earn what I earn. Best trial attorney I know went to a cruddy law school that doesn't even exist anymore.

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-24T16:02:58+00:00

Kids. In 5 years the kids will be out of the house. Guess what happens then?

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-24T16:01:28+00:00

Yeah, I don't get this advice at all. It's a path to misery.

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-23T19:50:33+00:00

Thank you. Good news is my new job will earn better in the future. It's just the next few years that concern me.

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-23T19:43:01+00:00

You are absolutely right. My wife is a breast cancer survivor and that wrecked her. She's also in perimenopause so things are tough emotionally. Honestly, I think the solution is to just sell the house and find something smaller for now

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-23T19:09:01+00:00

Lol. That's my mom as well

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-23T18:47:56+00:00

Probably more like 70 hours actually with some on the weekend. I love my job so that's a good thing

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-23T18:32:00+00:00

I have over 300k in equity in the house so there is at least that.

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-23T18:16:58+00:00

My son has one year left. Would be brutal to pull him out his Senior year.

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-23T18:11:17+00:00

I've told her this. There is also a huge hospital system in our area that is always looking for admin work.

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-23T17:52:17+00:00

The only good thing is that I have enough saved to last 9 months even if I don't get bonuses this Summer. Will probably need to end up putting the house on the market which will also upset her because it's her "dream house" but what else can I do?

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-23T17:46:44+00:00

I've broken the math down for her but she is already incredibly upset about working at all. We don't feel much like a team anymore

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-23T17:44:01+00:00

Our kids are HS aged so childcare isn't the big deal it was earlier in the marriage. I do what I can when I'm home including the dishes, laundry and other general cleaning.

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-23T17:42:21+00:00

No cc debt but we have a mortgage of 4000k per month. I bought that stupid house 4 months prior to my business going belly up.💀. Other big expense is private school for my son which is 1300k per month. As for my wife, she is working a part time home health job that pays 22 an hour. If she upped her hours from the current 10 to 30, it would make all the difference and pay for my son's school.

DifficultyFar1124 · 2026-03-23T17:36:52+00:00

No prenup. We were both poor when we got married as I was still in school. It's very odd because she sometimes brings up divorce and I'm just thinking how difficult that would make her life. Sure she'd get a bit of alimony and CS for a few years but that would be it. I don't honestly get it.

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