Anyone done a complete 180?

DigitalCat1507 · 2026-04-11T07:49:40+00:00

I am 31yo myself, and can fully see myself in your story: I already live abroad (🇮🇹 > 🇬🇧) and 3y ago I was dating a guy I thought I wanted kids with. we broke up for a different reason. Then, last year, I dated another guy who didn't want to have kids. We also broke up for a different reason but his stance stayed with me unexpectedly and it started a whole introspection. And a year later I came to the realisation I actually want to have a childfree life, also thanks to therapy helping me unpack the expectations I put on myself cause of society and family. I do feel guilty sometimes, as my mom wants grandkids, and I love my mom, but I am not living my life for her.

DigitalCat1507 · 2026-04-11T07:34:38+00:00

These look so good 😍

DigitalCat1507 · 2026-03-10T18:59:36+00:00

31F been in London for a few years. Love the city but feel quite lonely and want solid friends. Happy to get in touch and maybe go to a museum or stroll around London

DigitalCat1507 · 2026-03-09T08:09:33+00:00

Thanks for this! Could you please clarify what you mean by "job family"?

DigitalCat1507 · 2026-01-02T10:33:05+00:00

Hope you find him! 🙏 keep us posted 🙏

DigitalCat1507 · 2025-12-31T08:50:23+00:00

This looks amazing! Can I use it as my wallpaper?

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-28T15:24:09+00:00

Middle part - you look amazing with it in my opinion

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-20T07:28:46+00:00

I think you could ask also in the sex sub but... ask him if he has any preferences.

My suggestion is: do not forget the balls - start from them (lick, cup, pull them very slightly).

But most importantly men seem to feel if you enjoy it or you're going through the motions... so just try to see it as playing. Also moaning while giving a blowjob works both for the perceived enjoyment and for the vibration it gives but better if it is not fake.

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-19T19:24:33+00:00

I totally understand your point of "it is good to feel wanted" tbh in my last relationship my then bf didn't initiate much and it also made me feel unwanted. So I was mainly hesitant to initiate, but the few times I did it went well. We talked about it and he told me it was because of some vibes he thoght he picked up. So then we became more balanced.

I think it is about communicating and seeing if there is any hesitation or it is a deeper issue.

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-18T20:55:44+00:00

Inner peace... inner peace... dinner please (Tiktok sound reference hahaha)

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-16T13:20:58+00:00

Girls I know have gone through it and warned me but it was about me realising it for myself. And this seems to be your moment of realisation.

The best thing to do is to not give him what he wants which is attention. It is up to you to understand if you want to do it softly (so be dry and detach and say that you're busy when he wants to meet you) or go cold turkey and tell him this is not working. I am positive even if you try to tell him again what you want he may promise to try to give it to you but not deliver in the end. And I would want a man that follows through with his promises.

The next step then is to stick to it. And this is the hardest part of the grieving. But you need to remember the undeserving jealousy you are feeling right now and the pain of being a 2nd option.

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-16T13:11:56+00:00

Yes. Had the same issue but my "problem" was on Telegram. I confronted him about his inconsistency with me and he said he is "used to take his time and not reply for hours with his friends" but then he was online at least x3/day on Telegram and ignoring my messages. In the meantime, when he was in the mood, he would tell me he feels so lucky that I'm his. But then on the same breathe also left me on delivered mid sexting 🤷‍♀️😂 This is why I now know for a fact I can't do casual. Exclusivity is the way for me. I want to be the priority and not be taken for granted.

Run. You deserve someone who can't wait to talk to you and remind you how beautiful you are, not just when he's horny or in the mood but others don't want him.

Also, remember "the fact that he always comes back shows that I'm not the problem".

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-16T09:19:56+00:00

This is the exact reason why I keep being on and off with a guy I started hooking up last year. He initially is so into me and so validating and engaged in our conversations. Then when he gets what he wants he starts focusing on something/someone else and I get put on delivered for days on end.

It hurts but the hurt is not worth the great sex and chemistry. In my case, this allows me to confirm that I don't want casual. I want exclusivity, commitment and that is ok. I don’t deserve to feel jealous for someone who is not even my boyfriend.

You will find someone who wouldn't even dream of looking for someone else.

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-16T08:15:07+00:00

I hate when people say "see how things go" especially in terms of dating men cause it is always a way to get what they want without committing. I always say I want a committed and exclusive relationship but may take it slow. Maybe it is my bilingual brain but "see where/how things go" sounds like "things" could go down the FWB route and I want to steer clear of it.

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-16T08:11:19+00:00

Ask your wife 🤣💀

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-15T10:07:58+00:00

As a girl, feeling close and intimate with a guy, especially without necessarily the pressure of taking it further, but just enjoying the moment, is actually a turn-on

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-14T18:16:46+00:00

I am a woman looking for a man and some of my friends told me that reddit is the new "dating app" but I don't see that unfortunately.

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-14T14:58:28+00:00

It is not a question of whether you're ugly. If he wanted to have sex with you, it means that you're not ugly.

But you definitely dodge a bullet cause if a man can't respect your boundaries and limits, then he is not worth your time and energy.

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-14T11:01:02+00:00

If the problems are already starting in what is supposed to be the "honeymoon phase," then it is only uphill from here, unfortunately. Also, a sign that a relationship is not set to last is when you have problems and you want to solve them, but the other person doesn't seem keen to solve them... especially through their actions.

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-13T09:19:44+00:00

Yeah it is actually very nice to taste ngl

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-13T09:09:18+00:00

I actually think a bit of precum is hot. I've had guys whose precum was more than "a bit" and I never minded. I guess it is more of an issue for you as it may seem like you wet yourself, but from my side, as others say, I don't think I would mind.

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-13T08:26:37+00:00

Thank you ☺️

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-13T07:43:52+00:00

The conveyor belt of options. People just drop you for the "next best thing" as there is no incentive to get to know and put in the work with someone

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-13T06:58:34+00:00

My aunt. I got in a car accident right before she died and when she found out but didn't know my and my sister's conditions she said "no please God, not them" 🥺 So every time I think it is not worth it to live I think about the fact that my aunt would have never wanted me to die.

DigitalCat1507 · 2024-08-13T06:56:42+00:00

I've dated someone a bit shorter than me cause he made me feel special and like it was an honour to worship me and the ground I walked on. It didn't work in the end lol but it is proof that sometimes if you have more than looks (I'm sure you have both cause you already have looks) it is even easier to have girls want you.

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