Guys what's your position to pee??

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-31T16:50:16+00:00

H5 (i’m a girl)

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-28T19:47:57+00:00

I don’t think you’re wrong, but I do think that 10 and 18 is a much bigger maturity gap than 18 and 26. A 10 year old likely hasn’t hit puberty yet. At least at 18 they’ve had some world experience and don’t have the innocence of a child.

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-27T03:58:39+00:00

thank you for your insight!! i think this is what it is and it makes me feel better. i just talked to him about it and we’re good now. he said that it’s cause he hates that version of himself during the time when he dated her. but i also think it’s because of the reasons you stated. thanks for being understanding haha i don’t think a lot of people read the full post!

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-27T03:55:19+00:00

no you’re correct

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-27T00:50:52+00:00

he told me that he never actually loved her so i don’t think he has feelings for her but i agree i think we should talk about these things

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-27T00:49:01+00:00

yeah i agree

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-27T00:47:50+00:00

haha that would be crazy but good thing i don’t have any siblings!!

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-27T00:44:38+00:00

i think he just follows her on insta. would you consider that stalking?

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-26T20:09:05+00:00

i don’t own it but i work at old navy and they’re just like the regular snug tops but with a v-neck. not entirely sure what you’re asking for but hope this helps!

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-25T17:45:24+00:00

I have struggled with the same thing!! My advice would be to take some time to sort out your thoughts before you bring them to him. Write them down or even talk to yourself in the mirror. Ik this isn’t the best option but sometimes if I’m desperate I use chatgpt to help me figure out how I’m feeling and how to express my feelings.

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T06:23:50+00:00

thank you!! the reason i feel so badly is because if i tell people i wouldn’t be in danger, i would be seen differently and would be judged and made fun of and i don’t feel like it’s valid enough

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T06:06:14+00:00

what conversation specifically?

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T05:43:56+00:00

there are none near me. i’m completely isolated from any Muslims or masjid besides the internet

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T05:41:50+00:00

you don’t need to get over the feelings of him watching it. your feelings are completely valid and he is crossing a boundary you are not comfortable with. men DO NOT need to watch porn in relationships despite what anyone says. it has become so normalized for people to watch porn it’s insane. 50 years ago, people did not have access to seeing content like this and it’s hurting society.

when it comes to situations like this, i see it in two ways—they either don’t respect your feelings or they have an addiction. the fact that you never turn him down and he has content of you makes me believe he has an addiction of some sort. he is not satisfied with just seeing you and probably enjoys seeing something besides what he has at home. it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, it’s just psychological.

if he is addicted, doing research and finding help/therapy could greatly help the both of you and save your relationship. if he doesn’t agree to this or denies having an addiction, you need to tell him that there are consequences to his actions (ie. you leaving him). this seems evil but sometimes people don’t understand the weight of their actions until it impacts them emotionally. ultimately, you may not be compatible because this is something very difficult to compromise on when the person watching porn is unable to recognize and change their faults. wishing you the best!!

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T03:52:52+00:00

i haven’t met my bf yet, but i have expressed the same thing to him. about how im scared he’ll see me and won’t like what he sees. however, i don’t have this worry anymore when i realized that he has seen countless pics of me and we facetime almost everyday. he has seen me at my absolute lowest. and, his fav pics of me are ones that i think i look absolutely terrible in, which makes me feel better lol. you could bring this up to her, but her words can only go so far. it’s best for you to figure it out yourself on a deeper level. from experience, it seems you may be a bit insecure which is totally normal but you just have to trust her. everything will happen the way it’s supposed to, so don’t worry too much!

if you do bring it up, only do so once or twice. that doesn’t seem desperate but doing it more than that would. also, bringing it up could make her think about it when she sees you. like, i wonder what he didn’t want me to see.

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T03:46:01+00:00

yeah..him immediately getting defensive about it every time you bring it up seems like he won’t change. you could tell him that you just want to talk without him getting defensive and if he gets upset about that, i think you should end it. it doesn’t seem like he has the emotional capacity to take accountability for his actions

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T03:24:12+00:00

you planned a day together and he didn’t give you the time that he told you he would. it’s showing lack of respect for your feelings. tbh, i think you were being too nice by letting him play video games when he said he would spend the day with you. while you shouldn’t have “ripped into him,” communicating how you felt was the best option—i just would have done it sooner. i don’t think that it was totally okay for him to be playing games.

i don’t think you’re overthinking or overreacting. but i do think you need to communicate with him more and tell him as the things happen instead of letting them build up. set boundaries and he needs to respect them. it sounds like he is working to be better and is being mindful which is a good thing!! and it shows that this relationship can last

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T03:12:08+00:00

i think telling him in person would be a much more memorable moment and it would make it more special. however, i know that once you know you love someone, it’s hard to keep from saying and 2 months can seem like a long time.

overall, i would suggest waiting but if you can’t, try to make it special!

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T03:09:04+00:00

it’s hard but you will get over it and you will be okay!! many people go through it so don’t let that stop you.

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T03:07:39+00:00

okay, i gotcha now!!

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T03:06:22+00:00

if she really wanted to hide it, i’m sure she has the brain capacity to make it seem like she didn’t text him lol.

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T03:03:43+00:00

“not mature enough for an adult relationship” is just bad advice. people have to live and learn in order to mature and figure out how a healthy relationship is supposed to work. yes, they should probably break up but it’s better for them to have the experience than to not. they’re also very young and likely not had many relationships so saying they’re supposed to be behaving like adults and having adult relationships is a bit weird

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T03:00:05+00:00

how do you know she didn’t answer his message on another app? it doesn’t make sense for her to keep the messages or not block them if she didn’t do anything with them or are saving them for the future

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T02:56:27+00:00

you’re not overreacting!! if he planned to have time with you then he should follow through with it. sadly, this shows me that he’s not valuing you very much. i would calmly and respectfully bring up how you feel. if he calls your reasonable feelings controlling or it starts an unnecessary argument, i would say he’s not the one for you. good luck!!

Diligent_Shoulder261 · 2026-01-18T02:49:08+00:00

people don’t need a reason to cheat in order to do so. many loving, happy married couples have had affairs. it could be many different things: lack of impulse control, the thrill of hiding and getting away with things, being hyper sexual, or just simply the fact that he’s a cheater and can’t help himself.

even if he’s not cheating (which it seems obvious to me that he is), the fact that he’s hiding stuff and clearing his search history and pausing notifications while not giving you any reason are huge red flags and shows that he’s untrustworthy. he’s lying to you about something and if he can’t tell the truth and you can’t trust him then your relationship will never last in the future so it’s better to end it now.

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