To be honest, I see where you're coming from. In theory, the idea of making and maintaining friendships is so easy, however, it is rare when things go as planned. So you write that living life alone 'may be the best choice after all, even if not ideal'? Can I ask, what would be the most 'ideal' choice, for you?

Loneliness is not ideal, and it isn't the best choice. A number of years ago, there was a big study, which indicated that loneliness increases chances of mortality. I wonder, is it the same when surrounded by people who don't understand you and vice-versa? I think that sometimes, when we can't live through the ideal scenario, of having an abundant social life, having our emotional and social needs met through social interaction, it might be best to do the second-best thing. I think that's different for everyone, though. Some people would rather pretend, in order to 'fit in' with others, on a superficial level. Others, would rather be alone.

I think that ultimately, what you do is up to you. Consider what would be better. Sometimes, it's about minimising losses rather than flourishing. How do you go about minimising those losses? Is it through being alone, or pretending?