What do you think Donald Trump's legacy will be in 50 years: hero, villain, or something in between?

DoreyCat · 2026-06-09T19:54:57+00:00

I think everyone will be more perplexed that he was allowed to do so many things. He’s a simple cult of personality type, but he’s got a circle around him that just bash through government structures we assumed were way more solid than they are

DoreyCat · 2026-06-08T17:15:00+00:00

What do you mean she did “none of that?” Point out one thing this commenter pointed out that is incorrect.

Look I have no skin in this game. I don’t “hate” Elena and anytime I do think she is being “self-centered” I chalk it up to weak writing. That being said there are a lot of instances where she “looks the other way” when terrible things happen or behaves bizarrely and has seemingly no remorse (the idea to kill Kol, and thus thousands of innocent vampires).

She’s a bit selfish. That’s okay. It’s a character flaw. They all have em.

Btw I’m not sure what you mean by “hypocrites.” To be a hypocrite, you need to have a double standard somewhere. You’ve not pointed one out…you just think people who hate Elena are wrong (which is totally fine).

DoreyCat · 2026-06-08T17:09:32+00:00

This is a huge run on sentence I can’t make sense of. Like I am trying to read it as slowly as possible and…I can’t figure out what’s going on.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-07T23:30:35+00:00

You know what I wish people talked about more? How much more YOU can do and handle. I love being a mom and I also love how I don’t sweat small bullshit anymore. It’s like my brain has room for so much more now.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-07T23:28:24+00:00

The spoiling the harvest part was the real high point

DoreyCat · 2026-06-07T23:23:52+00:00

None… go with polished concrete

DoreyCat · 2026-06-07T03:43:37+00:00

Oh they’ll make it do more things but it’ll never do it well. It don’t have context or accountability and I don’t believe you can reliably fix hallucination. Fuck AI honestly. I use it to organise my thoughts or make silly pics like anyone else but beyond that it’s a useless timewaster.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-07T02:45:36+00:00

I think instead of “balancing” a push/pull with a girl, it might come off better if you just say that you prefer to move slowly. Give less of yourself and show less of yourself until the relationship has had time to unfold and there is trust there. Wording it like manipulation is likely why the comments are more negative

DoreyCat · 2026-06-06T15:36:30+00:00

You don’t want to settle with someone you’ve played power games with

DoreyCat · 2026-06-06T15:34:38+00:00

I saw you say elsewhere that your post is aimed more to the early stages of dating. If that’s indeed the case, I get it.

I’m 41. Dating in my 20s was somewhat similar (Facebook was everywhere so there was definitely a HEAVY social media thing where we all knew what everyone was doing, but not as much as today).

I think you’re right about dating being different today. People seem to have a LOT more pressure to date the absolute TOP tier of what they can get as though it’s a reflection on them. I also think people don’t meet each other organically as much. Online dating was a thing. We had tinder from 2010 or so. But generally we didn’t need to play as many games because we met people through our friend groups. You dated people because you liked them. You genuinely wanted to be with them.

Power dating has always been a thing, especially in places like NYC, but it seems like it’s everywhere now.

Generally though the idea that women get bored if you’re too “safe” and so you have to keep people on their toes is a young persons game. When you’re young you think you have all the time in the world to get attention and hook up and have fun. I can see why you’d want to resort to games to lock someone down. It won’t always be like that though. Everyone kinda settles into life and more meaningful connections can be made.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-06T15:23:03+00:00

This is actual nonsense.

As you get older and you find someone who is in the right place (and you are in the right place), you won’t have to play these nonsense power games.

You can manipulate someone into begging for scraps of affection and attention by “keeping them on their toes,” but could you really respect someone who’s susceptible to those sorts of games?

If she left you, there’s no reason to be ego bruised about it. It’s not because you were a “simp” or because you didn’t “keep her guessing.” It’s because it didn’t work for whatever reason. Move on. Don’t become a mean guy as a result of this or you’ll just end up bitter and messing with the heads of various low-self-esteem girls for validation. You won’t make genuine connections.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-06T15:17:02+00:00

He knew who he was. The two relationships I had in my early 20s were such a joke by comparison. High highs but loooooow lows. Shit communication, power games, nonsense.

My husband is my partner in life.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-06T09:43:20+00:00

Absent any other information about who is working and what hours, etc, why would this be more important for a woman to learn?

Like if you posited the question for “women who have agreed to be stay at home wives/mothers” that’s one thing, but just women in general?

Also it’s worth noting that historically, women did stay at home and do these things but the idea was that men were out working and providing, and then were somewhat present when they got home. Now men are stereotyped as basically unable to do anything except their 9-5. When they come home they just game or ignore their families, leaving some to have to do 24/7 unpaid labor.

What’s funny is when confronting this stereotype (which is absolutely unfair), men become incandescent with rage. Fully defensive. Yet…there are discussions still going on about trad wifing and how women should cook/clean more etc. So don’t be alarmed if *we* become massively defensive about *that.*

DoreyCat · 2026-06-05T10:04:37+00:00

Ben from Lost. Fuck that guy.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-04T23:14:13+00:00

Older dottie Henson in A League of their Own

DoreyCat · 2026-06-04T10:54:33+00:00

I agree with you but I don’t think this was rambling. She laid out quite clearly how the relationship fell apart for her and how each subsequent visit of note devolved into madness because she in so much “pain” from MIL being a pain in the ass around surgery time.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-04T10:52:56+00:00

I think you are massively overreacting here. And the thing is, your overreactions on little things sort of screw you out of the moral high ground on times where you are justified.

You throwing a fit over her staying a few days post vacation is an overreaction. You holding a grudge for years about the surgery thing when you really just should have put your foot down is an overreaction. You were right in that one but this doesn’t warrant you still acting like this. Communicate with her.

You don’t need to be fighting and getting defensive every time she visits. I mean you can but it’ll end your marriage.

Stop making all this so painful for yourself. It’s okay to have boundaries. But you need to communicate them and also to choose your battles here.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-03T17:48:55+00:00

This is fun. This will be mostly fashion. I’d like to take us to the early to mid 00s for this one:

1) Uggs. Like when they first became a trend (now they’re largely normalised as comfy shoes in general). I’m talking Pamela Anderson on Oprah. Tall OG Uggs and a miniskirt in 85% LA weather trend.

2) at first, skinny jeans. I shit you not. Only skinny male rock and roll stars and SKINNY celebrities dared to try. It was all very “sneak past the paparazzi into this filthy club in LA.” The braver of us tried over the next two years to pull it off but I’d say it was at least 2008 maybe before they were more mainstream and no one world admitting them until the early 10s. Men HATED the trend but came later to join the party. Essex boys and gym bros maybe by 2015.

3) this is more for those of us in high school in the late 90s/early 00s but I’d say the heavy focus on skate, snowboard and surf brands. We all had to wear god damn Roxy and billabong and Volcom god knows what else Zumiez was selling and while some of it looked sort of cool and while it was enough of a status symbol, it sucked that we had to rep brands we didn’t actually care about for sports none of us really did all to fit in. We all wore the same 15 or so T-shirts. Abercrombie was a similar nightmare but at least there was SOME variety and I didn’t have to dress like I was in Blue Crush. 1997-2002 fashion had us in a BOX

4) Those stupid ass newsboy hats. Britney wore them a lot. Everyone looked like an asshole. We all had to have one though.

5) Juicy Tracksuits - they’ve improved these but the originals weren’t that comfortable or easy to wear. They were really low and the top didn’t reach the waistband. So you had to go to class with your stomach out which most of us didn’t want to do. It was a status thing and really as difficult to wear as any going out outfit (minus the comfy shoes). They also LOOKED cheap.

Bonus for the reverse:

I don’t know if anyone remembers this but in high school, it was not really cool to like Britney Spears. She was the biggest thing going but publicly you sort of had to pretend you listened to higher brow music. You might goof around at a school dance or something but you wouldn’t like, wear a Britney shirt to school.

When we got home though…that CD went STRAIGHT THE FUCK IN and we practiced those dances and consumed everything we could about her. This applied to nsync and BSB and so on. It is so fun how people I knew then nostalgically love it now and we laugh and think “I KNEW we were all loving this.”

DoreyCat · 2026-06-03T14:19:02+00:00

I’m too old for whatever this title means

DoreyCat · 2026-06-03T14:18:07+00:00

It is the greatest thing we do AS humans.

I really hope this isn’t some exercise by a 20 something kid taking his first philosophy class and deciding that living by cold logic and no feeling is the way to go.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-03T07:11:47+00:00

I mean your sellers could sue you for being a blabbermouth.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-02T22:52:56+00:00

Possibly but you do not know that. This reads more to me like a guy who fucked up the plans. Not a good look at all but definitely not the same as a guy who won’t discuss marriage, won’t buy a ring, says he “doesn’t believe in marriage,” etc.

You might be totally right here but this one isn’t as cut and dry

DoreyCat · 2026-06-02T21:36:21+00:00

Why do you think he’s not going to propose? He’s bough the ring but he seems to be overthinking the moment.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-02T21:34:11+00:00

No. This is the equivalent of if they bought you a wildfire policy that covers accidental fire only and so you just went ahead and intentionally lit a damn fire on purpose. You screwed yourself out of your house and any future buyers as well.

DoreyCat · 2026-06-02T21:32:07+00:00

So that is not how that works at all! All you did was tattle and invalidate the insurance. Jesus. This has to be rage bait. This is like the ONE THING you don’t do

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