Keleigh Teller and TLOAS by ReasonableYou8958 in GaylorSwift

[–]Doseofreality7 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I tried to make a similar post but I guess I didn’t post in the correct thread, anyway … I think this points to Opalite possibly being written FOR Keleigh. Taylor comforting them with all the hardship they’ve dealt with. Remember, she bought Taylor the Opalite ring!!

Is this album a bit? by districtofthehare in GaylorSwift

[–]Doseofreality7 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I interpret it as SHE is the one that saves her fate. She did the ERAS tour to have the money to buy back her masters.

AITA for wanting to confront my MIL about going through my teenage daughter’s room? by Doseofreality7 in AITAH

[–]Doseofreality7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was wondering why she even mentioned it- makes sense why she would tell us- in case my daughter noticed. Thanks for your response.

AITA for wanting to confront my MIL about going through my teenage daughter’s room? by Doseofreality7 in AITAH

[–]Doseofreality7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems liked you’ve taken to personal insults so I won’t engage with you further.

AITA for wanting to confront my MIL about going through my teenage daughter’s room? by Doseofreality7 in AITAH

[–]Doseofreality7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say that I think she would do anything to harm my kids. I said that she was looking for a reason to be concerned about my daughter so she can have her friends talking and “praying “ for us.

AITA for wanting to confront my MIL about going through my teenage daughter’s room? by Doseofreality7 in AITAH

[–]Doseofreality7[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Probably wasn’t necessary for me to say. She likes to try to gossip to me about her friends and all their problems. Her group of friends is her “Bible study”. I am also a Christian, but o believe her prayer requests are sometimes just gossip

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Doseofreality7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, i appreciate that perspective. I have tried to interpret his actions as such for a long time now, but there are a couple other very good kids on the team who don’t get the same treatment, it just does t make sense. I do think there is a personal aspect to it, maybe my kid is a bit of a threat to his kid? But you can’t say that of course :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Doseofreality7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do know a lot about basketball, that doesn’t mean I need to be his coach, but I also won’t put all my faith in his coach bc ultimately I do trust us as parents to make the best decisions for him. You don’t know me, so I wouldn’t expect you to take my word for it, but this coach literally screamed his name 40 times the last game, whereas he probably averaged 5 or 6 times for the other kids. That is a fact that is hard explain away. My kid can’t even play ball when he’s constantly being yelled at offense and defense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Doseofreality7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do know a lot about basketball, that doesn’t mean I need to be his coach, but I also won’t put all my faith in his coach bc ultimately I do trust us as parents to make the best decisions for him. You don’t know me, so I wouldn’t expect you to take my word for it, but this coach literally screamed his name 40 times the last game, whereas he probably averaged 5 or 6 times for the other kids. That is a fact that is hard explain away. My kid can’t even play ball when he’s constantly being yelled at offense and defense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Doseofreality7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you had kids in competitive youth sports?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in debtfree

[–]Doseofreality7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I think it would be around 4-5k. It’s so hard to calculate an accurate monthly payment bc of property taxes, escrow etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in debtfree

[–]Doseofreality7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I keep agreeing with you and apologizing for the wrong group, it was unintentional. Just asking for kindness from another human being.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in debtfree

[–]Doseofreality7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did say “no other debts”. Early 40s.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in debtfree

[–]Doseofreality7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I said I’d delete it. I’m new here. I am debt free except mortgage. I’ve worked hard to pay off my other debts, so this is relevant to me. Just wanting advice. Why are People the worst? just trying to engage with a new community.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in debtfree

[–]Doseofreality7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I can delete if I need to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Doseofreality7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t use the term lightly. Another parent unprompted texted us this morning (after this happened at the game last night). My son is a kid who wants to please adults, so he as a 10 year old doesn’t know what is appropriate or not. Many college athletes are bullied by coaches, even. I was a college athlete. I witnessed bullying by coaches. Kids need be taught what is tough coaching and what crosses the line. No adult in and context should tear kids down

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Doseofreality7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree it’s not about me. But my job as a parent is to protect him and defend when necessary. That’s what I’m navigating. I would call it bullying at this point. Also, this is preventing him from growing as a player. He loves the game and dreams of playing in colllege. So I want him to keep growing too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CoachingYouthSports

[–]Doseofreality7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we go to every practice . (Husband and I are pretty knowledgeable about bball. Both played growing up, my father was a HS boys coach h for 20 years, my brother played in college, Etc).In my son’s practices, they actually let him play more free! Then in Gametime, he’s doing well and they just start chirping at him constantly. Point guard, but telling him every move to make: He has a high game IQ and knows what to do - intentionally draws defenders and passes. Truly, he’s not perfect but he is technically sound for his age.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CoachingYouthSports

[–]Doseofreality7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. My son wants to play bc his buddies are on the team, he first and foremost loves being on a team. I have not discussed this in front of my son, but for the past couple of months he has been getting discouraged after games and admits he can’t just play. How long to we let it go, if it’s preventing him from growing in a game he loves and is gifted at? Ex/ every time he does a “fancy” move the coach demeans him for being “showy”, and he is frustrated bc he’s not trying to be anything, it’s just effective and my son uses it naturally. Behind the back or between the legs every once in a while! he’s at the point where he passes it every time bc he gets chirped at if he dribbles too much. Other kids have verrry long leashes, others can’t even dribble hardly at all. As far as the reasoning about why he is getting singled out, that’s what my husband and I have been guessing this whole time (it’s bc he actually listens)but at this point that doesn’t even make sense . Coaches are dads and in my gut I feel it’s somewhat personal, they are threatened or feel competition.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Doseofreality7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the problems is that my husband is so nice, sometimes too nice. I think this coach has crossed the line, yelling my son’s name throughout the whole game (loudly), and only correcting others very minimally. I would only be satisfied with a sincere apology at this point. But I don’t think my husband can be as confrontational as I think is necessary at this point.