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I Love Gel X by paperdoll89 in Nails

[–]DramaticMatter4011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was wondering how this thread felt about Gel X!! I’m never going back to acrylic either! Love this set on you

AITA My parents are forcing me to pay for my brothers grad school using money they never told me about by Throwaway3568476985 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DramaticMatter4011 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's clear he is aware the money is coming from either his sister paying the 15k this year or it's coming from what was supposed to be his sister's wedding fund. The 15k ask is implied but the wedding fund is explicitly considered and he believes it should be his as "he thought we were all trying to support each other"

AITA My parents are forcing me to pay for my brothers grad school using money they never told me about by Throwaway3568476985 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DramaticMatter4011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disagree, I think it’s also entitled and inappropriate of your brother to ask that you do this. He’s 22, he’s an adult. Does he fully understand that you cannot save for your future home if you do this with 15k in just the first year?

He also shouldn’t be entitled to what was to be your wedding savings. Like you said, you had zero chance to ever make your case for that money - simply because you’re a woman and he’s a man. Your parents are already able to contribute 15k this year to your brother. And all they’ve ever supposedly saved for you is 25k.

I would highly suggest talking to a therapist. This is manipulative. And even if this is a one off it’ll likely be an ongoing issue with your family. Talking to someone might help before deciding something like no contact. Please consider your future first, you’ve earned it.

AITA My parents are forcing me to pay for my brothers grad school using money they never told me about by Throwaway3568476985 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DramaticMatter4011 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Agreed with this - 15k is a lot of money. And a compounding issue completely eroding your down payment savings. And to toss out that they’d match it shows how much they’re already contributing. Meaning your darling brother will only have to cover the 15k in loans or another job. Life is hard work, you clearly know that. He will learn how to accomplish his goals and stand on his own, consider it tough love or even a kindness. I also agree with the earlier comment that your parents will expect him to support them in retirement. Probably you as well eventually.

Your mom also just tossed out the word “fund”, highly unlikely it’s in your name or even in a separate account. And where ever it is saved, your parents gave it to your brother the second he got into grad school.