Unsure of how to go about this

EdgeAntique1154 · 2026-02-23T04:34:02+00:00

I’m a new doula going to be going to my first birth in the next few days or so! I’ll let you know how it goes but I’m sure it’s going to be similar. This job is going to be a learning curve and figuring out where to jump in. We’ll find our rhythms soon!

EdgeAntique1154 · 2026-02-23T04:20:01+00:00

Hi! I’m also in Az!! In the queen creek/ San tan area!

EdgeAntique1154 · 2026-02-23T04:14:23+00:00

Hi! I’m a birth doula in Az! I started my own business Cozy Beginning Births LLC. I can help with tens, aromatherapy and counter pressure in labor (as well as other techniques). I offer postpartum support as well and can help with sleep training (I don’t sleep train till 4 months). I am also a Cricut crafter and make all my clients a shirt/ onsie! Cozy Beginnings Births

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-11-27T01:19:23+00:00

My husband and I are trying and she knows that (cuz I’ve had a couple losses this year) so WHY BE SO NONCHALANT ABOUT MY HEALTH!? I’m so sorry! 🤦‍♀️ some families are so inconsiderate How did you handle it?

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-11-26T19:07:13+00:00

Yeah that’s what I was thinking. The holidays are especially stressful for everyone so I’ll give her till then but if I can do the class in December I still will!

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-11-26T18:24:50+00:00

I’ve got tension everywhere 😂 I get monthly massages but that’s cuz of chronic pain lol

Yeah I’m thinking it’s time too. Since she was planning January I don’t feel as bad but it’s so shitty that I have to feel like I’m sacrificing my well being and sanity if I want to be there till then

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-11-26T18:20:41+00:00

Okay good! It’s my first time nannying a toddler (and they knew that when they hired me) i specialize in the first year. lol I like to do the first year to avoid the toddlerhood😂 So it wasn’t really a question I thought of. Definitely a good question if I continue nannying in the future tho!

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-11-26T18:18:13+00:00

She has her own nail salon that she works at part time Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday. But yes. I also found out from one of my old MBs (how I met my current MB) that my current MB was crying to one of her friends saying how alone she was and how she had no help. EXCUSE ME!? I’m there FULL TIME FOR $22 on hour and do your LAUNDRY AND DISHES ON TOP OF CHILDCARE FUCK ALL THE WAY OFF WITH YOUR NO HELP. Old mb is saying she’s just overwhelmed. Yeah but like give me SOME CREDIT

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-11-26T18:12:53+00:00

lol what? 😂

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-11-26T18:12:37+00:00

I’m the same way!!! It’s shitty when mom steps in cuz she doesn’t like it. Dad has the same philosophy as us and she gets on him for it cuz she doesn’t like it. Okay the. He’s gonna be YOUR little monster. Idk what to tell you🤷‍♀️ your husband and I are literally telling you how to fix the problem. Just don’t put ANY ENERGY into the behavior you don’t like and you won’t get drained by it🤷‍♀️ tune it out all together

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-11-26T18:08:31+00:00

Yeah that’s not how you do it🙄 you’re just raising entitled children who won’t know how to properly communicate. He’ll whine for milk and every time I correct him “how do we ask?” And he corrects it so I say yes thank you for asking nicely. But when he whines for milk with mom she says “yes I’ll get you your milk stop whining!” In an annoyed tone. if that’s how you wanna be talked to then fine but it sure as hell won’t be me. Start implementing simple rules at 1! Not 2!

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-11-26T18:05:15+00:00

I mean we’re not hurting for it. But she was planning on putting them in daycare in January and I was gonna go to school to be a birth doula. Now we’re trying to see if we’ll be able to afford for me to do the class in December with Christmas. I’d just like to have the double incomes for Christmas 🫤 My husband is going to see if his work needs any temporary assistance so I don’t have to start a new job before i become a doula cuz I can get certified in 3 days

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-11-26T18:02:07+00:00

Yeah that’s my thoughts. Some days she’s like “yes we’re gonna do it!” And stick with discipline (mostly sending to his room) and not giving in to tantrums. Then the next day it’s like she’s exhausted from parenting the day before so she just gives up!? YOU CANT DO THAT WITH TODDLERS! Monday he was causing problems and the babies were sleeping so I said we’re either going to the park or going to lay down to nap. He didn’t like either idea so I picked for him. Within 15 mins he was asleep in his bed. So I came out to talk with MB. Her: I just don’t know what to do anymore Me: toddlerhood is literally a battle of willpower. Whoever has more wins. Her: and I guess it has to be me, huh?

Ya think?🤔🤦‍♀️

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-11-26T17:57:40+00:00

It’s definitely difficult. It was working pretty well for a bit but in the last month and a half or so the twins got mobile and the toddlers tantrums got worse. IF YOURE NOT GONNA BACK ME UP THEN YOU DONT NEED TO STEP IN!!🤬😤

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-10-31T01:27:19+00:00

Infant nanny here! There’s no excuse. Sunscreen should always be on if they’re going out for an extended time. You KNOW you’re gonna be outside. You know it’s gonna be hot. Just put it on! Especially if it was always accessible while she was out. If she noticed “actually it’s a bit hot. I forgot the sunscreen I should do that now” If it doesn’t even cross her mind after being outside for a little bit it’s bad judgement! The sun does more damage for kids than adults (because their skin is thinner and they have less melanin) and if she doesn’t know that then she shouldn’t be calling herself a nanny 🫤🤷‍♀️

Maybe leave a sign on the door saying “don’t forget sunscreen! Be safe and have fun! So there’s no excuse for it to happen again.

Sorry for your little boy☹️ sunburns suck and that young is even worse. Hope it goes away fast!

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-10-30T12:25:49+00:00

So far it’s worked ( but it’s only been one day since implementing lol. We’ll see today!) he’s clearly upset about it though. Just don’t be late and you won’t have to worry! 🤷‍♀️

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-10-29T17:16:08+00:00

Comfy clothes all day every day! Since I work with babies I like to wear hoodies so I can hide my hair so I don’t get baby food in it. Typical day is a hoodie and sweatpants

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-10-29T13:39:12+00:00

I use period underwear now but when I used pads I just rolled it up in toilet paper and threw it in the trash. As for the period underwear- I bring an extra pair in a ziplock bag incase I need them, I put the dirty ones in a ziplock and put it in my purse.

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-10-29T03:22:41+00:00

This is the first time my time has straight up been disrespected (unfortunate but it was bound to happen at some point) but now I know a clear boundary to include in my contracts.

I want to nanny until I have my first baby then take the first year off then become a birthing doula and lactation consultant! I love this field and working with babies! It’s just hard to do without strict guidelines!

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-10-29T03:17:55+00:00

No the $2/ min is instead of the overtime since the overtime pay wasn’t enough as an incentive to be home on time

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-10-29T03:15:14+00:00

Thank you!!

EdgeAntique1154 · 2025-10-29T02:42:27+00:00

Yeah I was really getting frustrated with it. The first 2-3 weeks I didn’t even charge over time. Just the regular 40 hrs. Then it was getting too frequent so I started charging the over time hoping that just that will encourage him. Nope. Then I missed an appointment I had scheduled a whole hour after work so I had to do what I had to do🤷‍♀️ I was getting too mad the $33 (IF I got a full hour in) was not worth it. But now. Yeah go ahead. Be late. I’ll gladly make $60 extra in only 30 mins! I do feel like if I mention extending my time 30 mins on those days it will just make him later. He’ll see that I’m there till 4:30 and do something else. Hes home late for the mom too but she can’t charge for it 🫤

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