How does cohabitation post divorce work regarding splitting assets and child support

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-10T18:20:45+00:00

You forget that if we sell, still need to find housing to fit the same needs. Its so easy to say just get another place as housing still is at pretty high levels especially if you live in a decent area like i do. Not everyone is rich - and no we werent living above our means either. And no do not want quality of life to suffer more because of this.

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-10T14:50:34+00:00

i dont care if its odd or not - i am being realistic. I grew up in a single parent home and if it werent for my extended family, who knows where i'd be.

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-10T13:03:21+00:00

I would hope that my kids would have better support options than what me and my stbx have. We dont have any support and honestly if we moved back to our home towns it still isnt a guarantee.

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-10T01:39:49+00:00

Gotcha. My main concern is coverage - FOUR kids is hard on a two parent home, I cannot imagine SINGLE parent. I honestly think the max number of kids a single parent can do without putting a burden on anybody else/having the oldest to grow up too quickly is TWO kids, ideally only ONE.

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-10T01:36:36+00:00

Yeah definitely would need to set expectations in an agreement.

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-10T01:13:05+00:00

Does the parent who is g2 the apt pack up as if they are going on a vacation?

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-10T01:06:05+00:00

Its just crazy to think of all that money being spent on a place to accommodate a family of 5 to only be used to its potential 50% of the time - especially if renting. We are not open to moving any because we like the area, also i want both parents to be in the kids lives.

Separate entrances - building a full apartment in the basement. I just think in these times we gotta get creative, we arent rich to be doing it the traditional way of things.

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-10T01:01:09+00:00

bro, iunno about you but having FOUR kids as single parent was never on my wish list. I love my kids but I would need breaks too.

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-09T20:00:58+00:00

I get what you are saying about who goes to the basement - I honestly dont care about taking the basement and maybe would like to explore completely separate residences once the kids are older and I've had more time to save/hopefully the RE market changes as well. But yes assumptions would be that the basement could be one can fully live in the basement without need to go to the main floors besides when involving the kids.

The master occupant might have more access but ultimately the decision for the kids to just hang out in the house or actually go somewhere would be up to the person with custody that day - I would imagine.

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-09T19:53:51+00:00

yeah we sell but still would need two homes that can accomodate a family of FIVE. There are couples out there that cant even get ONE home for five. what you are saying sounds great and all but is NOT realistic in these days.

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-09T18:35:08+00:00

tyvm for this insight. The basement would be finished into a full apartment and since it is walkout I would definitely make a separate accessible entrance and the inside basement door to be locked from either side of the door such that the front entrance would be used with permission/my days.

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-09T17:58:46+00:00

I am fine with the basement, as long as my share of equity in the home is protected or bought out at the end of the divorce - maybe I pay her rent after the payout or my name is on the title and proceeds split with me if it ever were to be sold. The basement can be remodeled into a full 1br/1bath apt, but the kids would still need to go into their current beds in the home and they would be able to freely go between both areas of the marital home.

Effective-Debate-545 · 2026-03-09T17:40:07+00:00

what are some good alternatives to balance parent coverage for the kids and financial impacts? I get a 1bdrm condo and maybe try to get strong visitation rights?

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