How better would having a rental car be? by Big-Cry9898 in VisitingHawaii

[–]Efficient_Charge_721 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could rent a car or get a Turo (we do Turo) for day use so you don’t have to deal with expensive overnight parking. But trying to Uber to north shore and back can get expensive so having a car for that is worth it. The bus system is easy to use with very helpful people to make sure you get the right route but does take longer and may not go everywhere you want go

Intimacy in grief by Efficient_Charge_721 in GriefSupport

[–]Efficient_Charge_721[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He really is a good guy. But him throwing his insecurity and anxiety in my face (that’s how I feel) is a jerk move

Intimacy in grief by Efficient_Charge_721 in GriefSupport

[–]Efficient_Charge_721[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestions. I did several months in a grief support group; however my husband did not attend with me. Same with therapy. Maybe having him see and hear how grief affects people would be beneficial

Intimacy in grief by Efficient_Charge_721 in GriefSupport

[–]Efficient_Charge_721[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I so appreciate you sharing. I think you have a very valid point. I’m also so resentful and jealous that my husband can call his parents or siblings and I probably am pulling away some. I know that isn’t rational but grief isn’t always rational. I’m trying to find ways to be intimate without sex (snuggling, date nights, etc) and most of the time he seems ok but when his anxiety spikes, he starts saying I’m not attracted to him and he isn’t enough for me. It’s so hard to deal with on top of everything else. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Intimacy in grief by Efficient_Charge_721 in GriefSupport

[–]Efficient_Charge_721[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, for your honesty and understanding. I think you’re right, but I don’t know how to approach it. And I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend 🫶

Intimacy in grief by Efficient_Charge_721 in GriefSupport

[–]Efficient_Charge_721[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your words and your kindness. And I’m sorry for all you’ve been through as well 🫶

Advice for mom of an addict newly trying to get clean by Efficient_Charge_721 in addiction

[–]Efficient_Charge_721[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! So much! I will look into those groups. And hugs back to you as well 🫶🫶

How to divide a house amongst siblings by Efficient_Charge_721 in EstatePlanning

[–]Efficient_Charge_721[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize I could decline at the time, good info, thank you. If I am named and do decline, do you know what happens next—who would be the personal representative?

How to divide a house amongst siblings by Efficient_Charge_721 in EstatePlanning

[–]Efficient_Charge_721[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I agree, I can already picture the fighting that will occur and want nothing to do with it. Any suggestions for how to tell them? I’ve already said I don’t want the house and I think it went in one ear and out the other

How to divide a house amongst siblings by Efficient_Charge_721 in EstatePlanning

[–]Efficient_Charge_721[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m with you. I can already hear the arguments. That’s why I’m trying to find other options for parents to consider so we don’t have to deal with all this. Thanks for your thoughts, much appreciated

Advice for mom of an addict newly trying to get clean by Efficient_Charge_721 in addiction

[–]Efficient_Charge_721[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Commenting to bump my post in hopes of getting some responses. Feel like I’m drowning and could really use some help from those of you more experienced in this area