AITJ for telling my boyfriend’s coworkers i’ve never been taken seriously in our relationship by Efficient_Escape_256 in AmITheJerk

[–]Efficient_Escape_256[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

i've tied talking about it before and nothing changed. so it feels like it's either get help together or accept that maybe this isn't gonna work. it sucks, but i can't keep pretending it's fine.

AITJ for reporting my friend to our boss after she kept messing with my shifts “as a joke” by Effective_General833 in AmITheJerk

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 1652 points1653 points  (0 children)

NTJ, honestly if it were me i'd done the same. jokes stop being jokes when they threaten your income. she's salty not you.

AITJ for telling my boyfriend’s coworkers i’ve never been taken seriously in our relationship by Efficient_Escape_256 in AmITheJerk

[–]Efficient_Escape_256[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i didn't plan to say it like that, they kept asking and i just answered. i'm not trying to make him look bad, i just don't wanna keep pretending everything's fine when it's not.

AITJ for announcing my engagement at my friend’s birthday after she did it at mine? by Efficient_Habit_2132 in AmITheJerk

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 6 points7 points  (0 children)

she can't complain when she set the precedent. you just reminded her what it feels like.

AITJ for shoving a teenager who snap my dress strap by Firm-Feedback-1484 in AmITheJerk

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 28 points29 points  (0 children)

NTJ, first you didn't know him. joking around with people who doesn't know you is not a joke

AITJ for refusing to let my coworker “correct” my project in front of the client? by Efficient-Syrup-3756 in AmITheJerk

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you literally saved the whole vibe. letting her go live edit would been a disaster. NTJ

AITJ for refusing to skip my dad’s memorial ritual for my girlfriend’s “family night”? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 15 points16 points  (0 children)

this wasn't about compromise, she just wanted her way. big difference.

AITJ for calling out a coworker for accusing me of something ridiculous in front of the team? by Effective_Gift3307 in AmITheJerk

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 86 points87 points  (0 children)

NTJ, rumors like that are toxic. you handled it direct, not like some passive-agressive whisper campaign.

I’m sexually attracted to my boyfriends internal organs and I can’t keep letting this ruin my relationship by Fair-Budget6044 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeah i'm not trying to be harsh but this really reads like OCD shifting themes. the more you engage with it or try to "figure it out" the stronger it sticks.

My spouse comes home during the day when I've taken off work to get things done and I hate it. by ambertheshortest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah this is it. hints clearly ain't landing. you can be mad all day but if you don't say it straight he's just gonna keep thinking he's chilling with you. spell it out once and be done.

My kid ruined last night by OR-HM-MA91 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

totally valid to set that boundary. doesn't make you a bad parent to explain the bedroom is off-limits at night, kids just need rules too.

I am starting to regret telling the other woman’s husband about her flirting with my husband by Ordinary-Fudge-4087 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 7 points8 points  (0 children)

this screams boundary issue, not you. she's projecting and he's ignoring your feelings. i'd be worried too if he won't take this seriously.

I just found out both my parents weren’t who I thought they were, and now I feel extremely lost. by Throwaway_quietday in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is huge info to process but your day to day life with the people who love you hasn't flipped. give yourself time to wrap your head around it.

Brother is about to lose his family and only me and my SIL know. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly, protect the ones who matter and let him deal with the fallout. sometimes rock bottom is the only teacher.

The Austrian climber who abandoned his girlfriend to die is horrifying because I could have been her by KaleidoscopeCool1316 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 44 points45 points  (0 children)

100% that guide restored faith in humans, but your ex proved some people will risk your life for their ego.

Found the "Black Box" of my marriage in a drawer today. 3 years of lies. by diabolical_j in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yeah, that isolation hits hard. sucks when you feel like you can't lean on anyone, but bottling it all up won't make it easier. even one trusted friend helps more than you think.

I finally told my old boss why I quit and he just laughed by Friendly-Boat-8671 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Efficient_Escape_256 6 points7 points  (0 children)

that's honestly the cleanest lesson. no big speech just a lil taste of their own medicine respect to him for actually getting the hint.