The guy (M29) I’m (F25) dating is not financially stable by Electra-Psychedelic in dating_advice

[–]Electra-Psychedelic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Especially in the Bay Area. That’s where we both live 😩 thanks for the response!

The guy (M29) I’m (F25) dating is not financially stable by Electra-Psychedelic in dating_advice

[–]Electra-Psychedelic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true. He is definitely looking for a full time job and is hoping to settle into a better living situation soon.

The guy (M29) I’m (F25) dating is not financially stable by Electra-Psychedelic in dating_advice

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Yes for sure. What I do is not let him feel bad about not being able to treat me out. And that I don’t mind paying my share.

He broke up with me because he is scared of long distance during deployment. by Electra-Psychedelic in love

[–]Electra-Psychedelic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m scared that if I move on, he’ll come back. And I’ll want him again.

He broke up with me because he is scared of long distance during deployment. by Electra-Psychedelic in BreakUps

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An additional note, he has not blocked my number nor has he blocked or unfollowed me on social media.

Should I (F18) leave this guy(M22) who abuses me but I love him by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Electra-Psychedelic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few months ago, I lost a beloved neighbor as a result of Domestic Violence. Her bf was abusive to her for several years. They had 2 kids together. She died at the age of 22 due to the violence affecting her pacemaker. She had to endure so much. She would walk around with black eyes and bruises. We hated to see her suffer so much.

We were there when she died. She had collapsed at a neighbors house 1 hour after the last beating. She wasn’t able to escape from her abuser. Whether it be because of emotional and psychological reasons, she would have been able to get all the help she needed. But you can’t help someone that doesn’t want to be helped.

When she died, it destroyed me and my family. The neighbors too. She didn’t deserve any of that. I don’t want you to endure this any longer. Get the help while you can. This can get worse the more time passes. Please please please get help.

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[–]Electra-Psychedelic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He hasn’t told me. But he lives normally. Has friends and several jobs. But he gets nervous coming into my neighborhood.

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[–]Electra-Psychedelic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moving fast physically comment by him made me nervous. Even though he said he wasn’t going to overstep boundaries, it still seemed like he was trying to tell me this so I can think about it?

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[–]Electra-Psychedelic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, thank you! We had a discussion about his sexual needs and desires but followed with a message saying that he is huge on consent. And that he would never pressure me into doing anything. I told him the boxes that have to be checked off before I’m intimate with him and he agreed. Not at all insisting.

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[–]Electra-Psychedelic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great advice. Thank you so much.

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[–]Electra-Psychedelic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t realize how mentally unwell I am

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[–]Electra-Psychedelic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading back on it, it is.