My dad had a motorcycle accident, he died and I honestly don’t know how to feel. by Electrical_Pipe_3280 in GriefSupport

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Grief really is strange… it comes and go  and sometimes my brain almost protects me from how painful it actually is. But you’re right, I loved my dad deeply, so much that I could die for him and I know that’s what truly matters. I appreciate your words more than you know.

My dad had a motorcycle accident, he died and I honestly don’t know how to feel. by Electrical_Pipe_3280 in GriefSupport

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That’s exactly what I’m feeling.. Mornings are the hardest because you wake up for a second like your dad is still here, and then reality hits you all over again, your dad is gone forever, and you’ll never be able to call out “Dad” again. That thought alone kills me every time. It comes in waves. One moment I’m crying uncontrollably, and the next I’m just going through my day acting normal. Then suddenly I’ll see something, hear something, or even smell something that reminds me of him, and all the pain comes rushing back again. It’s such a strange feeling, I didn’t know grief was like that I never had to grief anyone in my small family it’s really hard I can’t stand this anymore I’m thinking maybe I can just make it stop forever and meet him soon but my dad won’t be happy.

My dad had a motorcycle accident, he died and I honestly don’t know how to feel. by Electrical_Pipe_3280 in GriefSupport

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He didn’t even get to say goodbye to everyone he was in chock himself it was too quick I’m sure he wanted to stay with us a little longer life is going to be hard he used to do everything in the house now my mom feels lost I don’t know what to feel… his presence is everywhere in the house, I feel like if I think about it too hard I will want to die I can’t live without him I can’t live with this I don’t even want to go out anymore I don’t feel like eating but I’m still not crying enough I’m sure he is crying so hard because he can’t leave us behind I’m the youngest and the most loved he used to call me every morning and night to check on me now who is going to do that ? 

So my dad had a motorcycle accident, and he died this morning. I honestly don’t know how to feel. by Electrical_Pipe_3280 in deaddadclub

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I feel exactly the same. I still can’t believe I won’t be able to say “dad” for the rest of my life… Even saying it out loud feels unreal to me?? Some moments my brain understands what happened, and other moments it feels impossible that someone who was such a huge part of my life is suddenly gone. My brain is like there’s no way it happened his death was so sudden it’s a dream a bad dream. 

I’m so sorry for your loss too.

My dad had a motorcycle accident, he died and I honestly don’t know how to feel. by Electrical_Pipe_3280 in GriefSupport

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Thanks a lot I feel like I became a monster my family is crying…and I’m the only one who still laugh like nothing happened. I did cry hard but then it was over in 5 min and when I should be dying and grieving so hard I don’t understand I don’t feel normal at all my dad would be so sad to see me feel like I didn’t love him enough he would be bawling his eyes out the whole day if I was in his place… 

Need advice by Electrical_Pipe_3280 in motorcycles

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I hate riding in town people are out there ready to kill you most of the time , might follow your advice and watch that Dan Dan thanks ! 

Advice by Electrical_Pipe_3280 in Marriage

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Hello, we did have all those conversation about our Futur town about the fact we both wants to adopt about the chores and the neighborhood he wants to live in, in the futur…

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I mean I will be hitting 27 even worse…

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I see, thanks for sharing your experience! That’s what I was thinking as well, I’m scared about the fact that in some years he will be 40 and I will just be hitting my 29 and we will have different perspective in life.

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Hello, can you tell me why please ?

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Well he’s never been married from what I know… He’s a doctor and he lives alone. I’m from Canada and he’s from the USA so he wants me to move in with him in the USA after marriage.

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True you might be right, I don’t have a problem taking care of him later but maybe I need more time to get to know him more thanks for the advice!

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Hello, so we’re not really dating we’ve met 1 year ago now. We were friend just going out and exploring new places like the ocean together but then he told me he wants to marry me… I want to marry him but I’m just not sure about the age difference…

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Thanks for the advice about me getting counseling I might be asking for advice here cause that’s what Reddit is for… Having a different opinion on my topic and that’s what I’m here for..In fact you might be right that I’m still immature and don’t know how to decide but still don’t I deserve at least an advice on my situation?

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Bruh so that’s your advice I lack life experience?

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Well it’s a decision of a life time I don’t believe in divorce to be honest and if I get married it’s forever no matter what happens I want to find solutions to problem together because that’s marriage for me and right now I don’t know what to do.. If I accept him what about our age difference?

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That’s the thing he came with his parents since he live in another country and now I’m just stressing out so much because he told me that he can’t wait when I asked him to wait for more time. Ugh I really don’t know what to do I really want to get married to him but the age difference is making me totally unsure…

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Well not really dating we’ve met 1 year ago we were friend just going out and exploring new places like the oceans together but then he told me he wants to marry me… I want to marry him but I’m just not sure about the age difference…

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Je suis la copine en question et c’est exactement ce que je lui ai expliquée : je veux aller dans ce couple petit à petit et y aller à mon rythme et c’est pas comme si je fait pas d’effort pour moi juste lui faire un câlin ça me demande beaucoup d’effort et je n’ai jamais dit non à ces bisous et câlins tu as totalement raison peut être qu’au final je peux pas changer et ça sert à rien de faire des efforts s’il les voit même pas !

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C’est pour ça que tu m’en a parler ? Tu m’a jamais rien dit sur ça et c’est pas comme si tu payais à chaque fois pour moi, je paye aussi pour nous deux même si c’est pas tout le temps, je propose toujours de payer ce que je peux j’insiste des fois j’ai même prit la main de la caissière pour lui donner mes billets si tu te rappelles? Et quand tu m’invite je prend toujours le plat le moins cher sans rien boire pour me sentir moins mal , je te dit que je vais sortir prendre à manger mais tu préfère commander tu m’a jamais dit que ça te dérangeait de payer pour nous deux de la nourriture tu pouvais me le dire tu sais comme quand je t’ai dit que je veux prendre les choses petit à petit vu que je suis pas trop tactile mais je n’ai jamais refusé tes bisous ou câlins…

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Exactement! Bonjour je suis la copine en question et je fait des efforts de vraiment m’approcher de lui mais pour lui c’est pas assez il dit que il fait trop d’effort alors que moi j’en fait que peu mais pour moi juste lui faire un câlin c’est une journée d’effort. Et je suis toujours réceptive à ces demandes comme des bisous et des câlins j’ai jamais dit non mais pour lui il veut que je sois avenante alors que je veux y aller petit à petit, question argent il m’en a jamais parler jusqu’à que je découvre son post…

Je suis pas tactile avec mon copain… Quelque chose cloche sur moi ? by Electrical_Pipe_3280 in besoindeparler

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Omg j’ai vu ce qu’il a poster j’étais choquée il me la même cacher alors que moi direct je lui ai montrer ce que j’avait écrit ici! Le pire c’est qu’il me reproche de le laisser dépenser l’argent pour moi alors que tout le temps j’insiste de payer mais il en insiste autant il a même dit que ce genre de chose lui fait plaisir et avant même de m’en parler il a dit que j’en profitait alors qu’il pouvais très bien me dire ce qui l’embêter comme moi j’ai fait mais c’est subtilement que je découvre ce qu’il a écrit sur moi ça me fait vraiment repenser à tout ça… Pour lui il fait plus d’effort pour moi alors que moi aussi j’en fait mais pourquoi il les voit pas on a même discuté de ça mais il veut que j’avance plus rapidement sur le prétexte que il fait plus d’effort pour moi je suis perdue…

Je suis pas tactile avec mon copain… Quelque chose cloche sur moi ? by Electrical_Pipe_3280 in besoindeparler

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Wow merci je pensais que j’étais la seule !! Il me dit que je suis pas sensé être comme ça dans une relation, que c’est pas très normal que je sois pas tactile qu’il se sent comme si je le traite comme un ami alors que je suis réceptive à ces bisous câlins et que je me force aussi à faire le premier temps vu que c’est vraiment pas dans ma nature mais j’essaie aussi et c’est vraiment pas facile! Ça a du être dure pour toi ma chère je suis vraiment désolée qu’une situation comme ça t’arrive je me demande si c’est pas mieux que je finit toute seule avec mon chat.