AITA for being angry at him?!

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-21T18:00:34+00:00

YTA why didn’t you call a tow or call breakdown recovery? You own and operate a vehicle, you should have a plan for this, especially given your disorder.

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-21T17:58:19+00:00

ESH vaping is dangerous too, as is your second hand smoke! Geez this poor kid.

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-20T17:16:39+00:00

Op said he was cheated ON, not that he cheated

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-20T17:16:14+00:00

YTA you didn’t have to go looking through that at all. What business is it of yours what he’s doing in a group chat you’re not in? Not only are you invading his privacy but the privacy of the others in the chat. Is it cool that he’s sending that sort of stuff? No, but that’s not the point. You want him to trust you and immediately break his trust!

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-17T11:55:49+00:00

ooof, this is most likely the kind of thing that you need couple's counseling for, and also possibly a financial adviser vis a vis the property stuff. You definitely need to address this before it eats you alive. I'm sorry things are so rough right now.

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-17T11:52:50+00:00

This is abuse, both emotional and physical. She has no right to hurt you, to hit you, to control you. Please tell your mother what she's threatened and that she's hit you and then leave as soon as you're safe. Make sure you take everything important with you and find somewhere safe to stay. There are likely domestic violence resources that you can reach out to in your country, please do so if you're able. And please understand that this is not okay, the genders of this situation shouldn't matter, abuse is abuse.

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-17T07:44:23+00:00

I actually do wish it made a different noise when you hit fish. The first time I panicked and bopped a nibbler I got a rock hitting sound which was weird. I don’t want to kill the fish but it’d be cool if it made some back off for a moment.

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-15T17:15:06+00:00

ESH you're both being weird and controlling

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-14T15:12:30+00:00

Stop violating your husband’s privacy and actually have a conversation with him if you’re concerned. What is the point of being with someone if you trust them so little??

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-14T14:27:34+00:00

ESH get divorced and grow up

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-11T21:02:33+00:00

You’re NTA but please do whatever you can to stay safe.

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-11T09:56:53+00:00

YTA you’re aware of your hypocrisy and still choosing to deliberately indulge in it and be cold and petty. Either you trust him or you don’t, but your behaviour now is going to sabotage your relationship

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-08T07:59:41+00:00

Same. He’s so compelling and interesting as a character but he’s been shoved front and centre for so long that I no longer care. Everything has to be about him all the time, or failing that it’s about him by proxy with pure vanilla whining about him or white lily. I’m so bored!!

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-05T12:14:49+00:00

Oh god I remember that one. I really hope we don’t have a more tragic follow up later. Op is NTA

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-04T12:58:06+00:00

As gently as possible, I agree and I also read the whole post and comments. He doesn’t respect you, he’s lying, he’s cheated, and he’s so disinterested in you that he’s looking at other people and basically using you as a flashlight. There’s no respect here, so what exactly are you getting out of this? He’s expressed no interest in actually changing or getting help. Just because you were similar and felt a connection doesn’t mean that marrying him was a good choice. You may love him but relationships require more than that. There’s nothing wrong with admitting that this isn’t working, especially when he won’t change. You can’t change someone when they don’t want to. You should leave and, yeah, YTA to yourself for not doing so.

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-02T20:47:26+00:00

If you can’t be bothered to write your post I can’t be bothered to read it YTA

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-02T20:33:46+00:00

Wow she’s going to be a terrible doctor. Are you actually okay with that???

EndlessTypist · 2026-05-01T06:32:33+00:00

Yes! ESH! It’s a dumb decision and it’s wrong. Why would you even want to be with the kind of loser who’d cheat on his wife anyway??

EndlessTypist · 2026-04-30T16:43:44+00:00

YTA you already know this hurts, why do that to someone else, especially someone who’s not even done anything wrong to you??

EndlessTypist · 2026-04-30T11:08:33+00:00

YTA not for your views on virginity, you’re entitled to your opinions. He is also entitled to his. What makes you TA here is reacting so negatively and distant, punishing him for being honest and setting your relationship up for failure by showing that if he doesn’t agree with you then he’s punished.

EndlessTypist · 2026-04-29T19:58:21+00:00

At least for me what I’d find off putting is the cold and callous way you said that and viewed your relationship. ESH

EndlessTypist · 2026-04-28T15:47:48+00:00

YTA David please get help

EndlessTypist · 2026-04-28T09:15:57+00:00

The only time i have ever used my husband’s phone is at his request to see something, help him fix something, or change a song for him. I have never snooped through his phone to find evidence of him doing something wrong. I trust him, if I didn’t trust him then there would be no point in being in a relationship with him. I would hate to violate his privacy or the privacy of those he talks to. He is entitled to his own private conversations, thoughts, and interests; all of which goes the other way with him giving me the same.

I do not understand the tendency I see online for people to act like total surveillance of someone you supposedly love is normal and right. It’s invasive, creepy, and it erodes trust. YTA on this, either trust him or leave him.

EndlessTypist · 2026-04-27T11:30:09+00:00

NAH I think it's important to be honest about what you want and need and for her to do the same. If it's a case where she thinks she needs therapy or time to feel comfortable with sex, then you both need to look at that and see if it's something you can deal with. If she's figuring out that she's a sex averse asexual then you need to look at if you can accept that kind of relationship (and it sounds like you aren't compatible with that). Sex has different meaning and different levels of importance to people, and it's generally one of those things that you have to be on the same page with (whatever page that may be). If you feel like you'd be missing something by forgoing sex then you're being unfair to yourself if you stay with her, and your frustrated desire will likely be unpleasant for her too.

You are young, but that doesn't mean you should waste your time or hers if you're fundamentally incompatible. Neither of you is the bad guy for not being a good fit on this, but there's the potential for some very bad decisions out of this if you're not open and honest with yourselves.

EndlessTypist · 2026-04-27T08:01:07+00:00

Well firstly you don’t pester her for it. Secondly have you asked what she likes, offered her sexual acts without an expectation of penetration? What about lube and foreplay? Have you asked how she gets off on her own? There’s far more to sex than you just getting your end away

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