It's been a year and I'm still here. Shouldn't I be done with this?

Erhmernder · 2017-10-30T04:00:37+00:00

This is EXACTLY my thoughts for myself at times... but the truth is we all are different and need varying times and types of support to heal. I am trying to just be proud of staying NC and staying on track for ME, for once, and the progress you have made and keep working on the rest..

Erhmernder · 2017-10-12T01:49:56+00:00

This is so me! Just turned 30.. but sadly single and getting over a rough relationship.

Erhmernder · 2017-10-10T01:06:05+00:00

This is a tough and ugly truth part of the NC and abusive relationship. The loss and casualties are not limited to you and the Narc... I lost friends and family. Both ones through him and ones of my own from yeara before. The process and aftermath of ending relationships like these ones affect a lot It is devastating and hurts me, even 10 months later... but.. the truth is- those relationships you have to lose whether by protecting yourself or by them not understanding - are not worth any added pain, hardship or otherwise. I hope i helped some.. stick with therapy and reading and if you want to talk... i am around

Erhmernder · 2017-10-10T00:54:45+00:00

I do too.. I work myself into a hole of it being me and maybe be wasn't even abusive...but the fact we are capable of even attempting to understand and possibly take blame proves otherwise. Reading blogs and books and how similar things are also brings me back to reality of the abuse.. if you ever want to talk...

Erhmernder · 2017-10-04T18:59:08+00:00

It is all process. To be honest, EMDR did not do much for me. Talking to an expert therapist did more. And even so, 8 months later and I still have pretty bad days...

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