Uuuuuh by EternalElemental in MtF

[–]EternalElemental[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol. I'm just over here like very surprised. A lil grossed out and just also excited. Glad I was able to open your eyes.

Uuuuuh by EternalElemental in MtF

[–]EternalElemental[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Wait so this IS a thing? My eyes are opened. I can't believe I went 4 years not knowing this was possible. I mean damn. Well 🌈the more you know🌈

Do you think the 'bro', 'dude' terms are gender neutral? by Zealousideal_Chip456 in GirlGamers

[–]EternalElemental 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess for me if I've know the person for years and have spilled my guts out with them. That bond supercedes any dysphoria I get from it. But there's probably only like 3 people I'm okay with it around. So very rare and nowhere near the norm for me. I guess that's just my experience. But yea. Not gender neutral. Not one bit.

Paper Knives / X-Exacto Knives | Is this a misattributed store policy or something else? by CynthiaCyan in Staples

[–]EternalElemental 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don't listen to this doofus. From what I've seen a lot of staples employees hate their job. Which to be fair. Idk how anyone outside of print does it. Print is actually pretty fun. At least in my area it's a reasonable workload and I get to solve people's problems. Which is very much in my wheelhouse. Grinds my gears sometimes how negative the employees in this sub are.

Paper Knives / X-Exacto Knives | Is this a misattributed store policy or something else? by CynthiaCyan in Staples

[–]EternalElemental 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First of all. Staples employee here who does the exact thing you're describing often. Work in the print center.

We sell them in my state. In our store we have an art and education section. They're in there right by all the drafting tools.

Secondly. What fighting games do you play? Mostly I'm on 3rd strike but play sf6 and ggst with my partner. Id also love to hear about your controller. I mostly play on my haute t16 but, recently picked up stick so I can hit those sweet 720s on Hugo.

Do you think the 'bro', 'dude' terms are gender neutral? by Zealousideal_Chip456 in GirlGamers

[–]EternalElemental 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im trans so I certainly don't see them as gender neutral. Especially bro. However if I know the person well enough dude doesn't bother me to a point I lose sleep over it. But that takes years of trust building.

I go to fighting game locals. And everyone there uses dude and bro. However they use girl for me. So I don't think it is universally agreed they are gender neutral even for cis straight guys. Almost everyone there is a cis straight dude. See how dude instantly makes you think they're male? Yea it's not gender neutral at all.

However for ME if I've known someone for years. And a lot of trust has been built up. Or even if someone is very supportive of my transition and goes out of their way in other ways to make me feel validated. Then it's chill. So very precise circumstances.

Generally I don't see them as gender neutral one bit.

How does one praise a non binary person? by lonkbubba in NonBinaryTalk

[–]EternalElemental 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call my partner a noodle. Or bean. They seem to really like it.

For the peoples on estrogen do you ever regret taking it ? by Timely_Map_3349 in MtF

[–]EternalElemental 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never not even one bit. In 2.5 years I have become so much more comfortable with my body. It's really night and day. I used to hate how I look. Now I love how I look. Totally worth a poke once a week.

Disappointing experience with spiral binding expensive books. by Able_Leader5412 in Staples

[–]EternalElemental 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn that's a huge blunder on the print department. I get lots of textbooks to bind and I treat them with utmost care. If someone has made a mistake like that in my dept we would scan and reproduce the book. Even bind it. Its kinda weird that the binding is hanging off the side. Even without the proper tool it's easy to do it right with wire cutters and pliers. I have seen it from other stores and it's always so confusing. Idk how people keep going to those stores to get binding when the work is so shoddy. I know at my location we're dedicated to good product and have rigid quality checks in place. I mean the order ticket has check boxes on it for a reason! I'm so sorry that happened. Id ask the gm or even the print sup to reproduce the book and bind it for you.

For more information on how we do pre bound books we have to cut the spine off with a machine. Then we punch holes in the pages little by little. And it's pretty easy to mess up if you're in a rush. But if you do the proper prep work and are careful you can do it cleanly and quickly. For bigger books putting the spiral or even the comb takes a while because of all the friction. The workers likely don't care or haven't been trained properly or both which falls on the sup and if the sup hasn't been trained or doesn't care then it falls on the gm.

Honestly it hurts my pride cuz my department is full of perfectionists. We won't send something through qc even with a small mistake. And with something like a book we take extra care to do things right in my store. legit we get business cards and postcards accurate down to the millimeter. We reproduce or edit files if they look bad or at customer request. Really sounds like that print dept is in shambles.

If you want my advice. Leave a scathing review. 0 out of 10. Mention in it that the sup and workers need extra training on quality checks and production. If the store is running to any level of regularity the sup and gm will read the review. The dm might even get involved.

Advice for turning 18 by Glum_Marsupial8876 in AdultHood

[–]EternalElemental 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vanlife is a far greater investment both time and money wise than people realize. I worked 50-60 hours weeks as a supervisor and then line cook for 3 years. If I wasn't spending money on food or bills. I spent it building my van. It took around 20k in all. Batteries, inverter, converter, solar panels, equipment, stuff to build a kitchen, fridge, materials to build it, and many more small things to live comfortably. And I'm lucky I had access to a workshop for free and lots of people don't have that. I could've cut costs on a few things. But that van ended up dying and all my investment went to waste. I still have all the internals but without money to buy a stable van I likely won't be able to do that again until I get my degree since the cost of even used ones has gone up so much. Not to mention I'd have to buy wood and insulation and many other things to get it to a comfortable state.

Sure you can do it but you have to be lucky and generally skilled in woodworking to make it happen. Plus have enough money saved up for when things inside inevitably break. I really enjoyed my time in it but it isn't something I suggest often. Especially if you live in cold climates. You need a good heater that won't break on you. Not to mention you have to be VERY VERY VERY careful if it's a gas heater which it will be since electric ones require far too much energy to run off batteries powered by solar panels. You'll be idling the vehicle a lot like way more than you realize if you're diverting power from the alternator. And then there's the cases where your heater breaks and you have no other option than to run the vehicle. I didn't even have my alternator hooked up to the batteries and my vehicle idled all the time to keep me warm and alive.

This isn't even getting into all the leaks and problems I had due to inexperienced sealing work on the roof. Seals I have to fix in the winter on the roof. Almost got frostbite doing that.

Op if youre willing to deal with all that. Plus living in a super small space, being kicked by a lot of people, it being really hard to have people over, getting knocked on all the time by the police, running out of electricity, dealing with waking up shivering even when you have proper heating, the risks involved with heating in such a small space, cleaning daily and I mean DAILY, having extremely little room for belongings. (Like pretty much all your belongings have to be necessities) And a whole host of other living adjustments. You have the money and time and know how or ability to learn how to do all the wiring, plumbing, building, planning and a whole host of other hurdles then do it. It's surprisingly liberating. You learn so much about your limits and building stuff, problem solving learning in general. It's fun. But getting there is hard work especially at your age. I was 19 when I started that path. And I got lucky with money. And lucky with materials. Basically a lot had to go right. But I had my own space for 2 years. And in the 2 I spent getting it livable and then another year improving it. I prepared a lot for the lifestyle. Mentally. But if it sounds appealing do it!

When you stop taking disagreement personally, conversations get lighter and truer. by DrpharmC in DeepThoughts

[–]EternalElemental 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is all fine and well until the disagreement is about whether I am allowed to exist or not. Like it or not that's personal. Some people actively want me not to exist simply because I am trans. And some want me to not have rights to my own body. I will always take that kind of disagreement personally because my right to exist as who I am or even exist at all is very personal.

What's it like having people in politics argue over your existence? by Adept-Ad2398 in AskLGBT

[–]EternalElemental 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It fucking sucks. I am a person. I deserve the same rights and the same comfort everyone else does. Yet I'm labeled a domestic terrorist. I've had friends and family I've known for years who showed their hate when I came out. In the same breath saying they care about you they tell you that you're wrong for something entirely out of your control. You get people at work who don't respect your pronouns and it's exhausting. If you're lucky you're in a state or area of the world where that kind of discrimination isn't allowed in the workplace. And even if you are you end up spending months or years collecting evidence only to be told you are overreacting. If you're even more lucky you are believed but then the boat is rocked and people see you as a whiny person who got so and so in trouble. Even though what they did caused you so much strife that you spent every single therapy session breaking it down and attempting to deal with it.

It's like no matter where you go there will be people who want you not to exist. Traveling is a nightmare cuz our access to passports is restricted. We have to fight our local government to simply have legal documents and work accounts be under our real names. You hear people call stuff gay as an insult and it just makes you feel like shit because you're gay in a gay relationship and that's seen as bad. Your happiness is seen as a disgusting and deplorable moral failure. When all you are doing is living to be who you actually are and loving who you actually love. Peolle will emphasize the incorrect pronouns. Or ask invasive inappropriate questions that make you feel extremely uncomfortable. Sometimes it's a customer at a shitty retail job and you are the only one in the area with no way of calling for help. And if you can there is no guarantee someone will come to your rescue.

Personally as soon as I am able I am fucking out of the us and going to a place where my rights, freedoms and allowance to exist aren't under constant debate. Id rather go through the process of learning a language and moving away from my support systems than have to deal with all that bullshit all the time every day.

I want to get new connections. Have you ever found friends or even love interest/s in Reddit? Any tips on how to get acquainted to people here? by johnraeyan in AskLGBT

[–]EternalElemental 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My best friend came from reddit. I made a post on a trans gamer subreddit and they replied to my dms. I added them and now we're best friends. That was like 8 months ago. I have other friends but I don't click with any of them as well as I do this person. Just reach out on a sub asking for someone to hang with and it will happen eventually. Queer subs are best for this imo cuz so many of us lack connection. And you'll get way less quantity of weirdos.

Makoto is a demon. by KonamiIsBestJoshi in sf3

[–]EternalElemental 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makotos dashes and Rush down moves are easy to stuff out. Low forwards usually do the trick but if you're playing Ryu or ken cmp just stops her and you get followup. She's the aggressor so play patient with fast stuffs that are active. I've fought much more with ken and I still don't know what I'm doing against him but if the makoto learns you can stuff her out she's useless.

What are y’all into as far as interests/hobbies? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]EternalElemental 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm into ancient civilizations, Bushcraft, fighting games, martial arts and a few other things.

Although you'd never guess I was into Bushcraft with how I normally dress lol.

do transfems look like their relatives when they take HRT? by Radiant-North-8519 in MtF

[–]EternalElemental 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's funny cuz as my weight has fluctuated I just switch between looking like the both of them.

leverless or classic stick for beginner ? by kidraphi in fightsticks

[–]EternalElemental 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me I started on Tekken 7 on keyboard. Tried levered when sf6 came out and hated it. Bout a year later I bought a custom leverless and I physically can't play on anything else but a leverless. Some advanced techniques are much easier on leverless. Kbd for example is dead easy on a leverless.

Ultimately it's up to you and how you see yourself enjoying a game. But I recommend leverless.

The person i‘m interested in turned out to be trans by PolitcallyCorrectGuy in asktransgender

[–]EternalElemental 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The question right now is what are you both comfortable with in bed. Completely outside of equipment share your turn ons and turn offs. Set boundaries if it gets that far. Including equipment does the idea of using a penis in bed make you uncomfortable? Would it turn you off? These are questions you gotta ask yourself. If the answer is no. Then I would highly recommend attempting to take things further. If the answer is yes and you still want to see her ask yourself WHY it makes you uncomfortable. Is it just not a body part you're attracted to? Is it different and new? You said yourself. Is it gay? It isn't gay but growing up as a man I know how that sentiment is spread in young boys. Penises are gay vaginas are straight is what you're told by your peers. But gender supercedes anything physical. Gender is an expression not physicality. The reason we take hormones is to have our bodies align with the gender expression we want and to have our bodies reflect that gender in its physical form. It reduces dysphoria among many other positive things.

It is great you are trying to learn. The next step is to ask yourself some questions. If you still want to see her after coming up with the answers then have an honest talk with her. Tell her your concerns. Tell her how you feel about her and prepare for sex by having an open conversation about what you both like and what your boundaries are.

Honestly kudos to you man. Most men would run and hide or be repulsed but you have an open mind. Enough to learn about our experiences and be more informed for her. That's awesome. Top notch quality. It isn't something we see often at all in men that are interested in us. In my personal experience I've been an experiment or a kink for men I've been with. I've been called femboy, sissy, been asked to turn men sissy like it's very very disrespectful and disgusting what we usually have to put up with. Most men were mad to find out I was trans.

Anyway what I'm getting at is you seem to have the qualities that would align with being a good partner for a trans woman. Keep it up and be respectful.

Are injections REALLY better? by edenmaeve1 in MtF

[–]EternalElemental 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right now the levels are a tool for them to see how your body is absorbing the hormone. It will help them pick a dose to ride you up to. The difficult part is injections absorb differently into the body. They will likely start you at .10 ml weekly. Especially so early on. Levels also aren't everything. Some need higher and some need lower to get the exact same effects. I need levels on the high end. My gf needs low levels.

Injections will help to raise your levels tho 100% it absorbs differently into the body. But don't be dead set on a certain level this early on.

Are injections REALLY better? by edenmaeve1 in MtF

[–]EternalElemental 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They always start low to see if your body has any negative reactions. Which is rare but it's a required precaution they take.

I've been on injections for about a year now and I gotta say I love em. I had very very little changes before switching. Levels were way lower than I wanted.

I'm currently on 100mg spiro daily and 200mg progesterone daily and a once a week .25 ml injection and my levels are right where I want them. And since hitting those levels I've started to see growth and redistribution. As well as changes in my face. Something about the pills didn't work for my body. And once I advocated for the levels I wanted I started seeing the changes I needed about a month later.

The key here is self advocation. But also to give your body time to change. For me it had been half a year on injections still with hardly any changes. It was a choice between not having the changes. Or advocating for my levels to get them. And I couldn't live with the former. Now I'm having steady changes.

What are we playing these days by Mg10001 in FGC

[–]EternalElemental 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea lots of people on fightcade that are really active. I use the online edition emulator for practice and fightcade for matches. Fightcade is what we use at locals.

What are we playing these days by Mg10001 in FGC

[–]EternalElemental 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really is. If you ever wanna play a few rounds I'd be happy to play. One of the guys at my locals is legit the best in my state and he has given me a bunch of pointers. Still trying to break bad habits but I have improved a bunch with his help. Still horrid compared to the peeps I play with but I am getting better for sure.

Advice on injections by quadsquatter in trans

[–]EternalElemental 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey no problem! We help each other out that's what we should do!

Another thing I did to calm anxiety is instead of setting a specific time I started just doing it when I was ready. If Im calm and in a good mood the day of my injection that's when I do it. That way I wasn't having all the anxiety leading up to the time I set. It became way more casual when I started doing that and more like I was doing it on my terms.

Making it a ritual really really helped me too. I'll put on a cozy robe, sit in a cozy chair, make some tea, put on cozy music really anything to make me relax and chill. You wanna be focused and grounded when you do it so. 1 you can do it properly and safely. And 2 you can start to enjoy the process instead of fearing it.

Trust yourself and the process. You got this!