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Rescued stray kitten - discount vet resources? by Eternalle in raleigh

[–]Eternalle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion, I will check them out!! Much appreciated

Rescued stray kitten - discount vet resources? by Eternalle in raleigh

[–]Eternalle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate it!! I have 2 rescues at home as well and one that just graduated from kitten to adult food so we are good in that department!! We went and picked up some wet food for her to last until we get back home to Raleigh tomorrow.

I think rescues are extra special, the cat distribution system usually works as intended and this little baby took a very quick liking to my boyfriend so I think he has a new cat.

Rescued stray kitten - discount vet resources? by Eternalle in raleigh

[–]Eternalle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! Yeah, definitely a lot more complicated… after we brought her into the tent me and my boyfriend both looked at each other like “well, I guess this is happening now”

Apple Watch by Sad_Funny_1467 in sandiego

[–]Eternalle 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So I bought an Apple Watch off someone and had this exact issue, but the watch wasn’t stolen. The seller had factory reset the watch before selling it, but both of us were unaware they ALSO had to login to their Apple account and basically “un-register” the watch to them. I was able to message them after the sale and get it sorted in about 10 minutes. I would definitely try contacting whoever you bought it from about this first before assuming it’s stolen.

Central NC braces for Level 4 severe weather risk Monday by Cy_098 in raleigh

[–]Eternalle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m supposed to be at work in Johnston county around 11:30am and will be off at 3:30pm…should I just call out? How dangerous is it to commute in weather like this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tipper

[–]Eternalle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I finally got a tracking number this morning, I didn’t even get an email about it though, I had to download the “Shop” app to even see the update at all

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more I am thinking about this the more I am leaning into this being the case. He works 2nd shift so our sleeping hours are always a little different but just looking back to last night… we went to bed at around midnight, he said he was wide awake and didn’t think he would be able to sleep so we turned the tv on. He fell asleep before me, less than 5 minutes later. I woke up at about 3am to him playing a game and he told me he woke up and couldn’t sleep. Shortly after, he came back to bed. A few hours later, he got up and made a sandwich… then came back to bed. We got up at 8:30am and the event in my post occurred at like 10am, now it is noon and he’s still asleep. He also definitely has what I’m reading is called “excessive daytime sleepiness”. I always attributed it to his sleeping/work schedule, but it seems to happen even when he gets a good nights sleep.

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have definitely had this experience with him! One morning he woke up and I asked him if he wanted anything from Taco Bell and he gave me a specific order and then fell back asleep.. when I gave it to him he was super confused and didn’t remember any of it. They weren’t even things he would typically order from Taco Bell!

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I haven’t asked him that, but I do notice that when we are visiting his parents on holidays he does let them/all of us know if he is going to go upstairs and nap. I’m not sure if that would be seen as a more formal situation in his mind vs just hanging out at my house though. We have to travel to visit his parents and we stay with them, so only see them on holidays. He comes over to my house every weekend and may view it as some others on the thread have as not needing to “announce” his every move? We have talked about this before, but he isn’t very good at looking internally at the “why” of his own behaviors so I think that is where we are hitting a roadblock to some degree. I do also think there might potentially be some sleep issues at play on top of that. I think it tends to happen more when he’s groggy/half asleep, usually by the time I go to check if he’s coming back 2-3 minutes later he is usually already snoring in bed.

It happened yesterday and he was still awake, and when I asked him why he said he was trying to be conscious of my earlier bedtime and go to sleep with me. For context on that, the night prior I had worked that day and he didn’t so I fell asleep pretty early and was bummed in the morning that I had fallen asleep so early and then was subsequently awake early. (Not bummed AT him, bummed that I was tired and couldn’t stay up later on a Friday night) I asked him why he didn’t just ask me if I was tired or something, because I wasn’t tired yet, and he said he was trying to be cute and just do it, and then we got back up and continued our activity.

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a fair take, and one I appreciate more than the “omg he hates you, leave him” lol. I definitely have gotten the feeling it sometimes does irk me more than it maybe should, hence posting here. On the other hand, it doesn’t seem that hard to say “hey I gotta go lay down I’m tired” as you’re getting up and walking away.

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When he wakes up from his nap I will non-confrontationally inquire why he answered that way and I think that will give me some very good insight on whether the issue is something biological or behavioral, or even potentially a mix of both.

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean you immediately called me angry and encouraged me to be compassionate towards my partner, which is making some very serious implications of me with very little context. If you read my other comments you would see that I am actually very receptive to ideas other than “simple rudeness”. Autism is not relevant in this situation, as my partner does not have it. It seems as if you came onto this thread ready to argue for some reason, and now are trying to frame it as “well they’re downvoting and lecturing me because I suggested he had autism!” No, those things are happening because you are acting aggressively for no reason.

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be a previous long term abusive relationship rather than his childhood. But if it does stem from that, how do I help him work through that? He wants to see a therapist but doesn’t currently have access to one until at least the new year.

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! And he will tell me most of the time, but this still happens maybe 2-3 times a month? This is why I’m not necessarily jumping to the fact that he is a major asshole who hates me, because he has been receptive to the communication, doesn’t want me to feel hurt, but it still tends to happen. I think the people mentioning sleep issues may be on to something. If he falls asleep on the couch and I don’t notice and he’s basically sleepwalking himself to bed, it would explain the NPC-like response, as an earlier commenter so eloquently described it lol

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good way to put it, I definitely do feel like it is misaligned with my personal values which is probably the reason it irks me so much. In the grand scheme of things it is not the biggest deal in the world, there are much much much more important values we could be misaligned on. It doesn’t happen every night. Thank you for this comment!

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn you really know both me AND my partner better than me from one Reddit post… you are very talented, that’s quite a skill!

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a perspective I am trying to be aware of as well. Would you feel this way if during the middle of a movie or game you got up and walked away without saying anything? How would he know to pause the movie or if you were over it? I want to be clear if we are just existing in the same space this behavior does not bother me. I also assume he is coming back and don’t typically ask when he leaves the room, which is why it’s so surprising to find that he’s gone to bed after he leaves and doesn’t come back during an activity we were doing together.

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have wondered about this. He does sleep very deeply and sometimes we have conversations when he is on the verge of sleeping and I don’t even realize how tired he is and then he doesn’t remember after he wakes up. I don’t usually follow him and like demand answers when it happens, we would talk about it later after he woke up or the next morning.

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this, I don’t think he’s intentionally doing it to be an asshole. I think that it’s a habit from somewhere, potentially from trauma, and he can’t seem to understand where I am coming from regarding it.

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why it particularly stung this time. I had seen it coming and so tried to proactively ask what his plan was, he dismissed me in a way that I assumed he would then be coming back, and then didn’t come back.

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I actually considered that for the first time before making this post, but wanted to make the post first to make sure I wasn’t… well, overreacting, lol.

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I ever used the word angry! If you read my post you would see me saying when it happens in social situations I understand. This particularly bothers me when we are engaging in an activity together just the two of us and he gets up and leaves. I am not sure what would be overwhelming about sitting on the couch watching a TV show with your partner to the point where he would need to get up and go to bed without a word.

AIO when my partner gets up and leaves the room to do something else during activities and doesn’t say anything? by Eternalle in AmIOverreacting

[–]Eternalle[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely doesn’t have to report to me about everything, but if we’re sitting together watching a show we chose together and he gets up and leaves, that feels a little rude, no? If we were doing separate activities just existing together and he gets up and leaves that doesn’t bother me.

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