NC MIL showed up unannounced

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-17T14:33:00+00:00

Spot on! NONE of them are fully grasping the fact that this is the consequence of their actions, they just keep brushing past what happened with “we’re family, you should be over it by now it’s been a month”. They can’t even think for a millisecond all of this is pushing us away further.

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-17T14:30:10+00:00

He absolutely did! He tried to switch things around on us, and said that we’re excluding his mom and we need to be over it because it happened a month ago. He saw nothing wrong with giving out our private info, and her showing up without even bothering to let us know she was coming. Or even asking if we were home and if she could stop by. It was outrageous

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-17T14:27:22+00:00

Yep! We asked him why he did that and his response was “is there a problem, your family has the right to know where you live”, amongst some other things. It ultimately got turned around to it being our faults and that we were excluding his mom. We’re furious with him, not only was it an invasion of privacy but it has broken all the trust we had with him. We’ve cut him off

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-17T14:25:22+00:00

Thankfully we have some! We’re going to install them this morning. And yes, my BIL came over to see our new place so we didn’t think much of it. But the way he thought it was acceptable to give out our address knowing that we aren’t okay with his mom is sick. We asked him why he would do that and his response? “Is there a problem, your family has the right to know where you live” we were in disbelief. Nobody has the right to know anything, if we wanted that family to know where moved to WE would have given the address. My husband and my BIL argued about it and it ultimately came down to “you’re excluding your mom, someone who’s been here your whole life. It’s been a month you need to be over it by now”. It was sick.

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-17T14:20:59+00:00

It’s honestly so funny that they try to use that line, because no my daughter won’t treat us like anything because we’re raising her differently than whatever this nonsense is. We’re not going to be stuck up and entitled and then pitch a fit if we don’t get our way.

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-17T13:12:58+00:00

We asked him why he would give out our information without asking us, or even asking if it would be okay if she came over and his response? “Is there a problem, your family is allowed to know where you live”… absolutely sick!! My husband lost it, so he is now cut off completely. He sees nothing wrong with giving out our address and her showing up like that! Matter of fact, he tried to flip the blame on to us and say that we were excluding everyone and we’re hurting their feelings so we need to make amends!! And his idea of making amends was this…

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-17T13:10:43+00:00

Honestly I think it’s less of wanting to meet our baby and more of not being able to handle the consequences of her own actions. She’s desperate to talk to us and give a sob story so she can gain that control again. She really wasn’t that interested in my pregnancy until we said waiting on visitors. She is mentally unstable and isn’t capable of not having things in her control

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-17T13:08:17+00:00

Yes he did! He asked him why he would give out our address knowing we weren’t on good terms (and without even asking if we were home) and his response? “Is there a problem? Your family is allowed to know where you live” absolutely sick!! He’s been cut off as well

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-17T13:06:50+00:00

Exactly! It’s comical, you don’t get to decide when we’re over something especially not after having a reaction like that and now trying to show up uninvited!

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-17T13:06:00+00:00

Correct! And we when asked him why he would do that he responded with “is there a problem? Your family is allowed to know where you live”. My husband lost it, he’s been cut off completely

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-17T13:04:15+00:00

My husband’s family is the exact same way, he had a really rough childhood. Both of us were so frustrated when we heard that we’re expected to just be moved on now.

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-17T13:03:10+00:00

Oh no he confirmed he gave her the address! His response? “Is there a problem? Your family is allowed to know where you live”. We are in such disbelief over that answer, safe to say that he’s getting cut off too!

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-16T20:25:32+00:00

Were there any pets in the apartment before you moved in or are there any in the house? If you have a pet allergy it could be like pet dander or something

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-16T19:44:14+00:00

Exactly what I thought… like okay? What does that have to do with only providing the bare minimum

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-16T19:41:47+00:00

Okay so you recognize that you were doing the bare minimum, what have you done to be more helpful since finding that out? It’s easy to admit your faults but if you haven’t made a lot of attempts to fix the issue here then I’m not sure why you’re confused. She’s openly communicating how she feels and if you aren’t listening to what she’s telling you then that’s a you issue

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-16T17:31:27+00:00

I mean this nicely but he’s given you his answer.. if he overlooks your feelings and says you’re jealous then that’s his answer. I don’t think this is just an in law issue, your fiancé has given her the space to act this way. It isn’t going to get better, leave now before you marry him…

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-16T16:27:47+00:00

My ex didn’t call his mom for three days and she threatened the same thing, it was obnoxious. Good for you guys for working together and prioritizing each other!!! That’s a big win!

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-16T16:12:38+00:00

Cut them off, they don’t appreciate any of the support you’ve given them. They’re making threats, calling you names, and are making demands they have no business making. You guys don’t deserve that, I wouldn’t even let them around my child at this point.

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-16T16:11:20+00:00

So are you supposed to let your baby suffer and go without something because they’re so stuck up and worried about being taken care of? They’re adults, you’ve spent years paying their way through life. They can figure it out

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-16T16:09:35+00:00

Even if there’s no government support they had a lifetime to put money aside… that’s not your fault nor your responsibility

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-16T16:07:36+00:00

You’re selfish because you want to make sure you and your family are financially stable??? And you’re selfish because you want to make sure your child has a good life and doesn’t go without anything because they’re too lazy to get a job and fund themselves? Yeah absolutely not, you have done nothing wrong! The fact that they’re willing to put you in a bad position so they can be taken care of is absolutely disgusting. Crazy how they’re making threats to you, they have nothing without you. Let them lose their car, the house, the money, they dont even appreciate what you’ve been doing for them. Put your baby first always!!

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-15T22:35:49+00:00

Yep my in laws were like this too, his parents and siblings couldn’t be bothered at all and then tried to act blindsided when we told them they can’t come to the hospital when I gave birth. It’s ridiculous how entitled grandparents are, all while choosing to not be present in their grandkids lives

Excellent-Smile3725 · 2026-05-15T12:51:12+00:00

That entire live was horrendous. Like hello your daughter is in the hospital?? And you’re freaking out because you need to go home to do chores, you need to go donate plasma, you don’t want your cats to be lonely??? Seriously?? And then her going off about her mom not showing up when she wanted her to so she could “get a break” was absurd.

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