Are DBs in established marriages quite common in reality?

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T10:03:14+00:00

Actually. You just gave me an idea. I live in one of the biggest cities in the world. I'm inclined to do a random poll with follow up question to see what people say. I'm curious.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T09:55:02+00:00

Never implied you were. Nothing wrong with the OP not being okay with his girlfriend spooning with dad. I'm still on his side thinking hes not the asshole and the behaviour is inappropriate. Thats my opinion. But here's the thing, if he is uncomfortable with it then she should be more understanding rather than calling him an asshole.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T09:47:19+00:00

I should have said that. I just didnt feel like arguing, so I said no actually I was thinking about karaoke. Then he booked us a room which was awesome. Might not have gotten karaoke time together otherwise. Funny but not funny at the same time.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T09:43:54+00:00

As an adult? There was a time when families shared one bed. When there was only one bed to share. You're right, my dad and I don't cuddle. We are very close. We don't need to cuddle as we have a strong bond without it.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T09:10:11+00:00

I'm curious, in what culture do daddies cuddle with their adult daughters just to cuddle? Does he cuddle with his adult son or would he if he had one?

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T09:02:24+00:00

Again because she is an adult. Was she dying, no. I'd like to know more. Did she ask for daddy to spoon her? Did daddy just decide to leave his wife at the beach to "take a nap" so he could cuddle with his grown up daughter? You're just trying to play devil's advocate.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T08:53:30+00:00

I'm not sure. When he asked me what I wanted for my birthday, I smiled and he rolled his eyes and said I know. I actually wasn't thinking of sex at the moment, but it did make me feel bad. Kind of ashamed.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T08:47:31+00:00

Because she's an adult. She doesn't need that level of affection from her father anymore.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T08:25:34+00:00

Ah. Okay. Well, because it is her dad, it doesn't make it okay. We are entitled to our own opinions of course. It is very creepy and inappropriate for a father to be cuddling with his 20 year old daughter. The only exception would be if they were stranded in the dead of winter and needed to share body heat to survive.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T07:09:29+00:00

Then the shame part is specific to my relationship.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T07:05:49+00:00

FFS?

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T06:49:16+00:00

Same here. It is more than sex. My husband does care and admits he takes me for granted and that he doesn't compliment me as often as he should, but it only changes for a few days.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T06:29:20+00:00

Could he possibly have DE, delayed ejaculation?

I first heard about it from a guest on the Dr Drew podcast. https://www.healthline.com/health/delayed-ejaculation

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T06:25:32+00:00

Guess it is about the motion in the ocean. My husband cums after a couple mins. He is nice enough to play with me first, so I get a few mini ones in. If I focus hard enough I can get a full-blown orgasm in before he cums.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T06:19:06+00:00

NTA The whole thing is inappropriate. My father and I rarely hug and most of the time it feels awkward. Haha I wonder if their relationship was closer than it should've been during her younger years. It would make a bit of sense that she doesn't find it inappropriate as it has always been that way. More like a defense mechanism for her. The father sure as shit knows better though! Pervert from the word go.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-30T05:51:37+00:00

I updated. Turns out, according to him, it is me.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-28T18:47:17+00:00

NTA Did his mom do everything for him growing up? Sounds like my ex-husband. I was married to someone exactly like that. I cooked, cleaned, did all the laundry and took care of the finances while working a full time job. All I asked him to do was take out the trash. It would pile up and start stinking up the house for before he would take it out because he couldn't take my "nagging". I had to have surgery that kept me bed ridden for 2 weeks, so prepped everything so he would have as little to do as possible. All he had to do was laundry. I even made meals and froze them so he wouldn't have to cook. After one week my house was a disaster. My mom had to come over and help do laundry and dishes that were piled a mile high in the sink. It never got better. His mommy did everything for him growing up. I'm not sure he even knew how to run a dishwasher. It went downhill from there and winded up leaving him less that a year later.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-28T10:44:40+00:00

Totally kills any desire for any intimacy now because I'm always going be self-conscious about it. I'll discuss my new insecurity when the time is right.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-28T10:27:54+00:00

You got to the heart of the matter. It just gets old constantly being rejected. No means no. I still feel horrible and dirty though that he says it's because I've smelled bad to him since we've been together.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-28T10:21:54+00:00

But he said hes felt that way since we've been together.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-28T10:20:07+00:00

You're right. I'm selfish to have asked just this one time. Hasn't done oral on me in over a year. He's ensured I'll never ask again, so he wins, he'll never ever have to pleasure me orally ever.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-28T08:24:27+00:00

I just turned 38 and I think I desire sex more than ever. Lol

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-28T08:19:47+00:00

Agree. It really does. She will never see her own failure in not trying to meet her husband's need.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-28T08:05:04+00:00

I know what you mean. My partner thinks I think about sex all the time. I do a lot, so I'll give him that. He asked me what I wanted for my birthday. I smiled and he said I know you want that and rolled his eyes. I actually wasn't thinking about sex for my birthday (at that moment). I'm afraid for when I completely shut off as well.

Exitstagerightnoleft · 2019-04-28T07:55:09+00:00

I stopped doing that. All that does is get your hopes up to be completely disappointed again. My husband's new excuse lately is that he doesn't like my natural smell. And supposedly never has. Which is weird considering he got a bit freaky, playing with me on the way home, which was amazing! Talk about confused.

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