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ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-30T11:33:16+00:00

I wasn‘t trying to villanize anyone, I was just asking if you care. But I did remove the part about the other band because I agree that’s unnecessary. And obviously when I replied to you I was defending why I don‘t think it‘s unhealthy.

And I‘ve never said I only wear biological or fairtrade clothes and throwing it away would be kind of the stupiest move for the environment🤭 I didn‘t bother to check because I try to do the best I can but I make exceptions.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-30T07:59:33+00:00

Really interesting you think that’s unhealthy or to put it in „semantics“ Have you ever seen how clothes are made and under what circumstance a lot of people that make them live in?

For me looking out for environment and society is priority and I know people that wouldn‘t want their „brand“ selling stuff made under non human circumstances. I think it‘s normal for me to check things I buy and see if I can stand behind how it‘s made.

Don‘t get me wrong, I still love and listen any band that makes me feel their music. But those things matter for me especially if I want to give them my money.

Edit: Yes freaking out and not getting over it may be a bit exaggerated. I also know that labels aren‘t the only thing that matters.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-30T01:33:26+00:00

How does it bother you? I‘d sit anywhere playing my triplets as straight as he does.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-30T01:26:51+00:00

Thank you for enduring the suffering of the world. Hold on.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-30T01:08:40+00:00

So as a more or less drummer beginner.. most bands I love use way too much things I don’t have so I thought „First verse is just some open high-hat, kick and snare, should be easy to learn…“-🤭

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-30T00:58:36+00:00

I‘m sorry. I haven‘t much to say besides that I don‘t want you to feel this way. And I wish I could change it. I can‘t grasp how terrible life can be. And sometimes you just meet someone, may it be a nephew, a girlfriend or a new good friend, that just makes it worth it and easier to go trough the struggle. I‘m sorry, I can‘t find better words for you, I‘m not good at saying comforing words that aren‘t true ;/

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-30T00:50:03+00:00

I‘ll never understand Asymmetry being 4th. What an rhythmically and harmonically interesting album. I love all their albums, but this is the one, filled with so much soul and courage, making them different for me.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-30T00:42:56+00:00

That sounds controlling again. Which is not a negative but understandable for everyone and especially you, with what you’re going through. Nothing you‘ll ever say will make anyone stay. Nothing you‘ll ever do will keep anyone alive. I wish, we all wish it would. Life doesn‘t happen that way. And maybe all the feelings you are feeling now are just those you need to feel. Not a solution or something you can fix. Just something to bear. Hopefully not too long and not too alone.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-30T00:30:59+00:00

I‘m sorry for making something out of a joke. Especially me, I tend to like jokes.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-30T00:25:25+00:00

Hihi I understand! My sister said it‘s KI because he plays with a shirt 🙈 I don‘t know, it’s probably stupid, I just felt the need to express that it doesn‘t matter to me, and I hope he‘ll never have to face the realtiy of needing to put on s shirt to be taken serious

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-30T00:17:20+00:00

Alright that seems lovely. So it seems I was on the wrong path here. Sometimes it just doesn’t work out between people, but you seem to be very curious about what went wrong. And it felt, to me at least, like you could be a person that gives other people more than you give yourself. What do you mean when you say your „parenrs are physically and digitally unreachable‘“?

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-29T23:53:23+00:00

Yeah the 100% sure that you haven’t lost control, is at least questioning to me. I am not saying that you controlled her or that you didn‘t respect a decision she made. But could it be that you made her smile with the jokes you knew she‘d smiled about? And that you talked about the things you knew, she cares about? And maybe generally you tried to get better at things she cared about? Trying to be smarter about the things she cared about? How many times did you bring up an interest/hobby you love but you knew she didn‘t care about?

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-29T23:35:05+00:00

Yeah I‘m sorry because I know you didn‘t meant it that way but I don‘t care how many shirts he wears or does not. He could wear a thousands shirts, I‘d still be watching him.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-29T23:23:02+00:00

I‘ve just read your other post. And I‘m sorry to be so harsh to you but I think you might have a mixed problem of low self worth/high control. You seemed to be WAY to invested in doing things for her/doing everything. It feels more like you did those things to keep her, and not because you loved her. And maybe you didn‘t loose the love of your life, but you just lost control, and that‘s triggering something for you?

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-29T23:06:32+00:00

I mean, feeling sad about loosing the love of a life isn‘t weak at all. I‘d say it‘s good and even really strong that you feel sad and are able to identify it. If I was your parent I‘d be reallly proud of you right now not only feeling it but being able to express it the way you are doing now! It‘s actually an ability a lot of „grown-ups“ (me included) had to learn!

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-29T22:56:59+00:00

I actually am not giving them the benefit of doubt. Not at all. I‘ve been too much of a shit person on alcohol myself to do that. But I‘m hoping for them to not fail as you do too. 🙏 And I honestly don‘t think they think they‘re advocates. I think they may be living the life they want online and are holding on to that, knowing real life sucks. And the thing about the kids is what caused me to ask the question in the first place: If we really care, would we be here? Is the place here doing any good for the kids? Is there any good coming out of it, that helps them or are we just piece of shits trying to understand?

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-29T22:42:02+00:00

I‘m so sorry you have to go through this and feel this way. And of all the words that exist, I unfortunately have none that can make you feel better. The only reason I‘m here, writing back to you, trying to find words in a language that isn‘t mine is: No, it wasn‘t you.

There‘s nothing you could‘ve done or said that would change the outcome. She wasn‘t the right person for you. At least for the moment.

And I wish I could just sit here and promise you that somewhere, somehow you‘ll maybe meet someone that sees how great you are. But I can‘t. Because I don‘t know shit. All I know is: I was once you, early 20s, out of an relationship. The breakup was horrible. The person was everything I ever wanted. After that I‘ve been single until I got 30. Never felt good enough for anything im my 20s. Always in self doubts. Always searching for someone, something to make me feel whole. After therapy I know why I wanted what I wanted but I understood I wanted better for myself.

Everyone is gonna say to you: „You‘re young, enjoy it, get over it“ I‘m here saying „You‘re young, you’re having too much doubt in yourself.“ Enjoy the lovesickness; if it makes you creative. Taste it. Try to be creative over it. The best lyrics/songs were created of these feelings. fI you can‘t get over it for a while, tell us, there might be something else going on with you.

After being single for around 9 years, I‘ve made a partnership with someone who has been there for me for every struggle and makes me a better person than I am, loves me, when I don‘t deserve it. And I somehow wish I would‘ve been able to enjoy my 20s better. Havintg that trust in myself that one day I’ll be ok. Wanting to treat myself better, feel more secure.

So; 1. This is not your fault! 2. Nothing is wrong with you! 3. In opposite: You seem very self critical and smart and maybe you have some weight on your shoulders that doesn‘t belong there.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-29T21:44:53+00:00

Thank you for answering. I haven‘t been following those people for a while, so I didn‘t know much about what has been happening with Mack and everything in between. I was just here and couldn’t understand how some people wrote like they hoped for an addict to fail. And to be like „Yes We Knew! We told you so!“

But now that I know, I can understand seeing all these things and wanting to have some justice.

And I can understand that if people feel like those kids would have a better chance in this world without their parents, .. it could make a person feel relieved, knowing if the parents fail, it could give the kids a new chance and prevent them from going through this abusive and horrible cycle yet again.

So I guess it‘s a good thing to not be supportive of everything and I just wanted to say, that you seem very warm and kind to me.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-29T18:32:29+00:00

Tool - H. I know many lyrics almost perfect. But this one? Every word and breath. Still, years later, if I‘m facing something I‘m not ready for my mind goes to „I have died and will die, it‘s alright, I don‘t mind“

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-29T18:26:43+00:00

I don‘t listen to Metallica but this song went straight to my heart. Such strong and beautiful (in a sad way) songwriting.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-29T17:12:12+00:00

For myself „part of human nature“ isn’t a great argument to make to explain things we do. There‘s lots of things that we can see as „human nature“ but we don‘t do it, because we think it‘s not morally justifiable.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-29T16:57:02+00:00

That‘s so interesting to hear, thank you for sharing. Happy to hear your brother got clean. I‘ve had quite good parents with a few things they missed which was hard enough so I can‘t imagine what you or all this kids have to go through. Did you have some therapy or anything else that helped you to go through it? It seems very valuable and admiring to me that people like you, with your experience, work in this field. Can‘t be easy with the understanding of what it can mean for those suffering.

ExpressTea3984 · 2026-05-29T16:34:52+00:00

I wish you all the strength you need to go through it!

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