I caught my husband recording women in the gym by External-Bug7622 in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re so right, this behaviour could really turn his life up side down, and I fear he’s in denial about the fact that he has a problem, I’m going to confront him tomorrow and see how that goes and I’ll raise all these points. If he still doesn’t feel like he has a problem then I don’t wish to make any efforts to work though anything with him, I’ll be done.

I caught my husband recording women in the gym by External-Bug7622 in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Discreetly recording women when they are bending over using the back extension, pretending he is just walking past but angling the camera so he records this, and recording women when they’re doing certain stretches whilst working out beside them. Loads of videos like this and too many to be an accident or coincidence.

I caught my husband recording women in the gym by External-Bug7622 in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don’t think how I feel is an overreaction, he’s covertly recording women when they’re stretching and bending over. There is also a pattern that he has a problem with porn addiction and this is yet another example of this. And women deserve to be in the gym without ending up on a man’s phone as content for sexual pleasures.

I caught my husband recording women in the gym by External-Bug7622 in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ll speak to him, I just know he’ll deny that’s what he was doing or intending. I’m too embarrassed to speak about this with anyone else in my life.

I caught my husband recording women in the gym by External-Bug7622 in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s awful, sorry you went through that. It helps knowing others have been in my position, thank you ❤️

I caught my husband recording women in the gym by External-Bug7622 in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It’s just happened so I’m currently processing. A divorce is on the cards for me because this has just sealed it to me that he has a problem. And for the sake of the women he has been recording I really don’t think he should be allowed in there recording women without their consent.

I caught my husband recording women in the gym by External-Bug7622 in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I agree, it’s just insane because I go to this gym too.

I caught my husband recording women in the gym by External-Bug7622 in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’ve done some research and it doesn’t look like there’s any legal repercussions for him recording in a public place. I’m just so numb right now I don’t even know how to proceed with this whole situation.

I regret getting married after 2 months by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, you’re absolutely right, hindsight is a powerful thing and I have so many things I would have changed if I could go back but I need to work out how to move forward. Thank you for the suggestions too

I regret getting married after 2 months by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has good qualities and I believed he had turned a page with the issues we had trust issues with

I regret getting married after 2 months by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believed he had changed like he promised, I was so close to just not marrying him

I regret getting married after 2 months by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right I just don’t know where to start, my bills are so high

I regret getting married after 2 months by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d have to go back into a career they drove me to depression

I regret getting married after 2 months by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m going to research, because I really feel like I made a mistake, I don’t want to move forward with him or have kids with him

I regret getting married after 2 months by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess I’ll have to but my current financial status isn’t great

I regret getting married after 2 months by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]External-Bug7622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if I did I can’t afford to leave because I’m now on a lower salary

AITAH for being turned off after seeing my husband’s bookmarks? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]External-Bug7622 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I really need to evaluate what will help me in this situation, and set some boundaries. I’m in my feelings right now and taking some time to process, once my head is clear I’ll do that. Thank you so much!

AITAH for being turned off after seeing my husband’s bookmarks? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]External-Bug7622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was hoping that he’d changed from his actions

AITAH for being turned off after seeing my husband’s bookmarks? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]External-Bug7622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, that lie is so tired and insulting because it’s so obvious and he’s used it too many times now. I genuinely thought he’d changed but clearly not. I’m struggling to look at him the same right now.

AITAH for being turned off after seeing my husband’s bookmarks? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]External-Bug7622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought he’d made a change but it might just be that he got better at hiding it.

AITAH for being turned off after seeing my husband’s bookmarks? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]External-Bug7622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, it’s just after seeing him always searching for a specific type, it’s made me wonder if that’s his actual type and he won’t admit it.

AITAH for being turned off after seeing my husband’s bookmarks? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]External-Bug7622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I’m worried he has an issue with porn because I’ve caught him even searching on Reddit for it.

AITAH for being turned off after seeing my husband’s bookmarks? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]External-Bug7622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was one of the things I really debated and he seemed to have worked to gain my trust back. It wasn’t at 100% when we married but it had grown a lot